How To Fight Right With Your Partner - Q&A w/ The Gottmans, Matthias Barker, & Jimmy Knowles

It reminds me of, "Do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?" Valuable reminder to stay intentional about your relationship.

I felt a little off on this one, the echo's were distracting me (even if the headphones were off), sorry if anyone could notice 😂

Please dont take this down! We need all the help we can get with what we have which is not alot these days.

I am sending this video to my husband and plan to schedule a time for us to talk which we have an unbelievably hard time doing. We are at a breaking point and I can not tell you how helpful what both of you do is to me! Bless you both

Trying to be interested in soccer just because of my partner loving soccer only led to him blasting me with soccer facts constantly, instead of him trying learn more about me 😮‍💨

I love how normal you two are, it is so relatable...and at the same time you're walking us all through the thought process around these topics. Amazing job! Thank you for exactly the way you show up.

Thank you all so much for this. I finally reached my limit after 40 years of silent treatments. The terrible part is how he only blamed ME for HIS silent treatment patterns so he wouldn’t get help! I finally filed for divorce and I could not be more glad. Contempt, projection and narcissistic stuff just became more than I wanted to handle. Your ideas work beautifully, but not with an emotionally abusive person.

Thank you so much for recording and uploading this conversation! I love that you are advocating for healthy conversations and modeling how it's done!

I love you both so much! While I’m not married, I don’t have the best examples of effective communication. I’ve gained so much from this and I hope to bring this not just into my marriage in the future but for any relationship that I have. Thank you for helping me become a better version of me. I’m so blessed that God put you in my life! 🥰🌻💛

Gottmans are the GOAT. Such a great interview.

Thank you Jimmy and Matthias. Loved this conversation. I hope to use this going forward.

Our family loves and appreciates your material so much Matthias and Jimmy. You guys touched on all of my chief concerns and questions. Thank you for all you do.

I just have to say, JIMMY, I love your little tangents! You’re so passionate about about these topics and the wisdom is flowing so quickly into your brain that your mouth can’t get it out fast enough. I can totally relate.🤣🙏🏻💕✨

Aside from learning how to conflict better myself in my current relationship, I am also teaching the skill I am learning to my 13 ur old daughter, who struggles with conflict because she hasn’t learned the skills yet. My goal is to help her learn these critical skills at an early age so she has successful relationships with all of the meaningful people in her life. Thank you so much for this video. I’m also sharing with my partner, since we both share a background of past unhealthy relationships. Keep up the amazing work. I appreciate it! 💛

That was great. Thank you all. It shows really that the best and most thoughtful communication won't make up for someone who just doesn't care and respect you. If they don't they won't attempt to attend to needs or requests and just carry on in their own bubble

12:30 I feel... so this is how I have approached things in our marriage crisis but it didn't work. I still get left unloved, unheard, and alone. I still do this and he just stonewalls and shuts down!!

This is a goldmine! Thanks for making it available (New Zealand time can be tricky)

I enjoyed this interactive lecture very much! I especially relate a lot to the "i feel" statements portion because my partner still gets triggered by it even though I am just sharing my feelings and thinks I am trying to start an argument and becomes avoidant making me feel like my feelings aren't worthy of being heard. So I agree that if the other person isn't in a place where they are some what healed, the methods of "better" statements like " i feel" just won't work unfortunately. And so what should we do then?

Thank you very much for the recording, the timing could not have been better for me and my relationship. I look forward to reading the book and watching more content from you and Jimmy, subscribing!

Reassurance in the middle. Thats gold. I love the way you explained it. That would help me so much myself to hear. Great tool. Thank you.