Getting cheated on, divorced & hiding our 12-year-old from the internet w/ Kay & Tay | Ep. 51

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This week we were joined by @KayAndTay. We discussed their previous marriages and divorces, Tay's experience being cheated on while he was in Afghanistan serving in the military & Kay speaks on why she keeps her 12-year-old daughter out of the spotlight.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 51
02:32 - Why we eloped
09:41 - Finding love after divorce
16:01 - Becoming a single mom at 22
20:17 - Finding out my wife cheated on me
31:26 - Red flags in an abusive relationship
36:10 - We didn’t think we could have kids
42:19 - Having a newborn at 30
51:17 - The military incentivises marriage
56:48 - Breastfeeding isn’t one size fits all
1:01:52 - Why I don’t share my daughter online

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All Comments (21)
  • @UnplannedPodcast
    It was midnight when we recorded this so that's why we were all yawning 🤣🤣
  • @mydirtymind8205
    She didn’t trust men, he didn’t trust women, but they trusted each-other because they understood each-other
  • @AphonicRoar
    Taylor is being humble. If he was air force in a FOB he was doing some serious stuff. Thank you for risking your life for us
  • @cr7_cr7.
    I think that the fact that she doesnt show her daughter shows how much she respects her, her father and that she loves her very much. I respect that and love her for that
  • Am I the only one who loved how Taylor rocked the baby carrier almost the whole podcast, like that was sooooo cute!!!
  • @MegaTelenovela
    Before this podcast I had no idea their past history and trauma. Thank God they both have healed and found each other
  • “That’s why I don’t like the word fight” he’s so sensitive to her well-being all around. That’s very sweet
  • I didn't even know there was another child. I almost actively don't go digging into someone's personal life off screen unless they make an effort to share it. I have so much more respect and admiration for their recognition and respect for their children's autonomy, which is something that i wish was more common in adults.
  • @user-cn1ph8xc5m
    I love the fact that she respects her daughters fathers opinion. And just how much they respect each other. They’re so genuine.
  • @tajat866
    Now that I know their backstories, I like them even more. Such nice people <3 Thanks for hosting them!
  • @saltymilspouse
    We lose 22 military members PER DAY to ‘self exit’. My retired veteran husband is involved in a few social media groups to help bring awareness and help for soldiers, past and present. He has stayed on the phone for hours talking service members down. The fight is real to save our soldiers, to remind them that it’s just a bad day, not a bad life. Love you guys and your choice of guests, I love watching you young couples starting out. It brings back such warm memories. This one has been my favorite. A short 35 yrs ago I was the single mother to a baby boy that met a handsome soldier far from home. It took 4 months and the patience of a prince to break down the walls. We married 2 years later and proceeded to have 3 more babies, in rapid succession. We are still learning new things about each other, enjoying being grandparents, and our lazy days alone.
  • @jaynerebecca8604
    I would actually be interested in long form content from Kay and Tay. A lovely interview - thank you!
  • @user-ck1gr6ov3g
    Who else ran here from tiktok immediately they saw Kay and Tay🤭❤️❤️❤️
  • @JordyB652
    The unplanned podcast makes sense now. Bc almost everyone you guys bring on here always has unplanned things they went through to talk about. GENIUS
  • @tabbylawson5491
    Abby zoning out and going quiet but jumping in like nothing happened is so me
  • Matt always compliments their guests every episodes, even complimenting Abby every ep. It’s so nice and refreshing to see someone straight out compliment others consistently and make them feel valued
  • I totally get Kay when she says “I’d still be doing it if it wasn’t for some autoimmune conditions that I have.” Most people don’t truly get what that means. It sucks! U feel like you’re not contributing financially but you’re actually contributing so much more to your family than if u had a boss. Working your own schedule allows you to be more present and care for the people u love when your body won’t follow someone else’s schedule to get a pay check. It took me several years to stop feeling guilty for not earning when the entire time my husband told me to stop working and just take care of us like I already was. I finally feel like my contribution is not just enough but important. Thank God for good men ❤
  • @MrsCarrieSnyder
    I just recently found Kay and Tay on YT shorts, and I love them. After this interview I love them even more. I’m 41, but I have such a similar background as Kay. Married at 18, had my daughter at 19, divorced at 20, met my current husband at 21 and we just celebrated 20 years together and 16 years married. My husband has been in my daughters life since she was 2.5. I love that y’all found each other. 🙏
  • I loved the military relationship perspective! To see y’all both grow and know that most people marry in the military for the wrong reasons, you guys decided to be together for the right reasons! Love it! Thank you for your service!
  • I agree with what Abby said at 23:45 about having more context as opposed to short videos online. I started to love Kay & Tay then I was thinking she is so immature until I heard what they have both been through, so I changed my tune. They have both been through it, so I have so much more respect.