ADHD and Toxic Relationships

Ive been plagued with abusive relationships. Found out i have inattentive adhd at 48. Things are starting to make sense.

Trauma bonding is also about one person subconsciously entering into a relationship in order to resolve relational issues in their past that did not meet their developmental needs and left them traumatised. The traumatisation is suppressed in order to function, but leads to repeated dysfunctional pattern because the emotions of the original event have not been properly processed. They do not get properly processed in subsequent relationships because we subconsciously seek relationships with people who look like or display similar behaviours to those who neglected or abused us in the past.

Just got out of a relationship and everything you talked about what NPD people can do to people with ADHD, happened to me. It makes me sad realized the full scope of how I was abused but it's making it easier for me to get away from her, and realize that me leaving was a good thing. Thank you for this video

It's interesting because I'm the NT partner with my husband having combined ADHD and I've been on the receiving end of emotional abuse from him. He is a late diagnosis (just a few months ago) and is on medication...Now.

I have severe ADHD and I am in love with a narcissist I keep trying to be patient and help him recognize his behavior. It is hitting home now and it feels like a gut punch. I have low contact with him right now. He's blowing up my phone. We have been together for 5 years and it did not appear until Covid 19. I am being emotionally abused. I have been stonewalled. He tells me that I changed since I began a healthy lifestyle and self-care and therapy trauma work shadowing work and taking my medication twice a day.

I've come across various ADHD therapies, including psychotherapy, behavior therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy, and it's fascinating to see the diversity in approaches. Each person's journey with ADHD treatments is unique, and it's great that there are amazing different options available.🧠💪

God bless you Stephanie. ❤ you went thru all my struggles in a nice, simplistic and truth full way. I have been considering myself a phoenix after seeing reality and staying away from illusions and manipulations. I had doubts that abuse from a narcissist was worst for a ADHD personality because of multiple traumas and not much tool to work with and not much stories about it either. My ex-wife is a covert, with psychological issues related to cognitive disorder cause by effect from Lupus. You can’t even imagine how far she went with her paranoia, hallucinations and smear campaign. For me, hell was on earth. My focus is on my well being, copping with adhd and my 3 daughters. I’m not giving up and Education is power !! 🎉😊 40 years old, forced to stop teaching after all the gaslighting and the depression on my end. Thank you and good video 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦

People with ADHD gaslight & also are toxic! Ive been on the receiving end of a moronic ADHDer..who misinterpreted my trying to calm them down. They now are avoiding me at all costs

this video is SOO GOOD. omg. thank you thank you thank you. you’re so spot on. i have adhd and this is very validating.

Thank you so much for this video, it helps so much!!!

Great info, many things now make sense! Thank you for your work

Can someone with adhd be narcissistic as well? My friend’s ex had adhd but had a constant need for attention and as such it was like my friend was in a relationship with someone with adhd and after he gave her everything she pushed him so much he eventually lost his temper and pushed her, she then ended the relationship and got with someone else straight away and said they were in love and within a few months they’re getting married. Edit: she just said yes, a person with adhd can be narcissistic as well

I talk about sex, but I've never really talked about my sex life to the fullest extent, but there's certain things about this makes me realize every single aspect of me is ADHD

Excellent podcast! So very thorough. It's easy to get lost in all the possibilities, but when most are offered then I know where I'm at in the mix. Thank you

🤯 All of the above! You are describing my only serious relationship perfectly. Ive been casual dating ever since as Im still trying to figure out myself in serious relationship. Thank you for your video.

Really valuable content. Thanks for publishing it!

"If you don't know at any moment in time what is most important in life to your kids, wife, husband, parents, friends etc you are not doing you job" - A Blackstone

Thank you so much 🙏

Ung. My ADHD partner has accused me of deliberately gaslighting him, and now interprets many things that I do as self-serving, controlling, and even conniving. It’s getting worse, and it scares me that he and I often remember things so differently. I’ve also just read research on ADHD and memory. Apparently, both short snd long term memory are negatively affected by ADHD. During one of our arguments, I very reluctantly requested that he read that research. (It was painful to discover this, and even worse to tell him about it. I HATE anything that might further undermine his sense of self-worth, which all that does, despite it being totally beyond his control and not an indictment of his actually wonderful character) Of course, whenever I bring up his ADHD, he sees it as an attack, so that went nowhere. I tell him that his arguments have convinced me that my own memory is certainly far from flawless (plenty of research on neurotypical adults makes it clear human memory is highly problematic for everyone, to varying degrees) but he refuses to ever meet me halfway, or even agree to disagree. After 24 years, progress had been very slow and fitful, but now, thanks to his exposure to the idea of gaslighting, he’s fully incorporated that into his idea of who I am. My point, at length, is that the information like that found in this video, while clearly vital, can also cause real problems.

This is excellent,so very true it’s the best video. 😉 You explain the narcissist so very well. I can’t believe how many narcissists are out there. You covered everything, great advice. Thank you 👍