The Signs A Loved One May Have PTSD [& How to Spot Them]

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No joke this is one of my favorite mental health channels. Interviewer is so so easy to listen to, very likable guy. It truly helps! Thank you for all this rad content!

Same here. 45 years after mother killed herself (I was 5) and I still cry. Knowing that I’m just making space for her is just beautiful.

Crying is good for you. It releases tension and emotional pain.

My grandmother lived next door from the time I was 6-16. The two weeks before she died I sat with her all day in the hospital. I remember one thing she said to me during those 10 days. She said, “Why do they keep sticking these needles in me? My mother said, “That was my momma.” She nor dad ever acknowledged she was my grandmother. I was sent to stay with cousins I barely knew. After the funeral I was put in the car with our pastor for the two hour drive home. Tears finally came but I thought it would get out of control so I dissociated. I remember tears and hard rain. That was August. The next memory I have is getting up late for school in October and asking mom why she didn’t wake me up. She said she was taking me to get my drivers license. I had no memory of starting a new school in September. For the next 25 years when the subject came up I’d tear up. After a couple months of therapy I realized I wasn’t her favorite. She merely let me follow her around because I was there and didn’t get in her way. I cried for a month. Now I can talk about her and remember things like the time she pointed out a mint plant and plucked a leaf for me to taste or watching her redo her hair bun and she turned to me and said, “A woman’s hair is her glory.” I’m in my 70th year and can sit on my hair. I never cry for her now. She is part of me.

Living in the society we do, there seems to be a mentality that showing our emotions is something we need to examine and regulate. Labels of negative and positive emotions is damaging. Once you label something as good or bad we start to judge ourselves and others based on societal norms. There is nothing wrong with remembering a loved one via some sort of stimuli and shedding a tear or two. I still shed a tear whenever I remember loved ones, no matter how long they have been gone.

One of the problems I have that this video helped me understand is that just because I had repeated terrifying trauma, those incidents don’t negate the small traumas. I’ve always thought that I was defective when I couldn’t handle what everyone around me considered an everyday type of event, like a grandparent dying. It never dawned on me that someone stealing my Christmas present was traumatic to a two year old. I was expected to not display any emotion about it or discuss it with anyone, which made it more traumatic for me. When you add up all the small, medium, large, and unbelievably awful traumas I’ve experienced, it’s no wonder that I have so many mental and physical health issues. Thank you. It helps to understand that it’s not just the “big ticket” events that caused the PTSD. When you assess the cumulative trauma, my problems make much more sense to me.

I currently have PTSD. My life changed started when both my parents died. My wife left me together with my 7 YRs old daughter. I can't stay on a company longer than 1 year. I just AWOL on my previous company and I'm jobless this coming Christmas. I always feel that I will gonna die either heart attack or stroke. I don't feel safe even inside of my house. I need help but I don't know where to get. Life is getting hard for me...

I think losing your mother at 16 would count as a traumatic event. Bravo to you for carrying on. I don't get close to anyone. So when they die, I don't have to be upset. Those times I have cried, I was so embarrassed I wanted to stab myself in the gut to stop the feeling. Anyway, great channel. Looking forward to working my way through all the videos.

What about when you’re unable to cry at all following trauma, where once crying appropriately was possible. Being unable to cry at all is a problem. Thanks to you both for this video.

This discussion was so good 🙌 🙌 🙌 🙏 Kyle (great interviewer) and the doctor 👩🏻‍⚕️ (so articulate)... I just love the way she explains things. 💖💖💖

I'm glad this is a great in-depth view of a specific area of issues from several people. The questions asked are great.

When he mentioned his mother being associated with the piano and how he couldn’t handle hearing classical music at time. That really touched me and I started to cry. I can relate to judging myself for my emotions. I am learning to let myself cry and trying to be kinder to myself. Thanks for sharing that Kyle.

Wow. Really awesome! Thank you for an excellent much needed talk

Great video! Would love to see more content from her!

The hymn, Rock of Ages, used to make me cry. It was used at my brother's funeral. Elderly men which reminded me of my deceased father I& brought tears while I was part of a caroling group.

Amazing Conversation!Thanks very much both of you!👏👍🙏❤️

Good video. Thank you for sharing. People can diagnose our own PTSD knowing our history and understanding what distresses us. But not all of us seek out professional help because of finances and I am also doing well. 😀 But I have had counseling sessions with pros before and they were lovely, and one pro was a horrible match for me.

I think this video is calling out every single thing that is wrong with both the medical and mental health systems. Incorrect diagnosis and improper treatment is so abundant. It’s a total roll of the dice on what you get.

trauma has taken over my life I can't sleep its hard to eat and I'm sad angry or scared constantly I try drinking but even then memories flood my mind and I can't regulate emotions navigating the counseling lists is scarry but I understand the need for more help