The Invisible Challenges of Stuttering | Ruban Pillai | TEDxFolkestone

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This talk aims to help everyone understand how challenging stuttering can be, both psychologically and emotionally, as these aspects are often overlooked when discussing stuttering. What people don’t see is that the fear of stuttering can dictate almost every decision a person makes.

Stuttering (also known as Stammering) is a neurological speech condition that affects 1% of the world’s population.

A person’s self-esteem, confidence and mental health will slowly deteriorate through years of negative experiences and their entire lives will be shaped around their fear of stuttering in public. Society still sees stuttering as a comical quirk but it is a serious condition that has led to people taking their own lives.

There isn’t a traditional happy ending to this talk but, more importantly, there is a call to action for us all to consider. We need to stop looking at stuttering as something to fix and instead help people who stutter feel safe enough to express themselves regardless of how they sound. This is when the real transformation will begin.
Ruban Pillai is a British born Tamil and he has been overtly stuttering since the age of 4. After over 20 years of silence, he started to speak openly about the topic to his family and community and has since given talks to help raise awareness of stuttering at universities, places of employment, TV and radio.

As a graduate seeking employment in banking and finance, Ruban used to leave presentations and job interviews disgruntled and prospective employers told him that he could not progress due to his stutter. Ruban persevered and, alongside his full-time career, he has acted as a change maker within the industry to help ease the path for others experiencing the same challenges.

He has spent the past 5 years opening up about his challenges publicly and has helped others do the same and transform the world around them.

To find out more information head to rubanpillai.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
コメント (21)
  • @Swan584
    Fluent or "normal" speakers can never fathom what it is like to live with this condition. It changes your life forever
  • @you-ry2bh
    U know what the best part of stammerers is ..we think twice before taking any decisions in good and bad ..while others ruin in first place ... It teaches how to be calm and get learn and make best decision out of it...and slowly it empowers and encourags our self - esteem .. i think it's gem to me and so ok to be a part of it... because it teaches life every second even after overcoming through it... It's all in hands of God... praise for it ❤️
  • @tripurari9309
    Don't fight with stutter, don't hold back, don't repress, don't hide stutter. Do not label it bad, do not try to speak fluent, ,do not control it but accept expressing stutter, give stutter it's total freedom,then transformation happened own its own, accepting whatever negative inside you, transformation happen, Root cause of sluttering is repression and fighting , we repress and fight with it because we have fear of judgement of people, what will people think if I express it, so instead of expression we hide it and we fight with it , that causes more sluttering, the more you fight with it , the more you will stutter, that'how blockage occurs "Acceptance is the alchemical process of transforming everything, in accepting your ugliness beauty arises, accept and ugliness disappear,grace arises, accept and sin is transformed into saintliness, accept and madness is no longer madness, let it happen and accept it, ". said by Osho He said"By hiding your misery you are not going to get out of it,you will create more misery,the first thing is to encounter it, if you are miserable then be miserable,just be yourself,never pretend to be somebody else,face it, go deep into it,take it out,uproot it from the unconscious and bring it to the conscious. Bring your whole mind to light and you will see all that is miserable ,start dying.."
  • @RealManArab
    I'm 37 years old single man I've never had a decent job or life partner because of stuttering. I've been to speech therapy, but it never worked. Life is already difficult, imagine how difficult could it be with stuttering. 😩💔
  • @peterkulczycki6244
    Great talk Ruban, it was a pleasure to meet you over a virtual coffee. You should be immensely proud of this.
  • @ricardosimard
    Well done Ruban. You are such a great and inspiring communicator. Keep it up!
  • @ThuongLe-gu4nc
    Thank you so much for your wonderful sharing. I really appreciate you and your effort to help stutterers find a solution for their problem. I have a nephew who is also a stutterer and I fully understand how hard his life is. He is quite young so he easily gets embarrassed when communicating with his peers. Now I get a useful guideline from your insightful speech to support my nephew. Encouragement from family members and being disciplined when practicing speaking at home are factors to get his confidence back. Once again, I'm so grateful for your informative video.
  • @navdham1639
    Love it Ruban. Full respect to this and thank you, as a fellow stammerer, for raising awareness in this way. Great analogy too.
  • @dzakijabbarmahdi17007
    I am thankful and so s atisfied to see my name on this video subtitle, especially for English transcription. Overall, The topic that the speaker talked here was very interesting and insightful as well. As a translator, I got a piece of new knowledge and thoughts after watching this video and loved listening to his British accent as well. Good job, Ruban! Pleasant working with TED Translator Community!
  • @toughlovestutter
    Excellent! I had a severe stutter until I was about 35 and finally figured out wtf was going on. Growing up I was a human punching bag and a mental wreck throughout my 20's. Im happy now, successful and 90% fluent. I speak better but that wounded part of me still exists, I don't know if the fear ever really goes away or if its a fight you fight forever.
  • @AjayMathur
    Great to see your talk Ruben.. great job ...
  • @Ruban_
    Just over 2 years on since this talk and I very much appreciate the comments that still come through. Keep going everyone, I still stutter very much but the key is to keep focussed on the outcome and less on how fluent you sound 💌💬