The Secret to Healing Narcissistic Victim Syndrome FASTER

It’s hard to heal when you have multiple narcissists in your immediate family that team up their enablers to ostracize you.

I use a journal to track my progress and I’ve come so far from two years ago when I left my narc hubby of 11 years 💪🏾

The only stress I had with my narc was suppressing the overwhelming desire to apply violence to the situation.

The brain is a series of electrical circuits. When we become emotionally overwhelmed, the brain recognizes this and shuts down. Just like when you plug too many cords into a power strip, it shuts down when overloaded. Your brain does the same thing. It will shut down activity when it recognizes emotional overload.

That's probably the best description of a panic attack I've ever heard (fight, flight, or fawn) at 3:50. For a while, I'd nearly forgotten what it's like to feel "normal" -- before healing began. Cheers!

My social anxiety is probably the worst symptom I’ve got after narcissistic abuse even tho all the others I also have but this disturbs me the most!

Jesus Christ it's going to get better one way or another .

I hate having these symptoms 😞. Being in abusive relationship with a narc or sociopath parent and their flying monkeys and enablers hurts. I don't know who to trust . I try too keep my distance from the narcs flying monkeys . I want to live a normal better healthy life without all the worries . I want to move on in life . I suffer from CPTSD and anxiety . I don't want to be narcissistic . I feel like I'm constantly over thinking things .

I started crying somewhere between the 5:00 and 6:00 minute mark. This is why I'm 46 and I'm just beginning to heal from the abuse that started wen I was a toddler. OMG is sure feels good to know why it took me so long to heal. I thought something was wrong with Me for decades. I can see so clearly now. My life is peaceful and I'm happy being single and I wake up every morning loving myself and ready for the day. I seriously doubt I have ever had this feeling before. But I don't feel sorry for myself, I'm so proud of myself for finally doing something about the abuse and the toxic ppl I use to allow to surround me. Thank you Michelle! Ur videos are really life savings bc I can't afford professional help at the time in my life, I decided months ago to help myself , to read, do research, watch videos, take notes and do the work. It was hard but yet simple. I can't believe I allowed other humans to mentally abuse me , use me then discard me wen I had nothing left to give. I was looked down upon by so many ppl, I would hear the gossip going around about me, u would see the disapproval and shame in other's eyes and face wen I walked in a room, or so I was seeing and feeling that around certain ppl. And now all of that is behind me. I don't even care what anyone thinks about me anymore , bc i love me , I take care of me and at the end of the day only my opinion matters. It's amazing how much my mental state of mind has improved in the last 6 months. And this video has helped me understand what took me so long to begin healing.i don't want my 2 daughters to go thru what I did. And now I have the wisdom and tools to be able to help them recognize unhealthy behavior. Something I couldn't have done just 7 month ago. And like the brave Michelle is doing , I promise to spread and share this awareness to others so they too can heal. Merry Christmas Eve and a Happy New Year to anyone reading my comment!

Because I lived with him and he isolated me so intensely, I forgot about the goodness in the world that there are good people outside of people like this. Take us here for example, we’re all here supporting each other in the comments and learning together how to heal. If I could take away all the traumas you all and I have gone through, I would. I wish you healing, realizing there are safe places and safe people, learning how to find safety and peace without it being a risk.

It's like going back to war because the chaos feels better than peace. Very good stuff Michelle. You're the only one talking about the physiological aspect of this.

This is totally me. I finally found someone who explained this trauma. I felt No-one would understand. I sought help and was told I was Hyper vigilant with severe PTSD. I was and still am running from danger. Thank you for showing me that Im not alone in this situation and putting it into words.j

I’m in a very mentally abusive relationship I even find myself having to record each other’s conversations so I remember what really is said. I feel like I’m losing myself and question myself all the time. 😭

Great video! I’m so glad all those worries are gone! Walking over egg shells and worrying about everything and overthinking everything I did just being around a toxic person! I feel at peace and mentally stronger because I’m living my truth and not living for someone else

Healing is Different for everyone....Some heal in weeks some in Months and some in years....

I love this concept. It makes so much sense. This reminds me of a study I read recently about cortisol and emotional abuse. We get so used to the stress response and bottom dropping out that we develop something akin to an addiction to it (according to the study). I think I'm going to expand on this in a video soon because it explains a lot about that scary post-abuse period. Thank you for putting out this video! 🙏❤

Pray for me my ex hurt me so bad I’m still healing

Your video, 20 symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, was the one video that helped me most to understand and be able to explain what had happened to me over the 21 years of marriage to a malignant narc. I knew he was narcissistic but didn’t really understand the full extent of what that meant or the evil he was capable of until my health had finally deteriorated to the point I could barely get out of bed. Even though I had learned over the years not to show any weaknesses or they’d be used against me, I knew something had to change. I mistakenly turned to him for help without realizing he was the source of how I got where I was. The more I poured my heart out to try to get him to understand, the more ammunition I have him to hurt me in the most cruel and unimaginable ways and I couldn’t understand why until I discovered that video. I have recently tried to find this video to share with my daughter and a couple friends who are in toxic relationships and starting to experience many of these same symptoms (I ended up with all 20) but it looks like it was taken down. You referred to it in a video you did a few months ago but I still can’t find the original video you did about the 20 symptoms of NVS. Is this still available. My daughter is in a toxic relationship and starting to experience a lot of these symptoms and I have friends trying to leave a narcissist that is like to share it with before they make the same mistakes I did. How can I get the video?

I love the way you speak so softly and the information is so clear. After my issues, I love when people speak softly - that's another reason why I'm so drawn to asmr vids. I never heard of the bottom-up approach. It's been 4 years and I'm still stuck in the same spot. :( Least I know why now.

I think I was born in fight, flight or freeze. I have felt disconnected for as long as I can remember. Thx to narc mom