4 Things that SABOTAGE your healing from a narcissistic relationship

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

The more you forgive them, the more and more they repeat the same thing.

I left after 20 years. My only regret is that I didn’t leave sooner. Never been happier and the thought of someone getting the best version of him never even crossed my mind. I couldn’t care less.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot like going through grief. The only way out is through.

Carpet of eggshells Repository of cruelty You are a Shakespeare too, Doc. I love you.

MY REGRET IS ALSO THAT I SPENT TOO MUCH TIME TRYING. I WAS WILLING TO INVEST AND TRY WHEN IT WAS MISERABLE!

There’s a level on which I am grateful for my now defunct relationship because it really forced me to confront my history of trauma bonding and to become more aware of the role I play in selling myself out in these relationships and maybe at the ripe old age of 63 I am finally in a position to stop doing it again and again and again.

That’s the worst is loosing 30 years of my life. Passed up great men for this.

Omg... you've said everything i went through. 10 years of just losing myself, severe repeated infidelity from him, emotional abuse, gaslighting breadcrumming. The sayings are even the same! We went camping to outback Australia and he would not even sit and watch the stars with me. Thats one of the reasons we went for! Too intimate for him or something. He'd disappear for a night and if i questioned him he'd say i don't need this crap, i'll be happier to live in my van. So i said go! For good this time. Its been 10 months and such a hard road. I've lost so many people who lost patience with me taking him back so many times. I thiught they would come back but those friendships are over. My circle has shrunk to just a few people but thats ok. Its peaceful! I've come out of the depression mostly but i dont know how to face the future. He circles back occasionally testing waters and while i've finally got that he wont change, the trauma bond is the hardest to get out of. 😢

💯 the narcissistic sister in law who is repeatedly unapologetically abusive and damaging to us all, yet never faces consequences, and I am shamed and blamed for not wanting to be around her. Super messed up. I don’t care what they think, I will protect my health. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

When an issue arose and I tried to verbally show that I was trying to understand his position, my former husband of 19 years used to say to me, "Don't psychoanalysis me!" There really is no winning with them.

Dr Ramani you helped me so much. 2 years ago I found your videos and realised what I'd been through for the last 37 years. I 've been separated from my covert narcissist husband for 2 and half years now. Have my own lovely house, lots of friends and a good life. Divorce completed through yesterday. I never want to see him again. I'm sorry I had children with him. Luckily I'm not against men and have met some wonderfully nice men. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Dr Ramani. You gave me a new life to live

It will take the rest of my life, however long that is, to recover and heal from my abuse as it changed me at my core and i have had to learn who i am again. 🍒

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Thank you for all your videos.

PS. I absolutely love the cameo from your cat. Listening to you talk and watching your cat come and relax on your lap gives me this special serene feeling. Thank you both 💓

In my own experience, I have learned that healing is not a quick fix or one size fits all for anyone who has endured this type of abuse. Being 66 years old, I have kept my eye on the big picture through this ordeal. Whether I live for 2 days, 2 years or 40 years, I will use the time to live MY best life and will not let it be defined by a sick and twisted individual to prevent me from doing so. Thank you, Dr. Ramani.

After I filed for divorce we lived in the same house until it was finalized. My now ex-mother in law called me and told me I needed to move out, then called again to tell me I needed to "try harder" because she was worried he might "do something..." I told her if she was so worried he might do something horrible, maybe she should encourage HIM to move out. God protected me and our teenage son and continues to guide each of us through healing 🙏 ❤

Hey,love your videos! I got out of a narcissistic relationship 5 years ago! Your videos helped me!

Thank you Dr Ramini for actually saying out loud that healing of a narcissist relationship takes more time. It has been 15 years from a Narcissitic marriage of 26 years (32 years from age 16 to 50) to RECOVER and HEAL from that relationship!! I am happy. I am single. Loving being alone and having life choices!! Just have to figure out how to start a career at age 64 as I have not recovered financially.

J.O.M.O : Joy of missing out 😅 🙌🏼