Narcissistic Victim Syndrome| 20 Signs YOU Have This #narcissism

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When your parents (even one of them) are narcissistic or have narcissistic traits, it's impossible to function "normally" in the society, you don’t think like a healthy person, your main goal is- to survive. Because that's how children in toxic families think, survival is the most important, everything else is secondary. That's why you grow very conscious of your environment, you're exhausted, you watch everybody's reaction, you think about every detail of your life and interactions with people, because watching the every reaction of narcissist was the key to get through the day in your childhood and not to get hurt physically or mentally. So when you leave the toxic home you don’t know know what to do with yourself. Some people call it being an empath but I call it being traumatized. It takes the rest of your life to heal from that environment.

Another symptom I find to be common is over explanation. You feel the need to always explain your actions and/or feelings to everyone.

1. Walking on eggshells. 2. hypervigilance 3. Live in fawn/trauma response 4. No boundaries 5. Uncomfortable 6. Gaslighting 7. Depression 8. Fight trauma response 9. Toxic shame 10. Personality changes 11. Confusion 12. Rumination 13. Lost sense of safety 14. Addiction 15. Amnesia 16. Negative beliefs 17. Physical pain 18. You don't recognize yourself 19. I miss me 20. Nervous disorders

The anxiety before he gets home makes me feel real bad like I’m doing something wrong

I believe the hyper vigilance is what causes so many victims to have chronic health problems like arthritis and chronic fatigue

I miss me! 😢 I used to have this passion for life!

I have been left feeling sad and depressed every time I think about how bad these people treated me.

Will I ever be normal again? That's the question we ask ourselves after we realize what is going on.

I believe a toxic family system with narcissism caused my severe fibromyalgia at a very young age. To this day, they accuse me of faking my pain. I just went through an aggressive form of cancer. They called me a liar and ignored me. They never change. But I have. And I'm enjoying a quiet life in Costa Rica. 🌺

Therapist: “you do realize you’re in an abusive relationship, right?” Brain: ”after so much gas lighting, I had no self-trust.”

After 25 years living in a narcissistic marriage... Once we left, my health went down and down till I nearly died, several times. I was exhausted mentally from the constant abuse and crulity. The best thing I ever did was take our 2 children away to a better life. ❤

" the symptoms are like tracking animals ". Yes it is. Demons leave their prints. Amazing how we all have the same symptoms .

I have all these symptoms that you spoke about....don't forget about making you dependant on them financially

Feeling unloved - that does something to you...but he would never admit that he is not capable of love...instead he pretends, and this hypocrisy makes a person so sick

“I miss me” becomes more like “I have yet to meet me” for someone who was not allowed to develop a self. I grew up with a mother with narcissistic personality disorder with borderline traits, and a couple older brothers with narcisistic personality disorder. I was “the baby of the family” and seemed to be made a special project by them. I am trying to recall a moment that I can identify and say with certainty, that was me! So it’s maybe a little more frightening reality for me who experienced this in my formative years. But Michele, just by me listening to your videos, you are helping me greatly in my journey. After fifty and some odd years of confusion, pain, and self searching, I’m only just now starting understanding a lot of this. I can’t explain the profound depth of loss I am feeling. My identity was stolen away. I know there must be hope even for me. I’m not going to give up, that’s a promise I’ve made myself.

I identify with all of the signs you mention. One annoying trait I have developed is being easily startled. For example: if someone walks into a room or even speaks unexpectedly , I will almost jump out of my skin. My heart rate will increase, and I will have to control my breathing. Sometimes, I will start to tremble. This is considered hilarious by some people, and they will deliberately jump out on me or shout boo to induce the reaction. I get why it's so funny to them, but it is inconvenient to me. Thanks for your insightful videos x

After 13 years of absolute torment, I’m finally finding my way back to freedom. We share a child, so it’s complicated. But he’s out of household now. Healing will take years. I will never fully be free of him and I worry for my Daughter. But I will navigate this the best I can and finally break the cycle of abuse and dysfunction.

I actually think often a narcissist can regulate their emotions. They just have a strong sense of entitlement, and superiority and require that sense of dominance to be maintained. They also lack a lot of sympathetic empathy for other. They can understand how others feel to an extent, they just don’t care much.

I suffer with gastritis and had a mild stroke last year.realy didn't know what i was going through.thought i was loosing mind .am still living it but i pray each day for sanity and strength.