No Child Should Ever Grieve Alone | Carly Woythaler-Runestad | TEDxLincoln

Thank you for this talk. I'm a primary school teacher and one of my children has just lost his father, suddenly and unexpectedly. I am resourcing a number of sources to help me understand how best to support him. This talk has really helped.

I lost my dad when I was 4, in 1981 he had a massive heart attack playing football, my grief as tuck me to substance misuse, alcohol and other horrible places, today I’m 44 in my second year off a counselling degree, we never got any help back then, me and my brother who was 10, he’s 48 and still finds it hard talking about my dad. Refuses too😢. Hopefully I will be able to help kids never to feel how me and my brother did, hopefully talk about their loss, never go through what me and my brother did 🙏 this women speaks so much sense Thank you 🙏

This is powerful. I am currently doing research in this area, so I have gone through a lot of In depth journals and other research studies. This clip made me weep, because everything she mentions has a lot of truth in it. Of course we all go through grief in some sort of way, but Childhood bereavement is something that shouldn't be ignored and should always be taken into account; instead of thinking those children/young people will get over it, or 'they are too young to understand'. Bereavement that is experienced earlier on in life, can shape a child's mind, and heart in both positive and negative ways. It's sad. Again, a powerful and brilliant talk.

I couldn't agree more with this talk. I've been studying buddhist philosophy and felt very uneasy with the idea of "letting go" of loved ones. I think it's good to recover from grief, but why should we need to let go of that relationship? It's possible to move on from a death, while still remembering everything they meant to us and being able to be happy again.

When I grew up these resources weren't there. No one talked about it. Now schools have access to grief councilors who are available to talk not just with the child, but advise the teachers and sometimes talk to the students. One of the problems with the loss of a child is it can trigger suicide with other students. This is something that must be taken very seriously even at an early age.

i find it so hard. first you are left alone as kind. and when you have Trauma symptoms when you are grown up you are left alone again as you are grown up and not supposed to have problems then you start to accuse yourself for being not adequate

I just read A beautifully written book that helps children deal with loss. It's called I will always love you by Melissa Lyons. It is actually comforting for both children and adults.

This made me think about my own mortality, and about teaching kids I don't even have yet.

Really, when my mother dies I probably won't be able to live any more. When I think about when the time comes for my nan or parents, I cry. I'm crying while writing.

I'm really feeling very guilty here. I lost my husband and I feel now that because of my grief and trying to think of how I was going to take care of our only child who was a very young adolescent, I didn't really discuss the death with her. It's been over 30 yrs but I do see some anger issues and don't seem to know how to talk with her, she is and has always been very strong willed. She is the most precious gift from God in my life 💕

stage 4 pancreatic cancer there’s no getting better nobody has ever gotten stage 4 pancreatic and not died because of a reason of the cancer the average life expectancy is 6 months for me my dad he responded so well to the cemo like it was a miracle until to well and it kilt of of the cancer in his liver and he died because from internally bleeding and his organs were failing and his liver failed and there was acid in his heart and his heart couldn’t work properly and stopped beeping at the hospital my dad was stage 4 pancreatic cancer and stage 4 means it’s everywhere there is no sergery it’s everywhere I remember when he died 3 years ago when I was 11 and I didn’t understand anything and I just sat in my room in the corner crying hours every day all I understood was daddy is gone and not coming back and those words I’m so sorry for your loss they don’t do anything they don’t matter to me unless it brings my dad back and I remember not knowing what to tell people where I was for 1 week and a half of school after that my mom forced me back to school and cemo was horrible watching my dad through up

Thank you so much for sharing

my children lost their father on 1-16-16. great insight on children grief.

No child should but so many have...I hope research changes that and if they do have to grieve its in a place where they are loved and safe not exploited

My daughter’s dad died May 21,2018. Wish I had seen this.

How do you allow yourself to cry and be upset and not push your feelings away

how and I meant to cope

I have just lost my granddad today and I think its my fault

my suddenly blocked me out just because I was in grief and shut me down and when I try to make friends they make fun of me

when Alan Rickman died I lost it. I was only 12 but I blocked out the world and cut myself. I got into fights and cried all the time. my friends and even a few of my teachers watched these videos just for me. they, no, you helped turn my life around. thank you for addressing this serious problem.