The Signs of a Doomed Relationship | Esther Perel

I believe that this wonderful, beautiful, intelligent lady, is one of the most interesting people I’ve ever listened to.

Bored silly with 99% of the self help gurus/their repetitive pablum, Ms. Perel is so refreshing and wise; her guidance is practical and inspiring, her depth of knowledge is platinum & highest grade diamonds, in its rarity & priceless value.💖

She takes an Anthropology approach to intimate relationships. She knows 9 languages & very European in cultural style. Americans need more therapists like her!!

45:45 addresses the issue of when to end the relationship

Thank you Esther, in one podcast, you’ve pinpointed and helped me see the reasons behind my marital fights. Esther = all fights are for power & control, respect & validation, and care & kindness.

The advice your guest gives is related to partners who are decent people. My partner of 11 years has turned out NOT to be decent. I treated him all along as if he was a decent person, e.g. giving him freedom to go & meet friends, take trips abroad alone, etc. because i believed that sort of freedom to be healthy in a relationship. He had at least one affair that I know of, over a 2 year period. He met the person during those hours of freedom. I realise now that it was a mistake to trust that he was capable of being faithful. Your advice does not relate to those who are not decent humans. Unfortunately these types are master con artists, making them difficult to spot. The situation is still raw & very difficult to cope with. I hope that i can get through it.

I love her advice. We do tend to not notice our own changes and then expect our significant other to remain the same.

I love Ester P. I have followed her and her work for 4 yrs now. I have her books, podcasts and game. She has transformed my relationships, both professionally and social.

I love this lady!!! She is the most intelligent, insightful, “GET IT” woman. Thank you Esther!!

The freedom piece and the security is huge. It has kept my 9 year relationship so solid and always growing. Spot on why its so important.

I really loved the plastic couch metaphor. Such a beautiful way of understanding not only relationships but it’s relevant to how you view your life in general. What a great analogy from her personal life. Thank you for sharing!

Esther Perel is the intelligent, knowledgeable, and interesting person to hear about personal reflection on relationships and how to look forward to better future relationships, within the current marriage.

Thank you Esther Perel for your AMAZING insights, and incredible family background and the fact you understand and speak 7 languages?!! My mind is officially blown!🤯

Esther is the Contessa of compassion and kindness. I would give anything to have her giving advice to senior couples. Specially when they start at 62-65

Wonderful conversation. Thank you for this podcast. On the note of AI I will share an observation: When my sister was born my mother was in the same hospital ward as a woman who had just given birth but was under observation due to grade a drug addiction. I remember hearing her baby's cries & the nurses explained that basically the baby was crying so much as it was born with the drug addiction. It was one of the most terrifying cries I had ever heard. I had forgotten about this until a month ago when a woman came into my workplace with her 2 infants. At one point she took the phone off the hands of one of the infants and they started crying.. The same terrifying cry that baby with the addiction had.. When experts state that technology has no impact on mental health issues.. I honestly think they have their blinders on. I'm glad Esther Perel is speaking so frankly about her concerns.. While it is not helpful to get all doom and gloom about technology (it does have its pluses..such as me listening to this podcast).. Its important to acknowledge what issues are arising

I love what she says about lying horizontal during an argument and humour! Humour is such an important salve in a relationship. The person who brings that brings a gift! Also not about arguing better but relating better.

This woman is about as wise as anyone can be Her responses to the highest quality of questions are so substantial that it’s hard to not be in awe And in gratitude Thank you both Beautiful souls

‘The old ball and chain’ always was pure projection…. Historically it has been and oftentimes still is women who are completely tied down and expected to live a very different standard of life than men. I grew up Roman Catholic and lived it!!

Thank you Esther! I never get tired of listening to you. You are wise and fun and very courageous. We need more of you!

Is there such thing as a bad podcast featuring Esther? She is brilliant. Too many bookmarked videos that have been immensely helpful. She has worked hard to get here - that itself is inspirational.