Why overly empathic people are irresistible to narcissists

When you grew up abused you're hyper vigilant of your surroundings (other's emotions or mood) because your survival depended on it. In adults it makes us preoccupied anxious, people pleasers and nurturers. With no self awareness and boundaries you're a walking narc magnet.

The perverse thing is that narcissists actually believe that they are giving, giving, giving and never getting anything in return.

I am empathetic but I have come to realise that some people still spit in your face even after all the love and compassion you have shown them. It takes courage to stand up for yourself and it’s really scary, but I am working on it. Thank you for the videos you make.

The overly empathic person is not cynical enough to notice red flags, so tend to miss most of them.

People who are deficient in something have to take from those who have plenty to give.

I’m empathetic and came from narcissistic family so all my boyfriends were narcs. My ex was a narc and after we divorced I knew to be careful and found a kind hearted man with emotional intelligence .

Empaths provide unlimited supply of acceptance, forgiveness and selflessness, which is the perfect fuel for Narcs to thrive. We never give up on others and are constantly taking the responsibility for others’ happiness and trying to fix broken people. You are absolutely right about noticing the Narc’s abusive manipulation after children come into the picture, Dr Ramani. I was always fighting for my children’s rights with my Narc husband, while at the same time, never stood up for myself.

It’s crazy the damage one person can do to you Thank you Dr ❤️🙏🏻❤️

That's why I live alone. I've learned to discern what people's agendas are. I am empathic. And that's a good thing. But, it's painful, letting go of so many people. There are some I do keep in relationships, but at a very long length. Now, I'm trying to learn how to love me. And, yes, I'm a narcissists magnet. It's amazing! Thank you Dr. Ramani, for validating what I intrinsically know, but didn't know why or how to deal with my gift.

That moment when you realize some people use sob stories to twist your emotions to sway, do something, or entitlement to get away with everything.

Our gift of empathy in combination with the lack of knowledge of narcissism is what keeps us trapped in the void of darkness. Growing up I was bullied for caring for people and animals by my narcissistic family. Hope that the narcissist will one day change is what keeps us locked in. Empaths ,now is the time to have patience and compassion with ourselves. Remember the narcissist will never be able to express or feel empathy. And that is a terrible thing. We were abused because we are the ones with true power. We just didn’t realize it at the time. Love you all!

Lots of love from a scapegoat in India !!!!

On this earth, I am the only one who is responsible to take care of my needs.

T H A N K Y O U The worst battle that I ever fought was between what I knew and what I felt. Introspection is now my focus on my path to personal growth.

Suddenly i felt like doctor is describing me. 😣 I learned my lesson on a hard way. Now once i sense a narc, i stay away asap. no to bs again.

"Second chances again and again and again." Before I found Dr Ramani I didn't understand what was going on. I have been enabling and contributing to the escalation of my narc. I am in the eye of the storm with my new understanding of what has been going on. The turmoil is real. I'm exhausted.

Describing me. Empath not narc. Took many years to stop losing myself to trying to save others. Thought I could fix them if I loved them enough.

I lost myself in a narcissist marriage. I became a shell and had allowed myself to be destroyed, finally repairing my dignity, my self esteem, and my peace of mind and learning to forgive myself for becoming someone I don’t recognize. After the marriage it seemed that every relationship I attempted to go into there was an echo of familiarity of what I had struggled to get out of. Now, I can not tell who is genuine and who is not. At this time it feels safer to be alone….it’s too bad because I have a desire to be around people but I am also scared.

"a very empathic person hates the idea that someone can't benefit from love and compassion" that hits hard😢thank you!!

When I started seeing my mother as sick, it did help me. I use the quarantine model. She is so sick she can't help but infect others. Putting her in quarantine (no contact) was an act of LOVE for both of us. I wouldn't say I'm "hyper" empathic tho. I did spend a lot of time trying to figure out why mom was the way she was. I do feel a tiny amount of guilt over doing enough with her and my narc sister. Boundaries help both parties.