Dealing with Difficult People

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There’s only so many times you can fake a smile with really difficult people.

I've been seen as the difficult person simply for not smiling, even though I'm not doing anything. I've actually had strangers become hostile towards me for not smiling like they expect me to. If this person simply wants me to be happy they have a weird way of showing it. Smh

So how do you deal with it if you're the difficult person?

This especially sucks when the person you deal with is your mother

Today, someone in my neighborhood asked me what to do with a clinically depressed person who's off their meds, and had expressed thoughts of suicide. They want him to get help, but they don't know how to get him to trust the doctor. The best I was able to do for them was to point them to your website (you've helped me with good advice on dealing with my own problems after all). I hope I did what was best in this situation.

they spelled psychologist wrong. cute :p

The most difficult people are the people that tell you you're bad because you're not happy. That's kind of narrow-minded, if you ask me.

Being positive isn't pretending bad things are good, it's focusing on what good is there, no matter how small. Everywhere in life there is both good and bad, otherwise the universe couldn't exist. Positivity involves thinking more about positive things, gratitude, and taking in the little things in life. If you really spend time thinking about the little things, you begin to realize how they can become symbolic of bigger things, things that are often positive. The big positive things many of us don't think about or appreciate enough. Like the very fact you are alive, for example. Or, if you are any type of theist, the fact that there is a God/Gods and why you love them. If you are an atheist, than the fact that you are such an astounding coincidence. No matter who you are, there is at least one huge good thing in life, and you can find it by focusing on the small things.

Moody and difficult person are my nightmares since im a fragil person rjeglrtkru

Sooo my bf is a depressive intelligent introvert who despises beeing helped but also in a deep need for help. Yea that summs it up pretty well. Wth am i gonna do tho :<

I like how this address the problem objectively rather than subjectively...this actually helps me so much. I've been doing most of this things actually before I've watch this video.

I was once told by a former partner that I will not be happy as long as we are together because he is difficult to deal with. Those words shuck me to the core.

This is quite relatable because I/m one of those difficult people, especially towards my family.

Good delivery dis video, on the table, pure simple, (Not easy, but simple!) and well said, +1 Like.

I thought my notifications were two months late. And then my brain turned on and realized they aren't actually two months late.

As I smile, I want nothing more than to cry As I weep, I crave an eternal sleep I live in a fog of confusion I seek an clear and sunlit vision I sometimes want to just die To create a better world and a new life For the other hurting souls in a self dug hole Yet I want to think alive But here I am, scratching myself with knives Then I think and again think To achieve anything, my conscious must sink As I think of infinite universes, I see life as a meaningless repeated verse What is wrong with me, I ponder, Am I really anything more than a bother To every other being Who in this universe is still seeing As I think all alone The seed of death is sown For all of us As my selfish lust for life endures I should die, but want to live I want to perish through a sieve Why am I still here Because our own destiny we cannot steer. (this is what my imaginary friend said to me as her subconscious connected momentarily to my existence, two universes out of an infinite amount communicating and contradicting yet again, through a phenomenon we refer to as dreaming) She is my only friend. I think you can see why. Is this loneliness or just me? Yep, it's just me. Either way, I say good night and may you dream happily as any of the infinite versions of you seek your conscious in a parallel existence.

I think keeping in mind where someone's coming from really helps in most situations that are negative or difficult. Reasoning that they are being more reactive than is necessary because they're stressed because of work or they're really pushing you to take out the trash because they equate small acts of service with a display of love and they're feeling under-appreciated or self-conscious so a gesture like that is what they need at that point, that kind of thing can help a little. It doesn't change what's happening or make it okay. It's not an excuse, but a reason. If you understand the person's motivation you have more of a chance to figure out how to combat the problem at its source and not just keep fighting off the symptoms. Sometimes they're super pushy to go to a game or watch a movie with you not just because they're looking forward to it, but because they may feel like they need one on one time and/or are lonely and maybe it reminds them of better times in the friendship/relationship. Or they might blow up over you not texting when you're late from work not just because they were worried about you but because it's what their ex used to do and they're afraid this relationship will turn out the same way and they need to be reminded that it won't necessarily end up like that. If you don't see the real problem, you don't have a lot of hope that you'll stumble onto any real solution. Remembering that you care about this person and you don't want to hurt them in any negative situation and taking a step back so that doesn't happen is imperative. It'll keep from the one point of friction leading to a string of problems and fights and keep from more damage being done to the relationship. Realizing it might not make sense for them to react they way they do, but that it comes from a history of pain is also helpful. Whether it's neglect, abuse, loneliness, or betrayal, things that have happened in the past make it seem like their reaction is justifiable, in their minds. They don't want to experience that pain again, so oftentimes they're trying to protect themselves. People will go to great lengths to avoid pain. Remembering this might help tamp down frustration or hurt and engender some extra empathy to deal with a disappointing interaction.

I have 5 children. All raised generally the same. The two that are the most difficult have been that way since we could remember. Some people just feed off of the happiness of others, without any real way of generating their own.

There will always be people that do the opposite of what you want. And some of that cannot be changed, i believe its just how some people are. Best thing is to not take everything personally and have likeminded people around.