Losing friends & struggling with loneliness, an honest reflection on adult friendships 🌸 A cozy vlog

For everyone watching, you SHOULD lose friends as you age! Everyone goes through changes, you disagree on fundamental beliefs, you get busy. It doesn’t make you or the other person bad if either stops reaching out, it just means you’ve grown. I was so scared when I started losing friends I’d had throughout high school, until I realized we were only friends because of proximity. They formed me, they were fundamentally important to who I am now, but we grew apart because we didn’t need each other anymore. It’s okay :)

Beautiful kindred spirits who long for connection but struggle with making new friends, you are not alone. My closest friends all live in different cities to me, and I can totally relate to the "dull ache" Morgan mentioned. It hurts so much to be left out, Morgan I feel your pain deeply. It is really difficult making and maintaining close friends as an adult, especially those deeper bonds that "fill you up" as a human being, that make you feel "seen". Mo, I love you very much (although we haven't met in person) because in my heart I know you are one of "my people" ❤️

I was talking about this with my husband today. His perspective was so helpful as when I said I was sad about losing friends over the years -he said ‘But they made you lose yourself and no friend should do that!’ Great clouds btw.

You have a heart of gold, please know that. You have 90k+ friends right here 😌

Sometimes losing a friendship is harder than a relationship, it’s a grieving process, specially those friends from years and years.

I had 2 friends, seniors that were so supportive. One passed away last year at 104. The other will be 94 in August, but has advanced Alzheimers. They taught me so much about resilience, determination, perseverance and strength. I also learned about being in the moment and making someone a gift of your attention and time. I told them, years ago, that when I grew up 😂 I want people, that I encounter, to feel better after we part. Just like they did for me. I have such great memories, a few pics/vids and a couple of gifts that were from their household. Gifts that they were given or they thrifted. When I see their gifts to me, I think of how a legacy of hugs, comfort and funny stories can leave such a mark on someone's heart. Thanks for being the wondrous Mo/Morgan. Your vlogs are such a blessing.

As a 41 yr old, I have made peace with having only a couple close friends and my small family by my side. Quality over quantity. Cherish those you have. Love you Mo!❤

The sun pulled up its blanket of clouds and decided to stay in bed a little longer that day! 😊❤

This happened to me a few years ago when I found out my childhood friend had got married and didn’t bother to tell me or invite me to the wedding. All our ‘friends’ were on the photos on FB. I was inordinately upset but they were not very good friends and were very critical of my life choices - I didn’t live up to their status led expectations. I am much happier without them now but I still dream about them - it’s a real loss like any other. Be really good to yourself xxx

I’ve had friends come and go through out the years. I finally learned to accept it as a natural part of life. People have let go of me and I’ve let go of them. As we get older, we have less friends but the friendships we do have are usually deeper and more meaningful.

I agree, especially being an adult that's autistic. It's even harder to find friends because you'd be surprised how many people are not tolerant of those who are autistic. Just getting excited over passions. Throw people off. I can't tell you how many people have started ghosting me because I got passionate talking about books.

People are weird now. They don't consider other's feelings anymore. I am almost 50 and I cannot for the life of me make long term friends. It seems we can get past the surface stuff. I know me and I know how I am and I am not perfect , so I keep working on myself. I am also going to keep being my weird, creative, whimsical, book reading, coffee drinking, animal loving, awkward self. I don't look for validation from others. I also used to be the one who gave and gave and gave to people who just dropped me in the gutter when they were done. This even happened to me recently and I know better but I saw the pics online and I freaked out, for a moment, and then I did not allow myself to go down that path. It comes with time. Welcome, you are growing. It's a good thing. <3

Sighhhh I needed this today ❤ I feel this deeply. I have no friends because first it’s just hard to find others near me who share the same values and have similar interests but also I always felt I was the one trying in my friendships so I decided to stop trying and that meant we never saw each other. But it’s for the best. Thankfully I absolutely love my own company so I’m not too sad about those friendships ending.

Truly everything you said about friendships is so accurate. Feeling the need to overcompensate because someone gives you their time, energy, etc. 😭

It's always sad to realize that you're the only one putting the work into a relationship, no one deserves that. It's always really damn nice when you realize you have new ones.

Saying goodbye to relationships that are hurting us is the best thing to do in order to heal and regain self love, we all deserve to be around people that appreciate us and we appreciate.

Morgan, thank you so much for the cloud idea! I work in an elementary school library with no windows. I has already decided to paint a few areas blue and stencil on clouds. But adding puffy clouds to the ceiling with hot air balloons will finish off the room perfectly. I could do a Dr. Seuss quote "oh the places you'll go!"

I was once told: Friends come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. That's really helped me make my peace with some of the comings and goings in my life. Love the clouds 😍 and balloon...🌬

I just turned 65 this month, and I’m still going through this. I think it’s just a product of living in the mobile world we’re in. Very few people stay in the same area where they were born in the modern world, so friends drift in and out of our lives throughout the years. Doesn’t make it easier, but you’re not alone in this experience. ❤

Dear Morgan, friendship is a precious thing. I can imagine that it might even mean more with working from home. One can easily feel isolated or left out. Sometimes friendships weaken or strengthen at certain times. What counts if they make the test of time. But often our true friends are our family members, like brothers, or sisters, a partner and one or two really faithful good friends. In Holland there is a old quote: " Beter 1 vogel in de hand, dan 10 in de lucht." Meaning: "Better 1 bird in your hand than 10 in the air." All one truly needs is one good faithful friend. All other friends are amazing extra blessings. Just like us, in your cosy online community. Lots of love❤️