How to find people who align with your values

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I think that this phase where we don't have any friends who deeply connect with ourselves is part of the process of developing a strong sense of self. Once you learn how to deal with yourself, you will be able to deal with people around you much better.

Here, after 69 years, I am reminded that I will never be too old to learn. Thank you.

i have this kind of philosophy that negativity and pain need not to be turned into something else. nature hurts too, there is evilness. So i dont get the point to be constantly muffling those emotions, i think by saying: "no let's be positive" or something is more harmfull than acting out those emotions as they feel.

After years of tolerating superficial friendships and toxic family members due to a fear of loneliness and ostracism, I decided to seek solitude. Finally, I am at peace.

I'm in a phase where meeting people does feel painful and exhausting. I feel like everyone is so far away, shallow or just so in the bubble of this society matrix and all the healed people live outside of this. I want to leave and find those people. Find myself and gain the confidence by that challenge. Edit: Oh my daymn, I can't believe all the comments underneath <3 Thank you! I appreciate our minds have collided in space and time ':D Also for everyone interested, if we ever meet I'll give a super hug! Moments like these when we are being real makes us closer to one another even more, so thanks y'all for being real with me :3

Empathy. Such a rare quality. I'm a big fan of this girls speaking

I would say yes. You can forgive someone but you have the RIGHT to not talk to them again. You have the choice to be around people who will resonate and treat you good

I only had superficial friendships for my first and second year of university. Then covid started and every year one of my grandparents died, it seemed like a continuous mourning and I isolated myself from everyone, including my family. The maternal grandmother died last, her last gift was a sweater and these words "don't give up, go and finish university". And so I did. I passed 9 exams in a year, but at the same time I managed to talk to only 4 people there. Then this December I collapsed and discovered what burnout is. I had enough. I wanted to live my life and I punched the imaginary barrier that separated me from the rest of the world. 4 months later and I can now say that I have reconnected with my family and contacted my old friends, I am exploring so many new places and having so many firsts. I'm currently learning the piano and the next thing I need to do is make a new friend outside my old circle. These last 4 months have been beautiful.

I found that it really helps to make a list of your values then decide on what the top 3 to 5 are. Doing this means you always have those core values in mind when you make any decision and will always live in alignment with those values. When things are hard or when things go wrong, you’ll always know that you did the right thing and that brings you a certain amount of peace. Life may not be easy but you’ll always be in alignment with yourself.

I love the potential of our generation. 27 year old raised by alternative folk who're borderline mt-top monks and I've always struggled with the... 'short mindedness' of so many, who seemingly are just trying to hustle through life.. society egg shells if you will. Say one thing, do something completely else, then blame other people, move on with no emotive or cognitive empathy, completely self absolving from responsibility... Self responsibility. There's so much music and media today, just like your video here, that are rapidly raising awareness of these core human experiential dynamics and its awesome. Spending 27 years questioning the cold hearted cognitive position of people, only to come across those same people realising the potential of their self responsibility... It is a very, humbling and gratitude instilling thing to see. There's an interesting dynamic with karma... Life isn't "what goes around, comes around"... No, that is morality imposed upon karma. Karma is simply what goes around. Karma bridges the gap between Nietzsche and Sarte... It bridges age old debate of; free will or destiny? Simply. Karma is the RIGHT to action, AND luck. .. that is life. Life is lucky to have evolved. It is so unlikely to have evolved that, life itself on this planet, could be the rarest, luckiest thing to have ever happened in the history of the universe. .... Could be. Regardless, you're pretty damn lucky to be here reading this comment. Thanks for choosing to. 🎩 Have a nice day.

0:23 You are nature. Universe experiencing itself.

This is the most valuable comment section I've ever seen.

this is a great message... finding those who align with you starts with aligning with your internal values and actually treating yourself the way you want others to treat you... once you love yourself, you cannot be around people who do not treat you the same way..

I am 25 years old guy and I totally identify with everything you say at this time in my life. Thank you so much for expressing so well this moment of personal discovery, which is quite overwhelming and sudden, but you know it is for the greater good and to become a better version of yourself. You have to accept the stages of change in life, and as you say, this is a stage of having strong values, taking action, doing more and saying less, doing things for yourself (not out of a need to prove anything to the world (Nowadays social media plays an important role here)), knowing how to have boundaries and choosing friendships that you understand and that understand you.... I don't usually leave comments, but I totally resonated with everything you said and the way you said it. Thanks.

Lately…I’ve been lonely, no major “friend connections” established…. 😢 maybe for the best…. It’s better not to force things, off course… but also..I, search for genuine connections, those might take time… no rush….no new ones… yet ❤

I am in university and I can't seem to find people who align with my values, for example I go walks in the woods by myself go swimming to the nearest lake and do outdoor activities but no one at my department likes those things so I am a bit lonely.

The last message you said while laying on grass was heart-warming. I love how you emphasize the words clearly and explain things without disconnecting it with the main context. I’m thankful that I’ve found few connections and I value those few person. It feels fulfilling and enough for me and that helped me engaged with things in better manner. I am working with myself day by day with the simplest things I do. Also, I love nature wholeheartedly💚🌳

right off the bat “there’s gotta be balance it can’t be perfect” needed this ty

5:12 I’d say leave peacefully.. a person with real peace within only gonna release peace to the outside.. and if you crossed their boundaries or mistreat them.. they value that peace so much to ruin over giving you some reaction