We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny | TED

Grief is love with nowhere to go.

"That memory is always gonna hurt even if I'm 600 years old and a hologram." I instantly burst into tears.

Imagine losing a baby, a husband and a father in the space of two months and being able to talk about it ONSTAGE with this much humor and grace. God bless this woman. She's helped me a lot.

“The people we lost are still very present to us.” When my brother died few days ago my logical mind knows he’s gone but my heart feels that he’s still around.

One of my friends very recently told me that once your "normal" has been disrupted, you don't go back to it, you can't go back to living normally, you instead create a new normal. This has stuck with me and I find that this video resonates with the thought. One can never move on from grief, from the pain of death, time doesn't heal, it just gives you patience.

It comes in waves.. sometimes you drown

My wife died five months ago from a glioblastoma brain tumor at 47 years old. She almost made a year after her emergency surgery, so when the story of watching someone take all kinds of medication’s and deteriorating into something else really hits home. Knowing there is no cure glioblastoma, and that she was “on the clock“ I am so grateful to have been her full-time caretaker in the last year of her life. I always told her I would be the first person she sees when she wakes and the last person she sees when she sleeps. I was looking into her eyes, and holding her hand all while telling her I loved her as she took her last breath in our home Since she has been gone I have been working not only my regular full-time job but also a second one because I am raising our two daughters. I find it hard to get out of bed almost every day because of the emotional attachment I had with her, as a part of me died as well. Most things that I enjoy I no longer care about as my greif and guilt have overcome my well being. I don’t know how long this will last or if it ever does go away but for anyone reading this if you are feeling the same way you are not alone.

I lost my wife last month. I recognise every word of this. When she died, I wrapped my arms around her, touching as much skin as I could with mine, and felt her warmth. I knew it would be for the last time and it was beautiful. I miss her so much.

You don’t overcome it. You learn to live with it.

I am an only child, and when i lost my dad and two years later my mom, i was looking at my phone and realized i will be the only one left in our group chat room. I continued to pay for my mom’s cell phone bill so she does not leave the room. Few months later, when the company knew she no longer resided in the place that was set as her place of residence, they cancelled her account and her id in the chat room switched to ‘unknown’. I completely broke down that day.

This was THE best grief advice I've found since losing my 23 year old son to suicide 8 weeks ago. THANK YOU for what you're doing!!

I lost my husband 3 weeks ago and I'm so hurt. We have 7 kids at home , pancreatic cancer. I'm praying for strength

Grief is the price of love.

I cried so hard watching this. I lost my mum, my very best friend in the whole wide world. She was a single mum to me & my brother & sister we’re a lot older than I. So it was just me & my mum at home. I was her world & even though I was 29 when she died, (she was 59)I still felt like a little girl without her mummy. 7 years on, I still do. I’ve married, had children, I’ve lived, but I grieve every single day in one way or another for her & very few people can understand that.

I love how she mentions talking about her husband in the present tense... I generally talk about people I've lost in the present tense as well, and it always seems odd to me how people can just switch, instantaneously... especially the switch between "I love them" and "I loved them"... to me, it implies you stopped when they died, but for most people, they didn't stop. You can't just shut that down. If you are going through grief, you still love them. Now. Currently.

As a funeral director I see alot of grief and loss and she has the most insight in dealing with it.

"Why would grief ever end if love never will?" ~ Topaz Orchid 💓

One of the best ted talks I have seen... Witty, charming and emotionally powerful Salute to her

I lost my dad when I was 19 and he was only 51. He had cancer and I at least knew he got to say goodbye. I’m 25 now and I miss him every day. Something people don’t tell you is that it can take years or even decades to grieve properly. The thing is, there is no proper way to grieve. You’re allowed to feel sad, angry, happy and whatever emotion when grieving, it doesn’t change anything. I still talk to him, he may not physically be here but for me he is. I miss seeing him every day, I still imagine what he’d say to me. I love him and he’s always gonna be my dad.

My mom died two weeks ago from cancer. She was ready to go just to escape from the pain but I have never felt so devastated. Thank you for this