Leaving The Uk With My Children For This Reason | Uk Not For Us With @AdaLivingInspirations

Congratulations to Ada on her successful move to Nigeria and I wish her the very best. For me, I have a very different reality. Moving to UK 14 years ago on the Highly Skilled Visa as an IT professional. I had my own fair share of challenges. One of them was the fact that the UK being a first world country was ahead of Nigeria in terms of technology. I encountered a lot of difficulties in this UK that I almost joined the army so I could get my permanent residency/British citizenship easily and even accommodation. However, I decided against it because it was not part of my dream. It was so challenging that I had to get into an entry level IT position. From there, I upgraded my skills to be able to compete. I quit my job on 3 occasions without having another job even though I was the higher earner so I could pursue my dreams. One of them while pregnant. I now consult in the cyber security industry . I am so bold to stand up to any form of injustice and discrimination here in the UK and I am so proud of it. Living and working in the UK broadened my horizon and do not intend to move back to Nigeria anytime. Nigeria is my homeland and we visit Nigeria regularly but living in Nigeria is no longer for me. At least, I can confirm that once you have education, the opportunities in UK are endless. I was a participant of the Cyber Runway, the accelerator for cybersecurity innovators across the UK funded by the Department for Digital, Culture, Media and Sport (DCMS) and delivered by Plexal with support from Deloitte, CyLon and the Centre for Secure Information Technologies. I can go on and on......... Oh , and before I forget, Tochi's video in January about buying a house in the UK was what prompted us to make a move. We approached the broker and the bank all from the comfort of our bedroom and by June 2022, we were given the keys to our new home (the builders show home). Life CAN NEVER be this easy in Nigeria.

I lived in UK myself for 18 years and am back in Nigeria now without any regrets. Nigeria is the best place to be if you plan your life well when abroad

She is back to Nigeria to give her children Africa culture and moral.... she will soon be back...you're secured since ur husband is in the Army.... all the best 👌

I lived in the UK for 43 years, I returned to Nigeria in the middle of January, 2024.

The issue is that it is easy for her to return because she is already documented and probably a Citizen. Some have been in UK for 20 years without proper document, to make or take that kind of decision to move to Nigeria will not be easy.

'....humble yourself and bring back what you gain to improve Nigeria' got me.

When you make money in the UK, you live like a king at home. This same Nigeria is where all the rich-high end celebrities and business people live (dangite, Davido, otedolas). When there's money life is easier in Nigeria.

There is no "sad reality" in Ada's story. In fact it is very uplifting.

My sister Tochi, Ada decided to leave the UK because there is no place like home. Where I am too in diaspora cannot be compared to Nigeria. Although our country has it's challenges but there is no freedom in the world like the one you enjoy in your own country

You said it all, my dear sister. There is no place like home. The best thing is to go abroad, gain resources and expertise, then come back home and invest. Our friendly weather, close-knit community life, low personal tax structure and cultural dynamics make here an exciting place to be. Well done for thinking home. You are a beauty with brain.

Go where you are welcomed guys. I can relate to this woman. I'm actually planning to migrate to Tenessee, US to unite with the rest of family and friends there. People don't understand that covert racism is WORSE than open racism. USA has it yes, but AT LEAST u aware of ur enemies. Here in the UK, your racist enemy cud be under your nose (ie: boss.... colleague... neighbour) and u not even aware, because they are two-faced. That is dangerous. They greet u kindly, but when u gone, the 2nd face is shown in ur absence. My business suffered because of this too. I have ppl in US who are interested in my business. Go where u are welcomed people.

Beautiful sensible girl. Hats off to you, you didn’t put any foot wrong. Go lady 👍

It’s easier for Ada to move because for 15years she hasn’t felt the pain in Nigeria. Those leaving now were those who never believed they would ever relocate😭

Smart lady! I love the way how they as a couple worked as a team to achieve their goals and involved their children every step of the way with their transition to Nigeria. Family goals 🤗. May your marriage/family be forever blessed ❤️ and thank you for sharing your story 😊

Nigeria is a killer of dreams and has been that way ever since I can remember. My own parents immigrated to the UK in the 60s and at around the 90s when I was 10, they decided they had had enough and emigrated with us London born children back to Nigeria. It was a cuture shock for us who were not used to the Nigerian climate but fun...at first. To cut a long story short one of my siblings passed away because of inadequate health care in Nigeria. My parents struggled to pay for every thing, including basic amenities we were used to getting for free in the UK. No pool to go swimming lol, no free library books, large school fees plus everything else related to going to school down to pens. I had access to free music lessons and was becoming very good at playing the piano, even enough to go for a music scholarship. No social life besides school life because of insecurity. Just school and back and weekends church. As kids could not go and hang out in the park (no park sef), go to the cinema. Sometimes we would go for weeks without electricity and breath in the heavy fumes of the generator..not to mention if there was petrol scarcity then there was no light full stop which meant we couldn't keep snacks or any perishables in the fridge. We children suffered. Eventually when my Dad decided to bring us back to England we kids were quite behind our peers in terms of confidence, speech, attitude. In Nigerian schools they whip or punish you for daring to assert yourself, self expression is muted as well as attitude. Iost all my piano skills and could not even swim anymore..I am still bitter about that part. These are the things still struggle with as an adult in the UK but we move.

It’s easier for Ada to leave. She relocated to the UK immediately after school, she didn’t experience the third mainland traffic or the hostility of the Nigerian employer. The issue with the holiday is the standard of most Nigerian employee. Your employer will tell you. “Leave is a privilege,not a right”. I was one of the graduates who did internship in Nigeria with NO PAY at all. Now, even most influencers are advising immigrants to do internships and volunteering while studying for their masters. I’m not saying Nigeria is not sweet to spend your money, I’m only saying, it was easier because she’s now a citizen, her husband was making a huge amount (being in the army), they could afford some of the best schools in Nigeria, so why not. Those living now have experienced Nigeria the hard way and have more information now to make the most of their lives abroad

Tochiiiiiii What I gathered from this conversation, Ada has had someof her life boxes ticketed. Those children being mentally prepared, I would say they will understand more when they hit 30 years (I believe that's the age of maturity) Please whoever is listening to this don't be discouraged if you have migrated to the UK for a better life... light is at the end of the tunnel.

Ada is on a long vacation in Nigeria.

See Ada's face is so stress free , abeg enjoy yourself. I have started plans on building my californian style ranch in Nigeria 🇳🇬 😋 to retire to. Nor be me , go dey hustle for cold for old age.

If you’ve spent time abroad, you will understand all that Ada is saying! Not all that glitters is gold. After all, if your purpose and calling is not accomplished, no matter where you go outside Nigeria, you will never get fulfillment. Keep a positive mind like Ada. Everything she said is absolutely right. I’ve only been in the US for 6 years, and work well, but I completely resonate with her. Bless you, Ada. I hope you get fulfillment in all you do. Congratulations Ada.