The Dangers of Divorcing a Narcissist with Demetria Graves | Season 2; Ep 4

I filed after 20 years without telling him. It was cut and dry because we didn’t have nothing to fight for. I walked away with nothing but my peace & sanity. I’m so glad I finally got the strength to do it. I’ve been Free for 8 months

The abrupt realization that you put so much investment and time in someone who never cared for you is tough

At the end of my 3 year divorce from a Covert Narcissist, the Judge "suggested" at the end of her written ruling that I could potentially sue the other side for legal fees due to "non-cooperation". I did & I was awarded 1/3 of my attorney fees.

They don't just want to "WIN!" They want to hurt-&-harm!

It’s taken me a year and a half to work up almost all the courage I need to file. I’m terrified, financially dependent and doing this alone while trying to maintain sobriety. I hope that my freedom will be worth the horrors I am facing in this divorce.

14 years married, 17k 9 month divorce. My ex was a narcissist in every way. He just text me yesterday relitigating the divorce 3 years later because he lost big. Thankful for full custody of my 2 kids. This was such an interesting podcast. My divorce cost me everything but freedom is priceless.

I read this online in a poster: When a narcissist loses was control over you, they will control what others think of you. 18 years 8 months and 7 days and I got out. Have no home I am on every housing list and I came to survive in the middle of winter. All that being said... my life is better than any day of that 18 years 8 months and 7 days.

I can’t even divorce my narcissist I just feel like death might be the only way out. Can’t afford to leave I’ll lose what little I have and yet nothing means anything to me. He is the hardest person I’ve ever dealt with in my life. I just don’t even know what to do at this point. Too depressed to make plans to leave too depressed to look for extra work or want to work a second job to stay steady on my feet. It’s hell. I haven’t had a clear mind in years and nobody understands except the people who’ve maybe gone through this. It’s the strangest thing to ever deal with then having to deal with the trauma in your head.

19 year marriage 8 year court battle $600,000 my legal fees Despite this, leaving was absolutely the best decision! My recommendation is gather as much documentary evidence in the year before leaving. Stay strong and stand firm on your truth!

It's literally fighting with the devil. Lord help us in Jesus name.

My ex husband was such a narcissist, he enrolled a law degree in the middle of a divorce (which is now in its 5th year). In the beginning, he was hiring barristers and then realised that he is "cleverer" than them, i.e. they were so "stupid" they couldn't convince judges to believe his lies. Let me also say that he already has a degree in electrical engineering and has had a lucrative career in IT. He has abused every venue of appeal and even applied to the European Court of human rights. He didn't want to pay child maintenance so the children had to endure a DNA test. When the children and I left unbearable hell of family home in a shelter, he changed the locks and rented the house to three young women (living there with him). We managed to kick him out. God gives me strength to deal with this freak and I can't wait to see how he is going to deal with him in the end. People, especially women need to be educated to spot a narcissist from a mile. They are a plague to a human race. I am so glad I left him, it is priceless.

Let them feel they’re in control, play them at their own game, let them think they’re winning.

This is such important information. I am now divorced after 36 years of marriage to a difficult narcissist. Thankfully my attorney was upfront about going to court telling me that only the attorneys would win. My attorney said my ex was the most difficult person she had dealt with in her long career. The Narc-Ex had a replacement for me before I even left the home and my children learned of his new wife on Facebook (his go-to for supply) My "settlement" ended up being a fraction of the 1/2 it should have been & my physical and mental health suffered as did the health of my adult children. It was a nightmare, but I am free. Still lots of rumination about the new woman in the home I made even so far as wearing the clothing I had to leave behind when I covertly left. Please keep educating people including attorneys and judges.

What to do when the narcissistic spouse has made you so isolated that there is no support system? They have 100% financial control. And your reputation is ruined

I file for divorce after 37 years with a Narcissist it was easy he didn’t respond to the serve so I was happy our children were adults so it took 7 months and I was free as a bird

I’ve been divorcing a malignant narcissist for almost 5 years. Even hardened judges have a hard time seeing that they are dealing with a sick person.

Ms. Graves really knows her stuff and YES the courts are absolutely slanted toward narcs. Poor children and women who are not being served justice.

Experienced divorce attorney here. (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). An ounce of prevention (vetting very carefully before getting married, or staying single) is the safest way to proceed in any relationship. Great video! Stay safe out there!

Really great but triggering. I will say premarital counseling is such a laughable suggestion. If marriage counseling is a bad idea with a narcissist, what do you think premarital counseling will do? I went through premarital counseling with my ex narcissist. I think it was just the perfect venue for more love bombing and future faking, and gave him the complete playbook on how to manipulate me since I was actually being honest.

I have been a divorce attorney for 40 years and this is the best discussion on narcissistic divorces...really great...