Isolation is the dream-killer, not your attitude | Barbara Sher | TEDxPrague

Since quitting my music degree almost two years ago, I have been in I guess voluntary isolation. I see people moving on, building their lives, getting married... and here I am in this same room. People need people. And I think it's high time that I go and get my people.

R.I.P Barbara Sher - 14 August 1935 – 10 May 2020. You will be missed ✨

Having met her, I think she is one of the most exquisite humans around. After a talk, she stayed on stage until the last person had a chance to speak with her. She is brilliant. Her books are seminal.

I've been in extreme isolation for years. And the longer it goes on the worse it gets. I'm so disconnected from humanity.

Personally, it's been a very solitary existence. Lots of shame, guilt and fear of asking for help. Time to turn that battleship around.

Practice this without a group, in everyday life. Imagine, when meeting new people you ask, what is your dream and whats stopping you from attaining it? Basically asking, what can I help you with? But instead almost everyone asks, What do you do for a living? Which I feel is just another way of saying, how can you help me?

Incredibly important message. It's hard because the more isolated you become, the harder it is to reach out. I've been isolated for 15 years and it has taken this long to appreciate that I am dying of neglect. No one can understand what it's like when no one knows whether you are alive or dead or cares.

“Even if people don’t like you, they’ll solve yiur problem” Love it!!

My favorite quote from her is: Don´t let it stop you if going after your dream may take a long time to get there - the time will pass anyway :-)

I wish there was a talk show host that had this mindset, imagine that - getting a big crowd together and just solving audience members obstacles on the spot. That'd be so entertaining and inspirational to watch.

“Every time you make someone else’s dream come true, it echoes… “

The common attitude in her stories are being genuine.

Isolation is helpful for discovering your dream. People are helpful for making it happen

So: name your dream, then name the obstacle and let people know about both. I like this woman. She's really on to something.

I wasn’t sure whether I should “waste” my time on a 21 minute video which will probably say the same thing as all the other success oriented videos, but my God! this is an absolutely wonderful video filled with such precious stories and emotions. It really inspired me and one comment also said that this would make for a great movie, and I agree so much! Thank you Barbara Sher! Thank you❤️✨

She's right. In case you're alone, a good church, a positive work environment or an active charity organization are potential communities that might offer these type of relationships.

This should be adapted into a movie. It would be so heartwarming.

I looked up this woman. Only to find she died on May 10th 2020 at 84 years old. What a legacy ❤️

The ending story made me cry. The woman's scared daughter being stalked by ex-husband was me. I was attending college not really knowing what I'd do with the Marketing degree. Fast forward 20 later, I return to school realizing I was born to be a teacher after substitute teaching for a year. That last story of yours really woke me up to what I want and need to do. Finish my second degree in Elementary Education/Integrated Science. I really needed to hear this!! Now, who to turn to with my deepest wish when I'm now 63 years old. But, have the dreams and heart of a much younger woman.

In Zulu we say, engakhali ifela embelekweni. This means a child that does not cry dies in the cradle. You need to speak up so that you can be helped. One of the best Ted Talks I've seen, thank you Ms Barbara ❤