My Coming Out Story and It Doesn't Get Better...Immediately
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Published 2011-05-21
All Comments (18)
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@AnimeFanOmega Yes, you need a strong support group that has your back no matter what. Often that won't include family, but if it does, then that's great. Finding people to relate to is important, but I also think learning how to cope with isolation, stress, and depression that usually occurs when coming out and it not going well, is also important, and a great life skill to learn. Finding where you truly fit does take a while, and it is a waiting game, but I do hope that you find that place.
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PART TWO: This video seems more realistic than all the other "it gets better" videos I've seen as of late. Love your vids man. Thank You. :-) *Hugs*
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Thanks for the video dude, enjoyed it. I recently "came out" (only to a select few. Friend, parents, one sibling.) and I know what your talking about. I'm not religious, nor are the people who I came out to but I understand how you feel. I think that it gets better when you have people to really relate to, you know, people that are in your world. Be the people gay, bi, etc. Just those that are in the same situation. I have yet to find one, and I suppose you haven't either. It's the waiting game
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Dude, I just so wanna give u a hug. Srry things arent goin the way u would like.. Just keep trying to move forward.. Uve got a friend here..
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Finally a sincere video about the "it gets better" meme. Regardless of sexual orientation and circumstances, it doesn't get better unless you work to make it better. In fact if you remain passive things would actually get worse, lol. Not knowing you very well I don't think there is anything wrong with you that would stop you from making yourself happy, aside from your own metal demons. Put yourself together mister, if I was living close to you I would like to be your buddy cos I think u r cool.
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@visualmicstand One can hope, anyway. What I've discovered is that I needed to learn how to endure through severe depression and isolation, and to discover myself, which probably means that a lot of other people have similar lessons to learn. by no means am I out of the tunnel, yet. But I am not one to quit, and so hopefully life will change in a positive way for me, and unfortunately, I've stopped waiting for my family to catch up. They know where I am if they care to.
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@Lucem2 Yeah, unfortunately, I bought into the idea that if you're just honest, then it will be enough. I learned that one has to be active and assertive the hard way. I am working on my mental demons, and unfortunately, I let them get out of hand by giving up. Thank you for your words of encouragement, I really enjoyed our conversation in the comments of my previous videos. It would be cool to be buddies! :)
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@ColorfuLiz Well, I actually hesitate to say emphatically that "it will get better", rather, I'd say "it could at some point in the future be better for you than it is now". I think that is the only honest thing that anyone could say. It may be more lukewarm than "it gets better", but it's not giving false hope, which can be more painful than any amount of rejection. I commend you on coming out, btw, it is a hard thing to do, and I hope that you're doing better now than how you were 6months ago.
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@depfox Thanks Jay, it took me years to arrive at that conclusion. :P
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@Sergesedd22 Thanks! I appreciate it. :) And moving forward is all I do pretty much, and that doesn't really imply improvement. lolz.
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Also, I think living away from your family is gonna be a good thing for you. Is gonna help you find yourself, without the being judged under your family microscope. When i was 18yo that is what I did and that is when I developed my true personality. Is gonna be though and you are probably still homesick but eventually you will find your way and you'll love it. good luck and talk to me anytime, I've been there done that.
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@jackskellingtonsora yes, sadly I think that's mostly the case. From my own exposure to to gay culture, there is not room for overweight or unattractive people. In the town I'm in it's compounded by the fact that there are more closeted people here than open, and there's no culture to speak of. Not one gay bar, just one gay youth center that really doesn't do anything, and this city has almost 100,000 people, too. That certainly has not made me any happier to be gay.
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@Lucem2 Eh, I'm not sure exactly what it is. I accept myself as gay, so I think it's just dealing with my past/family issues, and adjusting to living by myself. It's probably also that I feel pretty isolated where I live now.
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@jonescity Yeah, I think it's more 'realistic' because it's actually 'honest'. Too many videos say, "It sucks for me, but I know it'll get better." No, you don't. :P Nothing in life is guaranteed, and so the best one can say, I think, is "it could possibly get better for you at some point in the future." And that's it. And thanks, :) no one's ever called me cute before. :) And I wish you luck in your endeavors and coming-out process!
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@gustjorodedheo Yeah, you're right. Even though it's total crap that we even have to go through this to begin with. Sad world we live in, I'm hoping to change it when I become an actor and get a voice. So what about you? How're you now?
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@eltaire Most religions, at least their conservative and/or fundamentalist elements are very harmful. While I'm no longer religious, I wish that the only religions that would exist are the more "liberal" varieties. And thank you for your sympathy, it means a lot.
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@gustjorodedheo well I wish I knew what is afflicting you at this point. Are you still stuck at accepting you as a gay person? You look like you are over it? When I was in High School I was so pissed off that I made a pact with the Devil, and I guess that didn't work, haha. Anyways, keep yourself physically active too that helps a lot, most of the problems are just in our heads. I try to keep myself physically active working out,etc; but when I don't I tend to blown the little problems out of pr
