The Three Steps of Letting Go, with Tara Brach

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi

In my experience, when the tears come, I know it’s happening. Tears of acceptance, self compassion, allowing the grief to come up and out. The relief I feel after crying is so deep. Even allowing myself to cry has been a process of acceptance. Thank you Tara and all the teachers who have brought me towards allowing myself to feel whatever Is there. This practice is simple but not easy. Lots of love to all the brave souls on this path ❤️‍🩹

Yes obsessive thoughts make me feel ill and tired!!

Letting go is a selfless act of love. It is painful and beautiful at the same time.

I’m going through a very hard breakup and I found this message just when I needed it most. I felt a crushing pain in my chest caused by the anxiety of loosing a person I love deeply. I listened to this talk all day long until I started feeling a decrease in the pressure. It is a life long journey just allowing life to happen with less attachment. Thank you Tara 🙏🌹

Let go of the way you thought life would unfold and be open to presence-just let it be!

For anyone wanting to go to the letting go meditation time stamp is 29.12 😊 thank you Tara for this, truly very helpful wisdom 😊🙏

Letting go of control is the best thing you can ever do

One thing I have to practice letting go of is my disappointment that Tara Brach's videos are not among the most watched on the internet! I mean, I love a good cat video as much as the next person, but the profound possibility for suffering-reducing life change through the practices that Tara shares, combined with the very high degree of user-friendliness of her presentation, would make these universally watched and used in a sane, non-delusional world, imo. Thanks Tara!

The fear of my partner returning to full blown addiction only served me to perpetually control things. I felt everything was the end of the world watching the gentleman I love fall back into a downward spiral. And I left him. I deeply regret this so much because I dont want to let go of the idea we will reunite together with the love we once had. I dont even know if he still loves me or even has the abilty anymore. I feel utter fear and sorrow listening yo this 😔

I struggle with issues of control constantly because I’m afraid. I lack trust in the world and in myself. Thank you so much for this video. I’m going to listen to it many times. I found it very helpful. Thank you. 💕

Thank you for an insightful lesson! I'll paraphrase (I don't remember all the details) a story from "Buddhism in practise", edited by Donald S. Lopez, Jr. : Two Buddhist monks are out walking. They reach a violently rushing river and on the shore they find a crying women who is in desperate need of getting to the other side, because her child is sick and alone at home. One of the monks contemplates a short while and then offers to carry her on his back, to the other side. The other monk reacts negatively to this proposal, takes the first monk to the side and says: "How can you suggest something like that since our commitment to Buddhism and the monastery doesn't allow us to touch women!?" They argue for a while but the first monk still carries the woman across the river. She is greatful for the kind gesture and hurries home to attend to her child. The monks continue on their journey while the dissapointed monk persistently keeps expressing his dissatisfaction with his companions choice. All of a sudden the first monk stops, looks the other monk in his eyes and says: "I dropped her off and left her by the river, but you still carry her". I read this story for 23 years ago. It has been and still is a very helpful insight at times when my thoughts, feelings and the energy wich they require, try slipping into pointless dwelling in the bottomless well of the mind. Take care and live well! Laura😇❤

Dear Tara, I just discovered you when this video popped up. Thank you for your gentle teaching as I continue letting go of a very hurtful breakup, which began in 1997 after 21 years of marriage. Your steps are very helpful. Now, at 68, I am appreciating more and more the peace of being in this moment, in this breath and in this heartbeat. 🙏 Namaste. ❤

Thank you. I suffer so much that my ego says celebrate drinking alcohol do drugs have sex I deserve to celebrate and suddenly I am not living at all at hate myself. So undoing instead of letting go really helps me know I can be human and I will feel like I can succeed and be in joy. 🙏

You spoke directly to me, Tara. Thank you for articulating this so warmly and clearly ❤

Your voice and words brought me so much peace today. Thank you

This was a direct answer to a rather desperate prayer this morning. Thank you God through Tara.🙏♥️

‘This vigilance’ - this really struck me. The striving pulls away from my being present. Wow thanks for the 💡

I pray that one day I will find in me this kindness, softness, gentleness that you have ❤️🙏

I'm not sure how this came up on my feed, and it was almost an unconscious selection to watch this, but it was exactly the answer I needed to a question I recently had. Thank you for your calm and wise presence, your compassion, and for kindly sharing your insights. I feel they will be so helpful to enable healing, and a moving forward. Many blessings and much gratitude to you. 🧡