CIA Spy: "Psychopaths & Manipulators TARGET This Type Of Woman!" (Spot A Con Man)| Andrew Bustamante

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

Words tell you nothing. Consistent actions tell you everything.

Women love attention! In my experience with several narcissists in pursuit of me, they are very consistent in the beginning—trying to see you or contact you everyday! Consistency does wonders in capturing a woman’s heart. The love bombing feels good and their goal is to get you in bed so you can have a soul tie with them and be stuck with them. That part never works because I am abstinent until marriage. Sometimes I don’t even have to reveal this. I just blocked another narcissist after two weeks of their crazy nonsensical behavior! I took a liking to the “good” things about him but it’s not worth my sanity dealing with someone that’s broken. Never settle ladies. You deserve a healthy relationship with a healthy man!

This is why I teach my sons and daughters to take their time with potential romantic interests. Keep your distance for quite a while. Enjoy their company but reserve yourself while you deliberately observe them in many situation.

After a relationship with a narcissist and then a sociopath, never again will I fall for a con man. The man I have now is the best.

Slow roll all relationships! Narcs don’t have a long attention span and their grandiosity won’t allow themselves to be a pursuer for too long as it’s ego insulting to them. They’ll move on and show you who they are.

My ex-husband ran off because I told him "no" too many times, asserted my boundaries, and figured he was full of crap. I trusted him until his stories didn't match, so I tracked him and ran a background on him. Then filed for divorce, just when he thought he could crawl back thinking I would be begging for his love. I must be a different kind of woman. I saw my dad be dishonest to his mom, my mom's, and his ex-wives and girlfriends. Once I catch dishonesty, I am going to do a background on patterns. The lesson learned here, is to do the background first before you get serious in a relationship. It's a big time and money saver.

Once you break my trust, you won't get it again. Period.

Vulnerability is beautiful, but when a guy gets mad because you’re not vulnerable that’s a huge red flag go run. If this person doesn’t understand that maybe you’ve been hurt badly and you need to go slow then they’re not worth your time.

I've started telling people to remember that humans are the worst predators I've known, and they should be treated accordingly. I've left a marriage of over 35 to a grandiose narcissist that literally almost killed me, whether by threat, situation or so much stress it almost ended me and I am very leery of people now.

Yep....i lost my 14 yr career, home of 14 yrs and relationship with my son effected horribly.... i try to forgive myself everyday...and am praying for a financial miracle to rebuild

I use a relationship worksheet. I write down the pros and cons of the relationship. Are the pros consistent? Then I ask these questions: 1. What are some of the red flags that you noticed from the beginning?. 2. Why did you ignore it.? 3. What do you want to do now? 4. What will it cost you if you stay? 5. How does this person make you feel? 6. How did this relationship end? Keep these worksheets and review them so that you can correct the pattern.

I grew up in a family full of narcissists and sociopaths, once I see a trait that is in any way recognizable of this type, I will have nothing to do with them. Thank goodness I've never personally gotten involved with these creatures, myself but I have seen the damage they do. Surround yourself with good people and you will be happy.

Every vulnerable person, regradless of his/her age or gender, needs to watch this extremely important, informative content in the name of self-protection.

It has taken me an entire lifetime to stop blaming a 'bad picker' and instead understand there are so many manipulators and conmen out there - and to make it my whole business to never give the benefit of the doubt when dealing with the unknown and humans - I'm not talking about being paranoid. I'm talking about understanding many people just do not approach life and have standards such as mine and I must be keenly aware that the vast majority will not be for me. Time and time again I was astonished at how I ended up with a relationship where the person was someone I could not/should not - be with - to my detriment - and that there was very little that was benefiting me - and where all the benefit was coming from me

I needed to hear this ….. I was missing my ex and I started to remember how horrible he actually was !!!

Remember, there is no such thing as "ex CIA"...

ps, as an enfj i have fallen into the trap of trusting people who did nothing to earn the trust.

This is excellent. This is what the public dialogue needs right now—CIA level intelligence about liars and conartists.

Lisa I've watched almost every single podcast from Andrew on youtube. You not only asked him the most unique questions ive heard him be asked, but also asked questions that i feel he genuinely saw as good questions he enjoyed engaging in. Absolutely great work.