ADHD and Toxic Relationships

Ive been plagued with abusive relationships. Found out i have inattentive adhd at 48. Things are starting to make sense.

People with ADHD gaslight & also are toxic! Ive been on the receiving end of a moronic ADHDer..who misinterpreted my trying to calm them down. They now are avoiding me at all costs

Just got out of a relationship and everything you talked about what NPD people can do to people with ADHD, happened to me. It makes me sad realized the full scope of how I was abused but it's making it easier for me to get away from her, and realize that me leaving was a good thing. Thank you for this video

It's interesting because I'm the NT partner with my husband having combined ADHD and I've been on the receiving end of emotional abuse from him. He is a late diagnosis (just a few months ago) and is on medication...Now.

I have severe ADHD and I am in love with a narcissist I keep trying to be patient and help him recognize his behavior. It is hitting home now and it feels like a gut punch. I have low contact with him right now. He's blowing up my phone. We have been together for 5 years and it did not appear until Covid 19. I am being emotionally abused. I have been stonewalled. He tells me that I changed since I began a healthy lifestyle and self-care and therapy trauma work shadowing work and taking my medication twice a day.

Trauma bonding is also about one person subconsciously entering into a relationship in order to resolve relational issues in their past that did not meet their developmental needs and left them traumatised. The traumatisation is suppressed in order to function, but leads to repeated dysfunctional pattern because the emotions of the original event have not been properly processed. They do not get properly processed in subsequent relationships because we subconsciously seek relationships with people who look like or display similar behaviours to those who neglected or abused us in the past.

People with ADHD shouldn’t be victimized when they need to own up to their own behaviors as well. If you are mentally capable to know that narcissistic behavior is bad and “has nothing to do with ADHD” then you as an ADHD person should NOT be dragging people like that. Same for cheating, if you know it’s bad don’t do it!! I’m in a situation rn where my ADHD ex is being a narcissist and I’m about to drop the 10 year friendship because of it. Dated for 4 months and he ended it all because he released long time grudges against me that I didn’t even know was wrong due to his lack of communication, then he wanted to be friends yet made excuses on why we can’t hang out due to his life but the ironic thing about that is that I see him post about 4 times a week hanging out with other people except me leaving me like a nobody and barely talks to me. I am so close on calling him out being a fake and blocking him. He definitely knows what he’s doing and it’s disgusting to the point it makes me puke!!! He doesn’t even care or understand how bad this hurts me. Friends shouldn’t treat friends like this PERIOD!!!

This sounds like my ex who has ADHD and unfortunately therapy could not help us. I chose to stay in therapy and had to cut off communication from him.

God bless you Stephanie. ❤ you went thru all my struggles in a nice, simplistic and truth full way. I have been considering myself a phoenix after seeing reality and staying away from illusions and manipulations. I had doubts that abuse from a narcissist was worst for a ADHD personality because of multiple traumas and not much tool to work with and not much stories about it either. My ex-wife is a covert, with psychological issues related to cognitive disorder cause by effect from Lupus. You can’t even imagine how far she went with her paranoia, hallucinations and smear campaign. For me, hell was on earth. My focus is on my well being, copping with adhd and my 3 daughters. I’m not giving up and Education is power !! 🎉😊 40 years old, forced to stop teaching after all the gaslighting and the depression on my end. Thank you and good video 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦

Excellent podcast! So very thorough. It's easy to get lost in all the possibilities, but when most are offered then I know where I'm at in the mix. Thank you

this video is SOO GOOD. omg. thank you thank you thank you. you’re so spot on. i have adhd and this is very validating.

Thank you so much for this video, it helps so much!!!

I talk about sex, but I've never really talked about my sex life to the fullest extent, but there's certain things about this makes me realize every single aspect of me is ADHD

Great info, many things now make sense! Thank you for your work

Excluding the intimacy stuff, this explains my current work situation. Pure blooded narcissist and my naive butt stayed. Past time to get out.

🤯 All of the above! You are describing my only serious relationship perfectly. Ive been casual dating ever since as Im still trying to figure out myself in serious relationship. Thank you for your video.

I've come across various ADHD therapies, including psychotherapy, behavior therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy, and it's fascinating to see the diversity in approaches. Each person's journey with ADHD treatments is unique, and it's great that there are amazing different options available.🧠💪

Thank you so much 🙏

"If you don't know at any moment in time what is most important in life to your kids, wife, husband, parents, friends etc you are not doing you job" - A Blackstone

THANK YOU VERY MUCH.. i wish i had seen this video before then i would have understood whats going in my life and tried to do something about it after my breakup... i wish i could take a small therapy secession from u but i live in india.... my parents dont take my ADHD seriously at all the ignore it as it is just nothing... and me being me dont really tell them what im going through because of their reactions towards it... thry think that threy know me but they too only know the calm and sorted life that i present in front of them.... they are totally unaware how actually i am in life... this video halped me very much to know about me and my past life... once again THANK YOU