When Narcissists Refuse To Accept Your Boundaries, featuring Dr. Jaime Zuckerman

Narcissist's are rebellious people and they like a challenge, whatever boundary you put up they will find a way around it so they can declare themselves the winner.

Boundaries are just a challenge for the narc. Save yourself some time and just walk away and go no contact. Period.

Boundaries are for us, irrespective of narcissist oppositional attitude.

We are everything the narcissist isn't! They can cause pain but they can't ever reach your core. Your core is intact, beautiful and just waiting to fully emerge. We'll get there!

It's mind boggling what a Narcissist does to survive at the expense of their supply.

Dignity. Civility. Respect. They cannot give that!

I need this today. Told my family I would not be at a family gathering Xmas eve and instead will do something on Xmas with my grandma. My aunts had a fit and even had my grandpa call me to tell me I hurt their feelings and he's disappointed...so bizarre it isn't like this is the only time we can see people.

No contact ...no supply and no attention will kill them quicker than anything else we "could" deliver. No chaos, no arguing, no care. This has worked for me! Ifcourse there will be slander, gang stalking, gossip ect. They arr naturally fearful so....my distant communication came from an attorney. Boundary set with consequences to follow in the future if boundaries🎉 were not observed. Be Strong and Couragious for The Lord will take care of the justice that is needed to end their plots!

Im making my own separate decisions. There is fall out but im so distanced emotionally that i dont care any more. Im not scared any more.

This is it: to put a name to the chaos you live in! Otherwise you are drowning into their toxic behavior.

I left my abusive narcissistic nex just over a year ago. Healing has involved a joyous process of "getting better" at setting and living by healthy boundaries, and guess what.....some people don't like it!...they don't like the new healthy you. (Your genuine friends LOVE you having healthy boundaries) I've learned how it helps you discern between your healthy, genuine friends / family / colleagues, and those whom you need to avoid.

I remember having that light bulb moment, which was very freeing but also very shocking. I realized the gravity of my abuse. Knowing that the narcissist doesn't think the same is also essential. I don't argue with them or give them much feedback. The narcissist does get angry but it works. And it is good to be yourself again. Even though the narcissist think differently their thinking is often not in line with reality.❤

Knowledge of that narcissistic person’s in my like gave me freedom and healing and control 😊

Such an honor to have been a guest. Thank you for an excellent discussion! Look forward to many more :)

Setting boundaries with my covert narcissist was always futile. His first response, if he had any at all, was a quiet OK, seemingly agreeable, to later find out it made him mad and stuffed it. There is no communicating healthy boundaries with a covert narcissist so if you stay, prepare yourself to be on a perpetual hamster wheel of bread-crumbing.

Asserting boundaries is a direct attack on their ego. It has caused narcissistic injury ime

The Narcissist in my marriage gets largely violent if I set a boundry. To the point of that he expresses severe anger, throwing things, and saying things for example, "look at what you did to my life!"

This was SO GOOD. Dr. Z is AMAZING!! Where was she when I was really going through it? I wish she woulda been my therapist.

Remember who is in control of you! Don't let anyone touch ur thermostat of pain tolerance or anger. Try to save energy and dial it down a notch everyday.

This is interesting because, as a child of a narcissistic mother, it was difficult to set boundaries so I created a way to do so by just doing things and not informing my mother who was woefully unaware of what was actually going on in the family. My father was out of the picture by that time because my mother divorced him instead of learning to get along - she could not. I am the 2nd child, oldest girl, and much of daily life fell to me because my mother really wasn't "present" in the sense that she could actually function as an adult. I have an older brother who was out of the house by the time I was in high school so he wasn't part of the picture, having left to save his sanity. But, even though I was "creative" in forging a type of boundary her belittling, name calling, constant degrading us, etc. her nasty, mean behavior has still left its mark on me and I've had to work hard to realize I do have worth. I, too, eventually fled my mother's house to save my sanity. I also realize most of the men who came into my life were controlling and uncaring and I really had no voice, so I still used my "creative" way to set boundaries. I think that helped me move forward in small increments. I have found that being alone (with no partner or companion) is so much better than being with the wrong person. I much prefer animals to most people because of what I experienced as a child and young adult. Thank you, Dr. C for what you share.