What does BREAD CRUMBING have to do with TRAUMA BONDING?

I heard great advice: Don't let the history keep you in misery. Sometimes, things are over.

I think one of the cruelest things is when a parent breadcrumbs a child, desperate for the love of that parent.

Bread crumbing can be really harmful when hope comes to play

One of my greatest breakthrough in my healing, was realizing that I had a history of accepting crumbs in my friendships and putting in too much effort to keeping the relationship going.

I always took pride in needing so little. OMG I'm almost 70!

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

'It's easier to blame yourself...until it isn't. ' It's like waking up and seeing something for the first time despite the fact that it's been the reality for a long, long time. Thank you Dr Ramani.

When you settle for bread crumbs, you'll always be starving.

Dr. R's last comment ... " Until it isnt. " And you quit trying, accept that they will Never, Ever change.. Move on. And detach. And its the best I've felt in ten years. !! 😊😊😊

Totally learning I deserve more, and don’t have to chase, please, appease, or earn love. I don’t accept breadcrumbs anymore. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

There’s a guy at my CHURCH who doesn’t even be in relationships with these women, but he breadcrumbs them in friendships where they hope, even for years, that he will finally choose them as a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. It’s so sad and I’m so glad I got out of it before I got stuck in this disgusting cycle.

"The relationship is rationalized on ... the absence of abuse." Ouch. My life for so many years....

Bread crumbing is probably one of the most cruel manipulation strategies because it "cooks" you slowly and steadily. The more compromises you make the further you get from your true self. And that shows how vital is for everyone to be able to set healthy boundaries and, if needed, go no contact with people who gradually degrade and devaluate you.

After years of feeling, I was never enough & settling for breadcrumbs. His worst behaviour, which was often violent, became my final exit out of that toxic entanglement . Inflicting Breadcrumbing in any relationship is such a cruel behaviour

So glad you addressed this insidious, cowardly technique. No one deserves this starvation diet. I had a narcissist slither back into my life a few years ago. I was able to see the whole process for what it was. To me breadcrumbing is one of the most insulting, disrespectful things you can do to someone. To me it is a sign it is "Time to go." And I did. No explanation to the narcissist, no goodbye. I blocked everything. Not my problem. So different from the way I used to be. Took me a long time to get here. So grateful you are teaching this now so other people can be saved.

4:06 "The bar moves so low that you basically have to tunnel to get under it." I'm going to write that one down and reflect on it.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

"It's always easier to blame ourselves. Till it isn't". Wise words that could apply in a number of circumstances.

I found myself accepting friendships for me, that were no better than my Narc, until i realised how i felt when i got rid of everyone who were no good for me, whuch was a hell of a lot better. 🍒

I don’t even want to say how horrible and so few bread crumbs that can be given without any shame it’s crazy they don’t see it or care