Feel Overwhelmed? Try This 30-Second Technique
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Published 2023-03-16
Feeling overwhelmed literally makes parts of your brain shut down. You might experience cognitive fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, physical exhaustion, a flood of thoughts, confusion, or the stress response, you may feel anxious, sweaty, teary, or panicky alternating in quick succession with wanting to give up, shut down, curl up into a ball, procrastinate and avoid everything.
So here’s what to do instead.
Slow it down. Take a deep breath, and grab a large piece of paper and a pen. Now do a brain dump, take everything in your head and write it down on paper, it doesn’t need to make sense, it doesn't need good handwriting or grammar, just put it on paper, make a list or a diagram if you want, just take all the things in your head and put them onto the paper.
Usually people feel better after that, but now we’re going to do one better…
Cross off everything that’s not in your control - news stories, your bosses’ attitude, the weather, your mother in law’s opinions, your child’s mood…cross off anything that’s not in your realm of influence. Now if, for example, there’s something you need to do about your child’s behavior- like enforce a boundary or something- cross off- Tommy’s tantrums, you can’t control his feelings, instead write down “I need to enforce a boundary, and it’s so hard”.
After you’ve crossed off everything that you can’t control, and replaced a few of them with things in your control, it’s a terrible idea to try to do them all at once, so just take a deep breath, slow yourself down, and circle one action you’re going to take.
Then set the paper aside and get back to life, do that one thing, or do what you need to be doing in the present moment.
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All Comments (21)
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I'm irritated BECAUSE everything is in my control
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Why am i so obsessed with control? It doesn't matter what it is, i just can't bring myself to cross off anything on this list...
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Journaling is so helpful. I’ve been able to see how unhealthy my thought process is, by actually reading them. Thank you for the reminder. I tend to forget about this. God please bless and heal everyone here!!❤
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I'm 64 and it seems the older I get, the more overwhelmed problems make me feel.
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Thank you!!! I struggle everyday with my anxiety, and out of control thoughts. Usually bedtime is the worst. I started keeping paper by my bed, and writing down my thoughts is helping! I need to be more consistent, but it is helping!!!! Thank you so much. Your videos are really helping me.
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I've been trying to bring myself back into heart and brain coherence and do deep breathing exercises, breathing in love and pushing out all the negative energy.
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Thank you, Emma. This felt like exactly what I needed right now! I was literally in the process of giving up. In addition, just thinking of you or seeing your face, or hearing your voice somehow always calms me. It’s like having a mature, rational, dependable big sister or close friend. And you always make me feel like there is kindness and goodness in the world.
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Have anxiety EVERY day, am also agorophobic, I journal every day, Thanks for this, Very helpful🙂
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Definitely, nighttime is the worst but I try to write down my thoughts & worries during the day so I'm not up at night. Brain dumps are super helpful!
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when you don't have enough information on anything just observe just sit back and watch usually when such situations happen and I don't have enough information I end up catastrophizing because I want to think things through but now I have made a rule if thinking something through make me uneasy and catastrophized I don't have enough information and I should just watch
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Hey Emma, this technique can sometimes work, but sometimes it makes me stressed again or more to think of everything and see it all in a huge list.
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I started watching your videos during the beginning of the pandemic when I was dealing with an avalanche of problems that I had been avoiding my whole life, and I was honestly not sure if I was going to make it. It has been 3 years, and I can finally look at myself in the mirror and tell that guy that I love him for every piece of who he is- finally realizing that I am already the person I wished I would be all those years ago, my own hero. Thank you for your work, and I wish you peace ❤
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Thanks for the reminder. I always forget about brain dumping and sometimes it’s hard to look at a blank piece of paper.
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Thank you for all of the great content & also for doing these short videos. So often when I'm overwhelmed, as much as I know watching a self-help video, learning a new technique... will help, it's just more than I can handle.
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You are fantastic. BetterHelp is not fantastic.
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To be true, you saved my day once recently, did some of your logical and kind techniques and boom, was there again. Thanks
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Thank you Emma, I found you on Spotify and now seeing you on YouTube is even more nurturing. You really have found your niche in life…. I know you have been very helpful for me
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Thank you so much Emma for all the thought, effort, and care you put into these videos. They are a great resource that helps me often when I need i reminder of how to escape spiraling thoughts. Practicing the techniques and ideas you share has really helped me improve the health of my thinking patterns over time 😄
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This is great! Taking the out-of-control things and identifying what we CAN do is such a great tool.
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my BetterHelp therapist demanded I told her the method I used in an attempted suicide after I told her I was uncomfortable talking about it at that moment. I had only been assigned to her a few hours prior and she was already disrespecting my boundary. She said she needed to know in order to understand why I did it. It made me wish the attempt was successful.
