How to Do Something That Should Be Easy (But...Is...Not)

I love how “the thing” is such a universally understood concept in this community

"The more you put something off, the bigger it feels." Story of my life.

“We conflate emotions with time” WHOA. Mind blown.

The only thing I'd add to this is that the "door in the wall" coping mechanisms tend to have a limited lifespan. They can be super useful, but the more you use a particular mechnism, the less "novel" it becomes, and the more you associate it with failure, since you still NEED it each time, so it's not actually helping. Eventually it just becomes another brick in the wall.

The coffee shop closes, or......a pandemic happens and I have to write that paper isolated at home. 😭😢

Awww the part about us needing non judgement and empathy made me teary eyed.

Hearing that ADHD brains have the "all or nothing" mentality was so nice to hear. I always feel like I have to have the motivation to finish my paper in one sitting which leads to me being too daunted to start it. Break it up and complete the chunks!

"Yeah, I'm not done until I've finished writing my book which means I can't have time for family or friends or eating until I'm done writing my book." I've backed out from so many family events and pulled away from quality time with my friends because of this mindset :( but when I actually had the time to work I STILL DIDNT GET ANYTHING DONE and just added more bricks to my wall of awful 😔

When you have to rewind the video because you got distracted by something else half way through. 😅

The timing is perfect. I'm literally staring at my assignment right now

Realized I had ADHD when I was 51, am now 55 and just beginning to strive to understand it and work with it. It has devastated my life and I'm climbing a very tall mountain. Very happy to have found this channel. This video helped. Thank you.

5:15 filled my eyes with tears... I remember how my father dealt my walls of awful with judgement and shame. Getting angry at my weaknesses... This deeply hurted me for a long time... and still today, when I let the devil on my shoulder speak to myself in the way he used to. Moving away and reconstructing myself with forgiveness for what i'm not is the best thing I could ever do.

This is great, the "Wall of awful" is a great metaphore. It's actually the reason I ended up getting assessed. I had a project in school I had to do, that I felt I could have fun with, but I had this restriction that made it not fun for me, I couldn't do it. I made the decision I HAD to stay at school (College), and get it done. Because If I go home, I will just distrct myself until it's too late, and I tell myself "I'll do it tomorrow". But when I did, I found that I just sat there, not doing anything for over 3 hours. And wrote two sentences. I realized getting a sick to my stomach feeling at the thought of starting something before it was due the next day, was not normal. I would feel physically sick. And just couldn't do it unless it was fun for me. But if it was fun, I would go all out on it, work way harder than a project requires, because I enjoyed it. I brought up the idea of getting assessed to my instructor (has her master's in mental health, so I was asking her about it) and she laughed saying she feels I should, as she recognized many signs, but didn't feel it was right to "put the idea in your head". I now take medication, and its changed everything. I may not have been diagnosed until I was 25, and in college, but dang. And I happy I have help now

As a kid I remember having this strange entity preventing me from doing tasks, in high school I named it "the Resistance" and had my own metaphor for it. Imagine a road that you have to cross. Easy right? Now imagine that road has hurricane force winds and debris flying down it. Not so simple now is it? After all these years, it's amazing to know that it wasn't just me with this problem, and that there's answers. The winds of many of my roads have calmed down to, say, a category 1 hurricane instead of category 5. Thank you so much for making these videos, they are incredible. <3

"... I should finish the episode first." Lol, that was a perfectly played out classic ADHD moment. Nice one brain!

This channel is seriously underrated. The information you provide is helpful for everybody, not just those with ADHD. Keep up the excellent work!

Your short hair loooks good on you!!

"Yeah, I'm not done until I've finished writing my book which means I can't have time for family or friends or eating until I'm done writing my book." ... YES!! This is so me, combined with having a great oversight over a new project until I actually start it, and start to zoom in. I know exactly what I need to do from the top, yet when I start and actually do a small part of it, I lose all of that, and I'm pretty much flying blind!

What about doing things that we actually love to do- such as reading, hobbies but we can't find the time to just sit down and do them? It's just sooooo much easier to do nothing, watch TV and do anything but the thing I actually enjoy doing. I'm aware of every moment passing and never seem to lose myself in what I'm doing. Also what about being a student? Especially with nursing school, it is expected and even the norm to not sleep or take breaks. You are never really "done" with what you need to do because there is just more that could be done. How do we manage the expectation of a massive/challenging program with strategies that are aimed at our ADHD?