My Millennial Existential Crisis: I'm Just 38, So People Can't Relate

I haven’t really have the time to watch you but I was wondering if you had any tips for me for hair loss.Im only 14 I started losing hair at 13 I have a little receding hairline and on the side of my hard there are thin lines with no hair.I have decent hair on my body for my age especially on my leg.I have a dry scalp as well.My dad went bald at 23 and my grand father went bald at 70. Thank you for your time and tips.

I completely understand what you're going through, but I can't relate. I'm 17 and haven't checked off a single box, probably never will!

Financial matters or age might not really be the issue. I think we are all in a culture with perceived expectations. You've met those expectations and I think you're wondering what's next. I want to draw a parallel to Atheism. I think we might agree that religions are sub-cultures with perceived expectations. Many Atheists have (consciously or not) removed themselves from those religious expectations, but are left with the same type of existential questions that you might have. Not to dismiss or downplay the importance of culture, but the root cause of this existential crisis isn't not having perceived expectations to live up to (or boxes to check off as you've said.) In my opinion the issue is not that the expectations are now missing, it's understanding that the expectations weren't real. Yes, you've worked hard to achieve what you have (and there's nothing wrong with that), but at this point you might realize you didn't have to. Don't get me wrong, we all have basic needs that should be met, but I'd argue that the position you are in is way beyond meeting basic needs. Even without checking off all those boxes and working so hard, you probably would have easily met all the basic needs of life. It's only now that your perceived expectations have been met that you might realize those expectations were just a distraction from the questions that were always there. The question of what I should be doing now is irrelevant. There's nothing that I think I should do. What drives me is what I want to do. It's a subtle difference and might seem selfish, but I don't think it is selfish at all. When you remove yourself from the expectation meeting game, you make it easier for others to achieve their goals. Whether their goals are perceived expectations or not is irrelevant, the point is you aren't taking anything away from others, so there's no reason to think it's selfish. I was discussing free will in the comments of another of your videos. I'm assuming that as a Christian you believe in free will. Try to think what life would be like for someone who doesn't believe in free will. How would their life be different than yours? What makes them do anything? I think not believing in free will is almost synonymous to not having those cultural expectations. 'Should' doesn't matter anymore, what matter is what 'is.' Building on the idea of doing what you want and not having free will, you don't even have control of your wants and desires. So now you wouldn't have any pressure or expectations at all on what you should be doing or what you are even thinking. I propose this experiment. Set aside a day and don't plan on doing anything. Just wake up in the morning and see what you do. I can almost guarantee that you won't lie in bed in a state of existential paralysis. Just do whatever feels natural at the moment. This to me is how to escape from the existential crisis. No expectations, no pressure, but if you find you are compelled to do something out of some desire, there's nothing holding you back either. (disclaimer: I'm not saying you are justified to go around raping and murdering on a whim. even without expectations, consequences are a real thing. I'm pretty sure that you [yes, you specifically] won't be compelled to be a horrible person. I obviously wouldn't propose this experiment to everyone.) All that being said, it's quite possible that I have no idea what I'm talking about or that I completely couldn't relate to your situation.

The difference between your generation and this one is never has there been such an obsession with appearance. You have kids on your channel who are traumatised that they might already be receding. What they look like in an Instagram selfie and how many likes they get seem to matter more than their non-cyber life.