The EARLY WARNING SIGNS You're Dating A Narcissist & How They FOOL YOU! | Dr. Ramani

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Narcissists don’t get better. They get worse and worse. When you see what they are, plan quietly and run.

When you are called "too sensitive" that IS gaslighting, period - it is an attempt to invalidate your experience. Everyone is allowed to feel whatever they want, to be as sensitive as they want. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you are too anything!

My ex-husband yelled, “What about you? What about what you did?” What I did was react to his bad behavior in the relationship.

Empaths need to be super wary of narcissists because they are manipulative takers that take advantage of kind empathic givers.

One clear behaviour is that when they hurt you they tell you that you are overreacting and emotional and turn it around and act like they are the victim because of how you reacted.

common trait of narcissism both male and female is they are quick to mock and pinpoint people's physical flaws! This really enrages me to the core.

I’m in middle of trying to escape my malignant narcissist husband. The abuse is terrible, especially when he makes everyone think you’re crazy. I don’t care anymore if ppl think i’m nuts, i getting out and not looking back.

Narcissists think that they are never wrong. They think that the issue or issues are always someone else. They will never give in. So, if you have a tendency to self reflect and think that it could possibly be your fault, you will always take the blame and the responsibility., they will push the blame to you.Then the cycle begins. They blame and you take all of the responsibility. So sad. This breaks us down. It breaks down our boundaries and our self esteem.

Once you survive narcissistic abuse you can survive anything 💯. Set your boundaries and NEVER allow someone to disrespect you. ❤ Mine was a religious malignant and the key was moving too fast, pushing and overly sensitive to criticism or given a NO. If someone reacts badly to a no or disagreement from you but says you are their soulmate from the beginning stages RUN. This 3 month relationship had me in therapy for a year because of the mind F of it. Do YOUR inner work.

One thing I weirdly love about Dr. Ramani is how her hair is always kind of a mess. It feels comfortable to me in a way, like you're talking to a wise aunt who just woke up but you're her #1 priority to help.

"Secure people don't lash out constantly at others"

“Education about Narcissism is so important”🎯🎯🎯💜

Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

Set boundaries. If they break them with no regard to your feeling then there ya go !

The part about how the narcissist’s motivation for change is because of their own emptiness versus the hurt they caused someone else is huge!!!

"A good way of putting it, is not sensitive to criticism; they are hyper reactive to criticism" @ 14:40

Dr. Ramani is EVERYTHING!!!!!! She helps so many people who have or are experiencing narcissistic abuse. She has created a safe space for people to be heard. And she gives us so much information about the red flags to watch out for. I adore her!!!!❤️

The narcissistic trap is really confusing because when you are not aware of it, it makes you act in weird ways, too. Finally, you see that you do not like yourself at all in that relationship. It, at last, should be a reason to leave.

I've come to call dealing with my past narcissists watering a dead tree ...