How A Secure Person Reacts to Being In A Situationship & 6 Signs You're In One!

I wasted 2 years in a situationship. I am now 2.5 months free from the situationship and the person. The detaching and pulling away naturally has been the key for me. I can admit I wasted MY OWN TIME, and I IGNORED a lot of red flags and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. Not anymore I see straight through him and all the games he played. I also recognize hook up culture is not a good thing for me , because you end up in situationships or FWBs. Which most people claim to not want these things but ultimately end up settling for these types of people and bad relationship set ups. I no longer want to progress a relationship with this person. We can't be friends, because we were never that to begin with. And again how is someone gonna be your friend yet never bothers to communicate with you unless its around SEX?! So yeah I am good.

A secure person would not tolerate that at all. They would get out the moment they realized what was going on

I just ended a situation ship. It was brutal at first. I loved her. But i have to preserve my sanity.

I took your test and showed I am a secure person. I'm in a situation and choosing to stay in it. The reason is that I have multiple sclerosis, and I'm receiving help that I really need. I don't have any other resources to get the help I need. Plus, he's my best friend.

I was in a situationship for about half a Year. I am a DA. So, it was a pretty good form of a relationship for me, but then I realized that I have fallen in love and I decided to work on my DA attachment style and become more secure. So, I understood that this is not gonna work for me anymore. I need to try to find a normal relationship after I fix my DA style completely. So, currently I am in love and lonely.) I hope, I'll cope and be happy someday.

So true! A securely attached person would appreciate the opportunity ❤

7:16 What does a discussion about feelings needs and expectations look like? How do you even get to that type of conversation? I grew up in a household where things weren’t discussed so I really have no idea how to approach this (so I just continue to people please).

the problem is that the men often develop "feelings" much earlier and just as the women starts to develop some, it's often too late because it's really hard for some men to have sex with a woman that isn't feeling the same in the moment, especially if you don't have much time with those 1-2 day-dates when living further apart, that half minute when the girl is ready and plays with her hair it feels so artificial because of the time pressure. In my youth we used to hang up months over months sleeping beneath each other and over some time falling in love, but falling in love halfway over the telephone/internet and then trying to make something out of it when you see each other every other week for 1-2 days, it's the most stressfull thing I had experienced as the pressure to have sex rises infinitely and if you don't have many exes or other ways to find sex, most men will put too much pressure on the girl to be ready and so on.

Sadly me and my ex ended up in a situationship after the breakup because we didn’t want to stop seeing each other but sadly he ended

I'm so glad you made that clear distinction between a casual relationship and a situationship. I've actually enjoyed many casual relationships (more than serious ones) and the key as you mentioned was both parties KNOWING. Some of the subscribers on this channel lashed out at me when I commented on another video where you discussed situationships and I shared my thoughts on keeping things casual. It's funny how I can never find them on videos like this where you confirm my position on some things. Great video!

Wish I had seen this 2 months earlier. Ah, you JUST uploaded it. LMAO Is it because situationships are REALLLLY trending rn?!?! What's happening in the world?!