Are you a People Pleaser? | Ms. Rinku Sawhney | TEDxIITIndore
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Published 2019-01-03
In this talk, she delivers an eye-opening speech and touches the fine line between being kind and a people pleaser by sharing examples from her own life. Rinku is a Social Impact Entrepreneur, a Personal Excellence & Mind-shift Coach. She has co-founded Elevated Minds, which is a start-up committed to help people rise above mediocrity and become the masters of their own lives.
Over 5000 people have experienced Rinku’s signature live events. Her work has enabled people to get clarity and identify roadblocks, that have held them back from achieving success. Rinku firmly believes that each and every human is unique and special and that we are all born to be successful. She is also the author of an upcoming book, “My Life; I Decide”. In her own small way, Rinku believes in impacting the world and leaving it a slightly better place. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
All Comments (21)
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"Don't be afraid of losing people, be afraid of losing yourself."
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“By saying yes to the world, i was saying no to myself.”
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Your “yes” will have lot more value if you learn the art of saying “no” ❤️
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The moral is be good , be loyal , kind , loving , caring but start doing all these with yourself first .
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Today I realized , I'm not being kind to people ...I'm a people pleaser.. thanks mam ..for the happy realization😃
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This is one of the best speech on people pleasing one can find
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Start treating yourself with love and respect ... Don't be afraid of loosing people be afraid of loosing yourself ..... Thank you mam
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I feel happy that people speak about these issues openly ...but at the same time Im sad that this 'message ' conveyed by her only reaches a small % of population. .....this should reach the majority!
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Really she is right. wen U extra nice to people, then they started ignoring you
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I too have faced similar challenges. When I realised that people pleasing doesn't really make me happy, I stopped doing it. My mother was a people pleaser and expected me to be the same. I suffered and learned from my mistake. I like your honest revelation. I can relate to you.
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It seems that someone is narrating my emotions. This video has changed my life. Thank you Mam.
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I'm having the habbit of people pleaser, it's a syndrome,it's a disease which I carried on throughout my life,thank you mam for your valuable speach now I feel I was born and take my life in to a new way,
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Congratulations on overcoming all the issues and getting to be comfortable with who you are, and not what people want you to be!
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People Pleasing Syndrome - Finally I got a good name to address my nature. Thank you Rinku. I am amazed by both your language and the core subject of the speech. I wouldn't say from today onward I am gonna change this habit. Because its not a habit. This nature is the most deep rooted one which we cant easily have a good control on unless we are aware of it throughout the time we deal with people. Actually, the first challenge is to hear what really our heart says. The truth our heart wants is so subtle that we have to be in peace to hear the true demand of our heart. Its an Art to say NO when it is required because first of all knowing what we want itself is a challenge as we are implanted with this nature for decades since our birth. However, towards excellence is the mission of life and let us learn the art asap without losing hope. Cheers my dear guys over there with PPS.
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One of the best Ted talks I've come across so far, This is definitely going to help so many including me to get out of this people pleasing syndrome.
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I'm here in 2024 and so glad I listened to this TED talk! Such an eye opener and enlightening too, for me the people pleaser and enabler. Rinku is such a blessing.
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Order people. Dont please anyone in life except our parents. Not even our partner or kids. No one is forever everyone flys at one stage. Just please your parents who love you infinitely.
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I never comment on any video.. This is the first time because mam your story has really compelled me to do so.. Don't be afraid of loosing people be afraid of loosing yourself ☺aapne aankhein khol di aaj .. Thank you so much mam
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One thing I realised through her is that it's so important to acknowledge our flaws and work on them. Letting go of the idea that we're perfect and the issue lies with the world. But the truth is we attract what we are !
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Thank you Rinku, imagine it had taken me 3 decades to find you, i have always had a feeling that one day someone would come along and give me the answers to the problems i have been facing in my life. Now i feel liberated and happy. Kindly visit more and more people and give them this messenger. It is liberating. Thank you.
