Did your relationship LOSE ROMANCE or are you BEING DEVALUED?

I can’t afford therapy so doing my research and watching Dr. Ramani’s videos have been life changing. I realize now the fantasy of true love is what blinded me from seeing who my partner actually was. They never lied. Like Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.” I now see who I am as well and I’m way too good for this person to have my heart any longer. I’m worth more than this. Love yourself first. It’s never too late.

There's no spark left it's only burdened with unpredictable roller coaster emotions.

Back in 1986, I went on a cross-country (U.S.) bicycle tour with my boyfriend. We left the San Francisco Bay Area, rode through Nevada, Utah, Colorado, and into Iowa. I flew back from Des Moines to California, since I had to return to my job. When I picked him up from SFO that summer, he gave me a blank look, no hug and "so glad to see you again." He went on to to east coast. I should have paid attention, but I came from a toxic family that criticized me and devalued me from the start. We married in 1988. We divorced last year in 2023. I spent our marriage caring for him and pushing though his small business concepts, dealing with leases and landlords, websites and social media promotions, events, permits and getting patents for new ideas and inventions. Years later, I started paying attention to my feelings and inspirations. He couldn't stand me writing novels and listening to music I loved. He insisted that we split, and we did, me handling all of the paperwork in a DIY divorce. Bottom line, pay attention to your feelings and visions for the future. Maya Angelou is correct. Believe them the first time they show you who they are by how they treat you.

Dr Ramani changed everything for me. Leave these people they will ruin your life. I left after 7 months of planning you can do it. Rich or poor, constrained or free to make your own decisions. Be bold. I was scared, too.

From what I see: so few people in fact need that “life time marriage” but so many stay cause scared of changes.

This is 100 percent my experience with my partner of 15 years, now my ex of 1 year. I tried so hard with him. If only I felt resourced then like I do now.

Dr Ramani, Your analysis on Narcissists is the best I've ever found. I've just finished reading your book 'It's Not You' It's simply brilliant! Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I would highly recommend this book to anyone who hasn't read it yet.

You are the best on this topic Dr. Ramani! Thank you so much for all your help and clarity!❤

Thank you for this. I have been going through a tough time unpacking how my relationship (which ended almost a year ago) devolved. I don't think I'll have any way of knowing if my ex is a narcissicst, but this really described what happened in my relationship. I WAS devalued, I was confused, I was questioning if it was just the end of the honeymoon period, but now I am realizing that it was devaluation. And these feelings are really tough to feel and sort through.

At this point, I'm better off divorcing and going to live in a cave. 😆

What happens in a long term marriage when addiction becomes the ‘other person’ in the marriage? Addiction takes many forms, but in my case it’s gambling, in different forms. Sports betting, day trading, etc. my 51 years with this person feels like a life sentence.

To realize that passionate love fades into something ordinary just shows how rare and fleeting true romance is. Pretty much everything will eventually become dull and unfulfilling.

This channel is such a game changer. I often feel worst after listening to Sadghuru or Jay Shetty as I seek what’s the missing pieces to the puzzle that I’m encountering. This helps my healing process considerably. Thank you Dr. Ramani!!!

Welp. If there was any shred of a doubt that my relationship was a narcissistic relationship, it's gone now.

Thank You! I just got this video on perfect timing! ❤

Good morning, Dr. Ramani Wishing you an awesome day ☮️

Hollywood fuels the misconception that every romance has a fairy tale ending, even with the sequels. For every fictionalized love story that ends with "You had me at 'hello,'" you wonder how many in real life end with "See ya! Wouldn't wanna be ya!"

If your someone looking for a relationship after being with a narcissist, something that helps is to take feeling out of the scenario, and see a new relationship within logic and reasoning and once those two align sit back and enjoy your new relationship, and bask in the joy that comes from a mutual caring and understanding. When true companionship and devotion are the basis there's nothing more enjoyable. Build the foundation in real value and you'll automatically rule out anyone toxic. They would get bored. Lol

Dr Ramani u got to look into this video on the net titled ESTRANGED PARENTS .Its about the mom grieving her only daughter left her .I hope my comment gets Dr.Ramani 's attention.

People make show for the relatives and for the church community to keep the connections. While living with a partner they no longer know what they are doing with. If ever did. But pleasing the relatives and the church community is a thing.