The Fray - How to Save a Life (Official Video)

I know: At the very moment I'm writing these sentences, there are already 82,012 comments to this video. I might be too late, because no one ever will read this. But I have to do this. For my brother. 13 years ago, I was 17, my oldest brother just got 30. (Disclaimer: I was always the little brother, of course. Always too young to hang out with the friends of my older "cooler" brothers.) But when I got 16/17 he accepted me as a real man. Brother. "semi-mature"-guy. From 2005 to 2007 we did a lot of things together. He invited me to his home. When he did this the first time, it was one of the proudest moments of my life. Hanging out with the real dudes. Wow. You can't imagine how proud I felt. :) In 2007 my brother had to go the doctor. He had breathing problems. Long story short: He was diagnosed with lung cancer. Incurable. His lung cancer was so "rare", even doctors from the US (Hopkins Medicine School? I'm not really sure) wanted to analyze his illness. (I swear: This is no bragging. This is just the truth and extremely sad.) He knew that he will die. We all knew. In the last months he made the best out of it. We both did. We played a lot of guitar and sang together. And so the circle is complete. :) The last song we played together was this one here. We both sang. And I played the guitar. I think we did it roundabout 25 times. We stopped because we had to smoke. Yeah, he had lung cancer. He shouldn't smoke of course. But in his last days he didn't care. Nevertheless, after the last repetition of the song and when we smoked the last cigarrette: I cried as fuck. He didn't. He was so strong and happy that we shared these last "drunken moments" together. We made the best of these last days. And now: After 13 years I can finally write about it. I love you, my brother. And I will never forget you. I promise. Jani, mach's gut. Ich liebe dich. Please folks, I don't need a like/thumbsup/whatever. But please dot it for my brother. So that maybe some other people will read this and give a little smile to my brother in heaven. Love you! And: Thank you, The Fray! (Sorry: I'm not a native speaker. Here are definitely a lot of grammar/vocabulary fails in the text.)

My son killed himself almost 7 months ago. He battled depression and anxiety for over half his life. He was in counseling with both a psychiatrist and psychologist. He turned 20 the day before. Please know that there are sadly some things that you cannot change. Take care and talk to others. Suicide is a horrible way to lose someone. It is so hard not to second guess everything. He clearly had friends that love him as you do. The memories and love will be with you always. I hope you find comfort in that fact. I’m going to listen to the song and release some sorrow before I have a friend come over. Read all the words in the video. And follow them.

2024 anyone?

I'm not sure whats worse...the fact that the world feels empty without you....or the fact that I know I will never accept that you're no longer in this world.

The more you grow up the more you understand the lyrics of sad songs.

I'm a psychologist who works mainly with teenagers with severe behavioural, emotional, and addiction issues. The lines about 'staring right on through' and 'pray to god he hears you' always hit hardest for me. Kids with a life of trauma; their whole perception of reality is warped. Whatever you say, they hear it differently. Whatever you point out, they'll have an excuse. The more you push, the harder they lash out. Some will become violent, some will act dumb and distract, some will cry, some just stare numbly at you and those are the hardest because they are the ones who learned nothing they do has power and they've given up. It can take years to get to the point that they trust you enough to even hear the words you say and believe them. I had one former client bring me a shotgun shell and tell me it was the one they were going to use to kill themselves after a really bad day. I didn't know it, but the thing that stopped them was me asking them to give themselves 24 hours before making any decisions. I keep that shell on my desk as a reminder that sometimes I can make a difference because too often I can't.

Its April 2024, let's see how many legends are listening to this incredible song😉

I can’t remember this song being that deep..

I'm only 17 and this January I lost my dad from a drug overdose. I never knew he was doing drugs this was so sudden but he was the kindest dad ever, I guess he just had some problems, I love you dad I'll stay strong for you. EDIT: It's been three years since I posted this and the support and attention on this comment has been unreal everyone. I'm in a lot better of a place now than where I was back then, time is definitely one the best medicines. It'll always hurt to think about, but having good people in your life really is key. Keep going and don't give up, even if it seems that all hope is lost because things will eventually get better, which everyone's immense positivity help me realize. I can't thank anyone who left a kind comment enough for the sincere words, you guys have no idea what that meant to me I never expected this much attention. Thank you all so much and continue to stay strong!

I listened to this song on repeat in 2019, falling apart after losing my husband to an addiction. We were both addicted but I chose to get sober, though I begged him to stop he didn't. We soon grew apart, I felt every pain. There was no changing him there was only fighting. Soon the fighting became a fight to save my life. So many times I wanted to relapse just to be closer to him. I watched us turn into people I didn't recognize, he went missing and only his skeletal remains were found. Five years later, I'm still sober. I come back here to read the comments and hope to read stories with happy endings. Keep fighting, life is worth the living. God bless. 🛐🙏🏽💟

Who’s here in April 2024

You spend your childhood wanting to grow up, and you spend your adulthood wishing you were a child again

"the second you start blaming yourself for people's deaths, there's no coming back"

Stop asking "who's listening" or "still listening", we never stopped listening

I lost a friend yesterday. Didn't see it coming. I wish I was there when he needed me. He always was for me.

Teachers: “get in groups of 3” The 4th homie:

Praying for my brother right now hoping he will survive cancer 😞

Lyrics: Step one, you say we need to talk He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk He smiles politely back at you You stare politely right on through Some sort of window to your right As he goes left, and you stay right Between the lines of fear and blame You begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Let him know that you know best 'Cause after all, you do know best Try to slip past his defense Without granting innocence Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along And pray to God he hears you And I pray to God he hears you And where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life As he begins to raise his voice You lower yours and grant him one last choice Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life

💜2024 And this gem continues to shine 💖💎🔥

my wife died 2 months ago, after a hard year with endless hospital visits, chemo therapys, operations, everything. she was only 30 years old. I love her so much and miss her every day. still dont know how to handle it, when the woman you love more than anything else die in your arms. everyone please stay safe and healthy.