How to think about your narcissistic parent

If you can survive growing up under a narcissistic parent, and still be loving and have compassion, You Are A HERO

When a stranger on the internet is more validating of your feelings than your own parents 👁👄👁

I hate when people tell me...."well you only have one mother". I would rather have no mother then the one I have

I am the daughter of a covert malignant narcissist. My mother lived until 95. I always felt she was too mean to die. I had an older sister who was brilliant but fat. My mother never let her forget it. She had 13 plastic surgeries and a gastric bypass to please my mother. She never married, had 6 abortions that I know of and killed herself at 55. I also never had children. I am married and 71 years old. I am the living member of my family on both my mother's and father's side. I was the FULL TIME caretaker of my mother the last 5 years of her life. After her death I discovered why I had no self esteem, no boundaries and a constant people pleaser. I came across Dr. RAHMANI and learned all of this. There is no one left to discuss this with who knew her. I am kind, compassionate and empathetic. I rescue dogs the one true joy of my life. I want thank all of the people who commented because I now see that I am not ALONE. GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME!

The absolute worst part of having a Nacissistic parent is actually the rest of the family enabling them. Like guilt triping you for not accepting being treated that way, or in my case dismissing it completely like i'm making it up or exaggerating. Not having others to turn to is the real hell.

I can't tell you how happy it makes me feel when Dr. Ramani says, "Narcissistic parents make me angry." Its nice to hear that somebody actually cares about us.

1. You were robbed 2:27 2. Acceptance is a temporary solution 4:14 3. Stop gaslighting yourself 5:25 4. It was not your fault 6:23 5.Stop justifying their actions because they attended basic needs 7:26 6. You may not be at peace until they are gone 8:53 7. Step away from enablers 10:23 8. No contact vs. grey rock 11:15 9. Stop excusing their behavior because of their backstory 12:42 10. Stop wondering what would be like if it was different and reparent yourself 14:44 11. Stop waiting for them to change 17:15

My narc mother recently died. I felt no relief, just completely sad that my inner child still hurts. I actually did not realize how profound the pain is from narcissistic abuse until she died. To all narcissistic abuse survivors, hug your inner child and tell him/her that he/she deserves to be loved.

For anyone who needs to hear it: don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm!

"They put a roof over your head? Even a orphanage would do that" I love Dr Ramani, she is the most badass psychologist on YouTube! Well said!

The irony is they’ll tell you “don’t be so sensirive” for disliking their insults. But if you dare to simply call them out on their behavior, they explode with rage. So it’s ok for them to be “sensitive” ?

I’ve finally allowed myself to admit to myself that I wish my narcissistic parent would die. Admitting this helped me release a lot of trapped emotions and show up more fully for myself.

My mom's enablers would tell me "She's your mother! She could die tomorrow!" And I would say "I could die tomorrow too! She had my entire life to think about that possibility"

I always imagine how being raised in love and affection would have changed my life and choices

My teen daughter was the first person to say to me that food and shelter alone means you were emotionally neglected. My head just exploded. How did I never see that!?

Im listening to this video in 2024 at age 66. Bless you Doctor for these insights. I will continue my journey of healing with your aid.

Anyone else crying ? We were robbed of our childhood.... that hits home. Very true - very painful

“STOP EXCUSING YOUR NARCISSISTIC PARENTS ON THE BASIS OF THEIR BACK STORY” my GOD. That hit like a divine light on my little brain.

For me, the best thing to think about my narcissistic father is nothing whatsoever. Each day that goes by where his existence doesn't cross my mind is another good day.

So validating to see that dr. Armani is genuinely angry with this topic. I remember that when I was six, I went grocery shopping with my narc mom and helped carrying a cake from the store. When I tried to put it in the back of the car, I accidentally dropped it. A short moment later I was fed up with an absurdly raging mother yelling that I have to get back to the store and get a new cake. She send me without money. I entered the shop crying with the broken cake in my tiny arms. The shop assistant gave me a new one for free. I WAS 6 YEARS OLD. It is still the most mind boggling memory to me.