Losing friends & struggling with loneliness, an honest reflection on adult friendships 🌸 A cozy vlog

For everyone watching, you SHOULD lose friends as you age! Everyone goes through changes, you disagree on fundamental beliefs, you get busy. It doesn’t make you or the other person bad if either stops reaching out, it just means you’ve grown. I was so scared when I started losing friends I’d had throughout high school, until I realized we were only friends because of proximity. They formed me, they were fundamentally important to who I am now, but we grew apart because we didn’t need each other anymore. It’s okay :)

Beautiful kindred spirits who long for connection but struggle with making new friends, you are not alone. My closest friends all live in different cities to me, and I can totally relate to the "dull ache" Morgan mentioned. It hurts so much to be left out, Morgan I feel your pain deeply. It is really difficult making and maintaining close friends as an adult, especially those deeper bonds that "fill you up" as a human being, that make you feel "seen". Mo, I love you very much (although we haven't met in person) because in my heart I know you are one of "my people" ❤️

You have a heart of gold, please know that. You have 90k+ friends right here 😌

I was talking about this with my husband today. His perspective was so helpful as when I said I was sad about losing friends over the years -he said ‘But they made you lose yourself and no friend should do that!’ Great clouds btw.

I had 2 friends, seniors that were so supportive. One passed away last year at 104. The other will be 94 in August, but has advanced Alzheimers. They taught me so much about resilience, determination, perseverance and strength. I also learned about being in the moment and making someone a gift of your attention and time. I told them, years ago, that when I grew up 😂 I want people, that I encounter, to feel better after we part. Just like they did for me. I have such great memories, a few pics/vids and a couple of gifts that were from their household. Gifts that they were given or they thrifted. When I see their gifts to me, I think of how a legacy of hugs, comfort and funny stories can leave such a mark on someone's heart. Thanks for being the wondrous Mo/Morgan. Your vlogs are such a blessing.

Sometimes losing a friendship is harder than a relationship, it’s a grieving process, specially those friends from years and years.

Sighhhh I needed this today ❤ I feel this deeply. I have no friends because first it’s just hard to find others near me who share the same values and have similar interests but also I always felt I was the one trying in my friendships so I decided to stop trying and that meant we never saw each other. But it’s for the best. Thankfully I absolutely love my own company so I’m not too sad about those friendships ending.

As a 41 yr old, I have made peace with having only a couple close friends and my small family by my side. Quality over quantity. Cherish those you have. Love you Mo!❤

This happened to me a few years ago when I found out my childhood friend had got married and didn’t bother to tell me or invite me to the wedding. All our ‘friends’ were on the photos on FB. I was inordinately upset but they were not very good friends and were very critical of my life choices - I didn’t live up to their status led expectations. I am much happier without them now but I still dream about them - it’s a real loss like any other. Be really good to yourself xxx

It's always sad to realize that you're the only one putting the work into a relationship, no one deserves that. It's always really damn nice when you realize you have new ones.

I really enjoy your joyful personality . Such a good reminder to enjoy the simplicity of beauty around you and be creative . I am blessed to still have friends from my childhood. There are 5 of us and we are all 65. Another one passed away at 34. We met in Sunday school , grew up together , got busy for a period and came back together in our 40’s. We did get together on occasion before our forties but we were all very busy either raising our families or working. We all have different stories but have our connection through the Lord. Don’t count them as lost forever yet.

I agree, especially being an adult that's autistic. It's even harder to find friends because you'd be surprised how many people are not tolerant of those who are autistic. Just getting excited over passions. Throw people off. I can't tell you how many people have started ghosting me because I got passionate talking about books.

Saying goodbye to relationships that are hurting us is the best thing to do in order to heal and regain self love, we all deserve to be around people that appreciate us and we appreciate.

I’ve had friends come and go through out the years. I finally learned to accept it as a natural part of life. People have let go of me and I’ve let go of them. As we get older, we have less friends but the friendships we do have are usually deeper and more meaningful.

Morgan, thank you so much for the cloud idea! I work in an elementary school library with no windows. I has already decided to paint a few areas blue and stencil on clouds. But adding puffy clouds to the ceiling with hot air balloons will finish off the room perfectly. I could do a Dr. Seuss quote "oh the places you'll go!"

Morgan, I just want you to know that this hits home for me too. I was diagnosed with cancer 7 years ago and it was an eye opening time for me as well as a time of evaluating my priorities and evolving. I realized I had several friendships that were out of balance and I stepped back from them. I had the perfect excuse to do so! Since that time, I have become very particular about who and what I spend my time and energy on and I absolutely will not pour into relationships that are one sided. I am down several friends and 2 sister-in-laws but my life feels full and beautiful and the people who are in it value me as much as I value them and love me for my authentic self. Good for you! This really is a good thing. It shows real growth!

People are weird now. They don't consider other's feelings anymore. I am almost 50 and I cannot for the life of me make long term friends. It seems we can get past the surface stuff. I know me and I know how I am and I am not perfect , so I keep working on myself. I am also going to keep being my weird, creative, whimsical, book reading, coffee drinking, animal loving, awkward self. I don't look for validation from others. I also used to be the one who gave and gave and gave to people who just dropped me in the gutter when they were done. This even happened to me recently and I know better but I saw the pics online and I freaked out, for a moment, and then I did not allow myself to go down that path. It comes with time. Welcome, you are growing. It's a good thing. <3

I was once told: Friends come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. That's really helped me make my peace with some of the comings and goings in my life. Love the clouds 😍 and balloon...🌬

Girl I am literally panicking about a childhood friend coming over in 3 hrs and I have zero idea how this is going to go. Your timing is uncanny!

It’s a wonderful & foggy Saturday morning while I’m drinking my coffee and watching your quite splendid video. The older I get the more kindness I turn inwards to myself, it’s not self-ish it’s self-ness. Previously I always focused on others and made sure those I cared about were taken care of. I spent hours listening to their stories, giving of my precious time, walking on eggshells quite often, yet always sensing many never truly knew me as they did not meet me somewhere in the middle. I’ve let go of friendships that do not have a sense of mutual support, love, and understanding. If I feel drained, unheard, or unable to show my true self when I’m around these people I have to move on. I realized Ihave always counted my true friends on one hand. As an introvert and an INFJ this is all quite relatable to me. Your creativity is so lovely and inspiring. I love the clouds as well as the hot air balloon, it all adds such a peaceful vibe to your already charming home. 💞⛅️🎈