ADHD and Me: How did harmful narratives sustain my silent struggle? | Kate Luebkeman | TEDxQuestU

Something that still bugs me is how people will say "everyone has ADHD"

ADD should be called "Executive Function Disorder."

Same! I got really good at hiding my ADHD that I didn’t know I had 😢 I tried to copy other people for years and years, I’m 53 and just diagnosed. I’m relieved but a just a tiny bit angry that my life could have been better years ago.

I like how she mentioned that ADHD is not even recognized or fully understood in various parts of the world. When I lived in Japan, the concept seemed to be foreign, or the idea of being somewhat normal yet neuro deficient just didn’t exist. It’s either you succeed or you don’t. It’s either you work hard or you don’t. Everything is determined by test scores, which is a nightmare for most people with ADHD.

I'm 68. All my life I've struggled to do what was expected of me, to understand what was going on around me and to be appropriate. My memory has always been bad, I lose and misplace things constantly, struggle to be on time, have constant anxiety and cannot keep a clean house and avoid social occasions whenever possible. I'm tired of being called lazy, disorganized, rude, flakey, eccentric,weird when I'm trying so hard. Most of the time I'm exhausted. At least now that I'm old not many demands are being made on me but I would like to know what it is to be happy and to feel equilibrium before I leave this world.

I’m nearly 50. I’ve recently recognised the traits of adhd and it’s making soooo much sense for how my life is. For me it comes with some amazing highs and some huge lows. I’ve suffered a lot with chronic pain and that’s very common with adhd people. No one talks about it.

I’m grateful to hear someone else share such a similar story!

"Be a better friend." I think this is a beautiful sentiment that can easily be applied in so many situations.

I'm ADHD, but I have adjusted very well. I'm still nowhere near neurotypical, but I can stay quiet more than I used to (pain changes people). Since I'm aware I talk a lot during convos, I make a conscious effort to make sure the other person gets equal time to talk. Maybe cause I think of it as a game, and I win cause I didn't hog the convo/it was balanced. Haha I want people to like me, but, heck, even after I do what is "right" they still are intimidated by my "energy." Oh, well! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Really wish they would have shown her highlighted slide of what she struggles with. But I really appreciate this talk! I was just diagnosed this year and I'm in my late 20s

I've seen 100 videos so far, TEDx and otherwise, on this topic. And ADHD is different in everyone i know, but how it's described here, fits what i experience to a tee... Though, i'm 43 and haven't been diagnosed yet, but i've been trying to get into see a therapist for the past 2-3 years, but because of Covid, the waiting lists in Denmark have gotten REAL long. So i can't see an ADHD specialized therapist until 2024... Been diagnosed with anxiety and depression previously... But i've come to realize those are symptoms for me, not causes for my problems... But oh well, i'll get there... Thanks for a brilliant video, even if it was scary accurate to what i experience on a daily basis...

This was a fantastic and clear talk!

I appreciate TED talks :3

Very informative and well presented. Lots of information and ADHD friendly, even. Excellent. Thank you. ❤🎉

Thank You ✨💜✨

Very helpful, great talk!

Great presentation. You took into account a lot of the info that’s already on YouTube Ted Talks.

Thanks for this 🙏🏼❤️

Story of my life.

Very well said. The latter you get diagnosed the worst is the damage. I was diagnosed with 30 something and still today struggling with 70 mg Elvanse