9 Signs You're In a Codependent Relationship - Terri Cole

Let me know: did any of these signs resonate with you? Have you ever been in, or are you in, a codependent relationship? Remember to download the guide to dive into the questions asked: www.terricole.com/9-signs-in-a-codependent-relatio…

Wow! I use to do so many of those things. With your book and talk therapy I am well on my way to recovery. It feels so good to know that I have actually changed my behavior. Was it super easy no. But it has been so rewarding when you can see all you have accomplished with boundaries in place! Thank you so much Terri! I am so grateful to have found you!

The Jerry Maguire quote "you complete me" was used on me in the past because it was an arm twisting technique (an I didn't like it). Good one for ringing it here!

It is very helpful, thanks ❤❤😊

Thank you Terri. I am a recovering codependent so most of my answers were no, except for my fear of abandonment/ rejection. I just figured out a year ago that seed was planted, when I was 4 by my dad when he threatened to pack up and leave after fighting w my mom. It terrified me because she was physically abusive and he protected us. I really have to be hyper aware when this kicks in for me usually when there's been a dispute with my boyfriend. I also have learned to let him handle his own shit. He is dealing with a former student, who has been stalking him for years. When he first told me about it, I told him how to get a stalking order. He hasn't done it but complains when this person shows up. I told him this week "there is a solution and the more you don't do it the more embolden the stalker is". His issue.

Yes it did open my eyes. Ty.

Thank you Terri! Yes, some of these signs resonate with me. The question format that you used today is very helpful to zero in on self awareness and understanding. Also, thank you for the guide ... be well! .

Per usual, EXCELLENT, concise information and advice. Thank you, Terri !!!❤

At the risk of sounding like a love bomb- you look absolutely stunning…and it radiates from the inside. 💕✨🙌🏼

This was amazing .would love this to be taught in my all girls high school. I could relate to doing all of these things in my past.❤ beautiful job.

Thank you Terri, reading your book and following you, has helped me to accept I have a codependant relationship with both my kids, just the first step. I am working on seeing myself and treating me with compassion regarding this, as I know is hard as moms to let them go, because our own value is very much attached on our performance as mothers. Thank you, thank you, thank you, all your content and updates always shows me a new growing path. Kind Meta, from Nicaragua.

All of these resonate with me in my current relationship.

Hi Terri - from Australia 🥳 I found you only last week I have already got your book, and listening to the audio one also Omg I have never had boundaries, I let everyone walk over me. Narcissist mother, I had a co dependent relationship with ( I was strong enough to walk away a few yrs ago) I have already set some boundaries in the last week with others in my life💪🏼 All bloody hell it felt so good Thanks so much for all the info Your voice has been around me every morning for last 7 days 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Wow, Teri, I always thought these codependent symptoms were just sweet, old fashioned attributes. Thank you so much for the knowledge you give.

Hi wisdom mama. Thanks for spreading more magic. I am definitely in a codependent relationship and have placed myself here for years. I met my partner after leaving a broken home with constantly yelling and turbulence. I have been in this relationship for five years and as year six approaches I know I need a shift. I totally mood swallow and am so affected by him and how he presents walking into the room. I have over the years been isolated from my friends started with any male friends I had then went to my interaction with the opposite sex period, then even my female friends. I have a lot of love for this person I’ve given years of my life to. But I also know I’ve just built that to be comfort and the rage he reacts with has never felt absolutely safe. any tips for taking a big shift and centring more on myself and my needs. Keeping in mind I auto accommodate, and people please to the eleventh degree.

I've often wondered if it's healthy for couples to share all feelings, emotions and intellectual ideas with partners - in other words to be open and honest. I've never seen couples interact in such a manner. Therefore, I'm curious. I'd love your feedback. I guess I'm talking about sharing emotional labor. (No children, or parents.) BTW, I'm self sufficient. Please describe a healthy, close relationship between two adult self sufficient people in a loving relationship since I observe none among friends. (And, I'm very familiar with all forms of narcissists.)  How is some degree of enmeshment not possible in any typical marriage or committed relationship?

Hello 🎉

Would love to hear your take on a re-emerge topic of feminine women being submissive to her male partner. I personally think its dangerous for women. But would love your ideas maybe seeing it incorrectly.

How about someone calls me. It is Sunday. A friend suspects an almost dead battery. I invite her for dinner. She can prepare her day as a teacher I can investigate her car battery. We ordered a new one. It makes me feel good to do this. Does this make me codependent?

Relationship happy Jessica till boyfriend family