Abandon Narcissist's "Inner Child" Before it KILLS YOU! (Developmental Delay, Age, Amnesia)

Frightening as very few people can turn their backs on a 'child'

It grows old after time, because they only care about their own needs loke a real child. You can't have a relationship with a child. He wanted to be looked after, have his own way, be adored and cuddled. I felt like a mother for a long time before I worked out what he was doing, and he withdrew any partner intimacy.

My ex husband’s voice changed all the time. I knew when he had his child voice I had to end the conversation while he was in this submissive state. I even pointed his voice change out to him multiple times and his response was always “what do you mean” in an even younger tone. It did not make me want to coddle him. Instead I felt very uncomfortable as an adult trying to get a toddler to be an adult. That would be inappropriate and so I would just stop and handle the adult situation or need on my own.

I am 100% onboard with this analysis. My father was a narcissist and I have dated 4 narcissistic men as I felt I could help them, wanted to make things better for them. At 50yo now I have spent my romantic life with only these people at a gigantic cost to myself. I am in healing now. The last guy was a 50yo child. He never grew up, was angry, jealous, paranoid and contemptuous of everything. Being close to him I felt the void so clearly as like a black hole he gave off no energy. The relationship was was pure torture in it's clearest form and it made me say. No more. This is destroying me. 2 years out tomorrow and I am thriving in my goals and healing my own wounds. Narcs are dangerous, they should come with labels saying they are poisonous. I felt nothing coming from the narcissist and didn't know why. Now I know. Thank you.

Dear professor Vaknin, I don’t know how to thank you about this video and the way you explained one of the most difficult parts after I broke up with a narcissist… it was horrible to feel that I abandoned a damaged child. Your contribution to understand the deepest aspect of this relationship is enormous! After three years I have broken up and I am still single I feel I have still post traumatic things and I have still connection with the shared fantasy…. I have worked a lot but I find layers and layers during my therapeutic process. You are a unique specialist please continue to educate us!! thank you thank you

mantra for protection : there´s nobody, but a hologramm on top of eternal emptyness/ empty nest

Emotional 10 year old. I want a relationship with a grown up that knows their own mind and can share who they actually are, not some mask. It's been fake everything for 2 years.

It was your video that opened my eyes in 2013. I started making plans to escape my 30 year marriage. I was wise enough to do it in the down low .The universe had mercy on me when your video popped up out of nowhere! to show me the truth. Before that I had no clue . Knowledge is power

Wow! This video is a real eye opener! It explains my unhealthy mommy role with my narcissistic husband of 30 years. And, the guilt I feel when I think of leaving him.

This title hit so close to home. I was clinging to my ex, ignoring my mental health completely just to avoid hurting her

My mother did that to me every time I was leaving she started to be helpless she shapeshifting nonstop .

🎉 Congratulations Sam. I could not think of a more deserving Specialist as you. I have never known anybody who has the fountain of information that you possess and the accuracy of which you deliver it. I am much more enlightened because of it.

There are a lot of Channels about Narcissism but Mr. Vaknin is number one! Mr. Vaknin goes in depth on why they behave the way they do! Amazing work! 👏🏻

Leave the narcissist to their fate. Nobody would come to save you as an adult... give them the same indifference. They will destroy you. Then leave you once you no longer have anything to feed off of.

There is nobody there. (No access to positive emotions. Only destructive defenses.) Lovely, is how you provide clarity to the narcissists’ delusion, who works to get you to buy in to their “mutual” fantasy. Thank you, for lighting up this mine field. Peter Pan never grows up, dead inside. Flee. Look forward and flee, never looking back. Love to you, very good sir. With gratitude. I can confidently say that you have made my day❤

Thank you Sam for helping me understand the needy broken child in my sister. It gets to the point where it is not about saving the shared fantasy but saving yourself.

WOW, this gets rid of the "smoke and mirrors" confusion very quickly ... thank you Prof for your clear explanation of this subject matter !!

Leaving the narcissist was heart wrenching. He seems so fragile. I struggle with the guilt sometimes. I’m a mother so I definitely felt pain walking away.He would have shattered my soul

I did feel like that for months... i still have misery understanding there was nobody there. I felt utterly alone with her but I will try to rewatch your videos

I have memory loss after being with my ex boyfriend. The other time this happened to me is in my childhood in which there was violence and neglect. I am seeing a therapist but Professor Vaknin has been key to understanding this. Professor, these lectures you offer are invaluable. Thank you.