"What Helped You Accept Yourself As Trans?" | vlog 80

As a 73 year old trans-woman (non-binary trans femme) I love your videos. Your explanation was bang on. As an expat I loved the bit of Nederlands you threw in to explain your inner sense of fulfilment or contentment. After all, coming out is not really a choice but a necessity to be our authentic selves.

What you said reminded me of a quote by a very wise queer icon: "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" --RuPaul Andre Charles Thank you for sharing your experiences. My biggest fear when coming out (and really accepting that's who I was, and who I needed to be out loud) was whether my husband would accept me. He's always been heterosexual. Not only does he accept me fully, but he taught me to shave, and now considers himself "heteroflexible on a technicality." He loves the person in the body, no matter what the body is doing.

I think you make a lot of sense in this video. It is good to show how all is a process, a work-in-progress, a path that never ends. The question of happiness is of vital concern. I have always associated happiness with the idea of the fulfilment of ourselves, to the point that there is no self-waste. No self-waste: to embrace it all, and to move onward from there. To be wth another person, I need to be a person myself. To use archaic English, I and Thou require two human beings in the process of coming home to themselves, individually and together. Thank you for your beautiful and important vlog.

I can't write much because I'm on my way to University. I'm a 35 year old mature student studying counselling and psychotherapy and I'm questioning my body and gender and sexuality, which is all very confusing, but your videos are a calm in a storm of emotions. Keep making. Thankyou very much x

Your videos really relate to my experience of being trans ive just booked my gender counselling and am about to tell my loved ones im trans

I'm intersex. 2 blood works determined this. I have accepted myself as I am.

WOW, your voice is very masculine. Congrats!

Great video as always. You are making sense even you don't think you are. Back in October you took a test. In a November vlog you said how you had passed it. You did not really explain what the test was for? Can you provide an update? Thanks.