The Number One Reason Traumatized People Pull Away

How is it that I’ve gone to 4 different therapists over the years and tried to articulate the symptoms and felt unheard or like I have something unfixable wrong with me and I’m just doomed. Yet, you talk about this and it’s honestly like you’ve watched my life and you are describing how I’ve been living in precise detail? This is the first time ever that it feels like someone understands and I’m not just some defective human with insurmountable problems that are only my experience/problem.

the sun is setting, and i finally got out of bed today . I just wanted someone to know I made it.

Being around people is exhausting. I'd rather be alone.

I find that the older I have gotten, the more I isolate. So much hurt and pain in my past…I’m often tortured by it.

Not ever have I regretted isolating. Not ever do I feel lonely when I am alone. But I do regret being with people often.

"We need to be socialized or we get rusty." Some of us never knew how to socialize to begin with.

I'm 70 and twice divorced. I've been alone for 10 years and have felt peace and contentment for the first time in my life. I dont avoud people but I no longer seek connection. I'm fine. We all die alone.

I'm 56 and I've isolated most of my adult years. I love it - no jealous friends to cut your throat or "loving" family to use you dry.
Socializing may work for some, but cut off from the world is the happiest life for me.
Many Blessings to All...

Isolation has saved my life while destroying it.

I don’t believe the only healthy way to live is a social

I AM NOT LONELY when I am alone
I’m only lonely when I’m out trying to pretend other people are worth the effort

The more people the more drama.

I love being alone! It’s healing. I heard a lady say (concerning Christmas)...”I tell my friends I’m going to be with family...and I tell my family I’m going to be with friends...and I stay home alone...and just love it”! I’m using that one!!!

I also prefer to isolate but I’m not really alone, I’m with me.

For me it's survival - I isolate to survive when it all gets too much.

Saying “yes” makes me feel trapped and it immediatelydisregulates me. Isolating is not fun but is needed.

This really hits my heart. Isolating is safe. It gets hard to believe there're kind people when you haven't known kindness

After years and years of reaching out and trying to keep relationships alive, I have given up on these one way relatiomships..... family, friends, romantic, etc. I am a beautiful person inside and out with so much love to give to others but it is always one way. This christmas i refused to do it again. I stayed by myself, took a long walk, made good food, laughed at funny shows. Honestly i feel more connected with you people on this commebt thread than i do with my own family members. Not one even texted or called to say merry Christmas. I am sorry for everyone else going through the same thing and i wish you all a better 2024.

When something negative happens to you once and you withdraw, that's an overreaction. When it happens over and over and over and you withdraw, that's just you acknowledging the preponderance of the evidence.

Noway i am never meeting toxic family members ever again.
They are the reason for my trauma and anxiety.

As someone with no friends no family, no work no school and 40. I am a master at NOT WANTING ANYTHING. - I don't see a world to participate in!