Why People Pleasing is Hurting You | Salma Hindy | TEDxUofT
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Since I stopped being a people pleaser, I have a lot less friends. These people were never my friends but taking advantage off me. Glad they are no longer in my life.
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She's an Engineer but she speaks like a psychologist. Thoroughly enjoyed it. Thank you!
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I am a people pleaser. What I have noticed is that people are impossible to please. Most people's standards are not fixed. One minute something is good and the next minute it is not good. I am learning to break free from that.
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Her voice is from millions of girls, that needed to be heard, it brought tears to my eyes, I relate so much to her. Thanks TED
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People pleasing is like an addiction to avoid being disapproved by someone.
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My name is Krystal Wallace and I am a people pleaser. This is my first step admitting that I have a problem.
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Killing it in two male dominated professions. Brava!
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She is so RIGHT! I am a PEOPLE- PLEASER !! This is my road to recovering and freedom.
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The bravery in this talk is so powerful. Only those who can relate to the struggle of codependency can understand the roughness in her voice as she breaks free LIVE on stage in front of those present, online, and her parents. I cannot imagine that Salma's conversations with her parents after this talk were easy. But that's what 'killing it' costs. May we all 'Kill it'! Thank you, Salma.
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"Why live out of fear when you can live it out of intent?" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😭😭
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People pleasing is not a good way to lead life. You are in constant need of validation from others and never gain the self-confidence to own your success or failure. We remain weak and under confident all our lives.
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I learned that teaching people beats pleasing people hands down.
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The problem with being a people pleaser is that it’s trying to hit a moving target. Every favor leads to another. It’s never enough. It’s never appreciated because it quickly becomes your role. The norm. Instead of being “a favor” or a courtesy, it becomes an expectation, a necessity, an obligation. When you get to that point, it’s hard to go back, and you will likely lose friends and relationships when you change the dynamic so drastically. It’s hard but necessary to become your true self.
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People-pleasing can also source from narcissistic abuse mine formed from my parents. I finally stopped this self destructive behavior and learned to say NO. Im friendless and family-less but I found my boundaries and we’ve been together ever since my first NO!
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"we are terrified of our failures, but we are even more terrified of our success" i never thought something would resonate with me more
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"I don't know what I want, from my urge to people please" (12:55). . . "when you disappoint those you love, you are constantly faced with a lot of doubt" (15:22). . . "people pleasing is not noble" (15:33). . . "people pleasing comes from an underlying emotion of fear. . . why live life out of fear, when you can live it out of intent?" (16:43)
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"People-pleasing comes from codependency, comes from an underlying emotion of fear."
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“I text it to myself from an unknown number” LMFAO i loooove you already. Also, I think your culture and Latin culture is VEEEERRRRYYY SIMILAR
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I am miserable right now, feeling like I let people down even though I did everything right. I appreciated this video and think she had a lot of good ideas.
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We live in a world where people understand and accept unkind behaviours, but kindness is inconceivable! Go where you are celebrated and not underrated!
