Here are Signs No One Listened To You in Childhood

One of the most difficult things about other people not listening or silencing us is that it can cause us to learn not to listen to ourselves.

Home @ Dinner: Be quiet at the table and eat School: Be quiet Work: Be quiet and get on with your work

2:12 "It's hard to have confidence in yourself when the way you relate to people had to be invented by a little kid."

Not listened to as an adult either.

I used to get wildly inappropriate gifts as a boy. My parents did had no idea what I actually liked and never gave any indication that they cared. The gifts were purely an expression of a joyless obligation.

I was ignored, told I was stupid and hit when I did try to get attention. My grandfather never spoke to me ever! I was adopted into this family. I was constantly told how I didn’t belong to them, I was somebody else’s “cast off”. I’m 62 now and I have a wonderful family. I swore I’d never treat my children like that. My father never talks to his grandchildren, I think they are very lucky that he doesn’t. My boys are in their 30’s now and have their own children who are all amazing. I still have a lot of trouble talking to my own children, but thankfully they have no trouble talking to me. I’m very lucky to have them. Thank you for your videos they do help me. ❤.

I was treated like a houseplant, and to this day I'm still basically prophesizing and then telling people before and after things happens that I warned them

I was the family scapegoat of a large family. At 10, I was sexually assaulted by my sister’s fiancee. I told my mom about it and she sent me to my room as if I did something wrong. This continued for several months. My mom always sent me to my room. This ended when my sister got married. This event has changed the trajectory of my life in many ways. When I was a teenager I often had challenges holding in my sadness as I wasn’t treated well. My mom would laugh at me in disgust. I always felt like a burden. It’s a long road having to face all of that alone. I finally got myself professional help when I was in my 20s. I’m human and I still have scars. I will never understand why my mother didn’t protect me and why she allowed it to continue. I was never heard as a child and never seen or valued. One day at a time! None of this was my fault. I know my self worth and I understand why I have done a lot of things the way that I did. Please know that each and every one of you are here for a reason!

I was raised to be seen and not heard. All I ever heard was “No”. I was told “No don’t say that” or “No don’t do that.” And my favorite… “No, you don’t want that.” Everybody was impressed because my parents raised such a good child, but they didn’t raise a good adult. Still figuring things out on my own now.

Realizing all of this now at 46 seems like I’ve wasted my whole life living with these “symptoms”. I go “oh, is that why I couldn’t find anybody to love me”. It hurts.

I’m not sure I remember my mother ever asking me if something was wrong. I know I didn’t feel seen or heard.

This is so enlightening. I grew up with 4 loud and belittling brothers. They laughed at anything I tried to say. Our mom was working all the time as a single mom. As an adult now in groups even family it takes a while to get the attention to say something I want to say.. then when all eyes are on me I blank out and forget what I’d wanted to say. 😂 I feel angry at how loud they all are and have just stopped trying at all…but I judge them! I avoid people now and am pretty much alone with my cats and raccoons 😂. They are respectful. I like animals better than people!

Growing up my parents would tell us don’t speak, unless spoken too, kids were seen not heard

I definitely wasn’t listened to. Especially during my teenage years. It really comes from my stepmom. I wasn’t allowed to cry, I wasn’t allowed to be angry, I wasn’t allowed to be upset, and I wasn’t allowed to communicate and speak up. But then the funny thing is this. If my stepmom saw a troubled look on my face, and she would ask me what was wrong, I tried to convince her that nothing was wrong. So she would get mad because I wasn’t communicating to her what was wrong so that way she could fix it and help me. So, with her, I was trapped. I wasn’t allowed to Xpress myself, but then again, I wasn’t allowed to not communicate what was wrong.

i'm turning 50 this year and only recently realized my entire relationship with my mother was a still-face experiment

Spot on 💯%. Nobody listens to me as an adult either. I believe I have a lot to say that is valuable, but people are so caught up in themselvss and their pride. I'm so over just about everyone at this point. Feels like Im talking to a brick wall all the time. Or CONSTANTLY interrupted. People's listening skills are garbage.

This has so many things that describe my behavior…that I hate, so I isolate.

I try not to resent my family. Nobody ever cared for me. They didn’t teach me how to be a person. I had only one good friend. I didn’t know how. I wasn’t told I was good or smart. I look back and think of how my life could have been better if anyone had encouraged my many talents. I know I had them, but I let them go. I can write and run and swim. I could have excelled, but I never tried because they didn’t care.

Pretty much from birth for me. Born after a chronically ill brother and a brother 14 months younger. I was alone a lot and not allowed to have needs or emotions. I felt like an invisible balloon floating over everyone waiting to be noticed and brought back to earth. I still feel like this often at 60. Never attached to a safe adult.

PTSD since I was 6..in the middle of my dad's killing. I'm 72 now & wow... Thank you .. this is me.. I couldn't even communicate till I was 12.. life was hell no one talked to me about it..ever..but I can talk about it now..