ADHD Autism and Anxiety

You just explained it in a way I never thought about before. "I feel responsible for other people's feelings", I can't be happy if someone else around me is sad". It's so on point.

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. I was in and off meds, mostly because I fought them pretty hard. I did go back on meds in uni, and clearly needed them. I was then told by my psychiatrist/therapist that I do not have ADHD, I have extensive trauma related issues. I was taken off of my meds, and spent hours upon hours in therapy with my doc trying to the answers she wanted to hear.....

anyways.... I was rediagnosed with ADHD this year, after she unexpectedly died last march. depression, anxiety; PTSD and compulsions .... some of which I’m just learning about now. I didn’t think I had anxiety until I literally walked into my managers office, trembling and crying after a night of dreaming of calling in sick and of hurting my patients by accident, begging her to replace me, because I just could not be responsible for anyone’s children anymore (I’m a 33yo NICU nurse.... and naturally, covid-19 added a million stressors)

So... this brings me to last night.

Last night I got caught in a rabbit hole of Instagram reels, which led me to a bunch of ADHD videos, and then some autism ones. One of my special interests is mental healthcare and I was excited to check out these pages. The more I watched, the more I realized I was seeing myself in the mirror. The answers are all here, In this diagnosis.
Anyways I’m not even certain why I’m sharing all this, other than, im stewing over things...
but thanks for posting these videos. I need them right now 💖

Thank you! I have diagnosis ADHD and am going through an ASD assessment. I'm 47 and I relate to so so much of this. Thank you. ♥️

I don’t really struggle with executive functioning as a self-diagnosed autistic. I do struggle with anxiety quite a lot.

My anxiety is usually due to my perfectionism and catastrophic thinking at times. I tend to be a black-and-white thinker, because making a decision makes my anxiety go down.

I also really like intense exercise as a way of dealing with my anxiety.

The empathy part is SO me. Feel like I should be able to help everyone feel OK and literally take on the emotional state of the other people and get overwhelmed and weighed down if I can't fix it for people!

Live my life by lists.. To do lists and other lists for every aspect of my life too!!! (I get through lots of notebooks)!!

Very helpful examples of challenging negative critical thinking, thank you x

OMG I just told my husband this the other day and friend last year. I cannot feel okay unless I know everyone else is okay too which is why people are exhausting and I need so much alone time

I think the biggest thing for me
I was diagnosed with autism,adhd and learning disability along with a few other conditions
And my entire life my family have forced their this kid has no value persona on me

Just because your child by unlucky chance won’t really be able to have an academic career doesn’t mean nothing
For absolute years and years i tried my heart out and still currently am to get GCSES even at my age now 21 but whoever is reading this don’t let other people choose your future if you weren’t born to be an academic achiever that’s absolutely perfect
No body is more valuable than anyone else

Ps i was diagnosed in 2002 with autism
2004 with adhd

Only 2 diagnosis datwsni remember but i have ged and depression aswell

About time somebody put into words what it’s like living with either or both conditions in this insanely complex world.
Thank you and keep up the incredible content

Gardening helps my anxiety. Because I'm hypermoble and disab!ed by arthritis, gardening for me means puttering around with containers and pots, but it really does take me out of my anxiety loop.

I'm so grateful your channel exists, I think I would not have realized I had autism if it weren't for channels like yours explaining what it is like to have both adhd and autism and how that can affect how autism shows itself. Your videos have a very soothing effect on me and Im so very grateful for every person that is disabled and neurodivergent sharing their experiences online. Makes me feel so much less alone, and gives me a lot of ideas on how I might shape my life to be more happy :D

"So I'm going to make that content". Oh I love that.

Maybe you could do a video on the ways adhd and autism can "cancel out" some of eachothers symptoms? For example the whole needing routine for your autism but not being able to maintain one from the adhd. Adhd making your attention span quite shorter and more out of control, yet not being able to transition between activities quickly. I don't say "my" because I'm not diagnosed with either. But I've struggled for so long... I don't think anyone's considered either because of those clashes of symptoms.

I'm not even that unusual it was a damn miracle if I could go to school 5 days in a week, most of those mornings consisting of a meltdown. And I dropped out after failing year 8...

I would like a support group,I was diagnosed with ASD at 37, this week I was diagnosed with ADHD at 39. Very isolated and family have no idea how to sort out understand me. Don't have friends.

feeling RESPONSIBLE for everyone else's feelings has plagued me my entire life. thankYou so much for making this video and sharing

I have ASD and I consider anxiety my basic personal character trait. I am not trying to remove it or control it. I am laughing at myself all the time (that helps me a lot when I do or think weird things ) but I always try to take my anxiety into consideration and adjust myself. And it works for me... I think my anxiety led to the place where I am now and I super happy about my life in general because I am in peace with myself (I am always ALWAYS anxious but super happy).

You're putting things into words that I've never heard before now. Thank you! I'm at the part of not feeling ok until everybody around you is ok. The excessive empathy thing. Oh ... very first time I ever heard that and thank you.

Great video, very relatable (I'm not diagnosed but still).
Have a lovely day :)

When I was still doing historical fencing, my friends, bless their harts, used to sit me in between them in the car, so I could not change my mind on the borders of the town and trying to leave without the car even stopping. I was really looking forward to go, but than I really did not want to go and wanted to leave the car, when I still could walk back home, but than I´ve had a great time, when they made me go. Still torn apart about what things could I do if I´d stay at home and also being at the fair made me so mentally exhausted and fulfilled at the same time. I´ve learned to crochet and bind book here on the platform and it keeps me bussy enough.

Thanks for sharing. I also have been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD (last year @ age 38) and struggle to find people that discuss their experiences with both. I find myself very conflicted with my thoughts as if they are fighting against each other constantly! I'm learning not to dive down the many rabbit holes of rumination that pop up but the constant conflict in my head is exhausting and I end up paralysed by it and am still trying to learn ways of recognising how I feel and to know what will help me recover! I have struggled with addiction most of my life and still haven't got to a place where I feel I can survive without them. Often I feel I am struggling to survive even with my addictions as I still am seeking to escape and nothing is strong enough to stop the conflict in my head! Xx

I got both ADHD and Asperger's syndrome good videos just recently started watching your videos I love keep it up 😊