what do I find Attractive in a partner?

It's a weird thing for people to be critical of your qualifications. They're YOURS. I'm pretty sure they're upset that you're not describing them, that you're not going to choose them. You have every right to be picky, and not just because of situations that affected you. Not everyone deserves your energy. Simple as that.

Thanks for the video. Kindness can be pretty magical, especially when paired with consistency: When they're the one you want to lean on when you're having a bad day, then you have something good.

You have a very beutiful face. Don't settle for less then what you deserve! Don't let anyone treat you like shit. You have it all, brains and beauty.

Agree with everything you said. I'm exactly the same way. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who isn't all the things you mentioned.

Straight forward.

Yeah well said! I hope you find a good solid nice understanding guy. I've been following you for years on social media and you're always really nice.

You do what you have to do. Many people have those attributes. Like me 😅

Great video as always Alex! You always grab my attention the second I see your smiling face when I click on YouTube. I always find your comments to public quite entertaining! I've always been told that I was too picky when it came to the girls that I wanted to be in a relationship with. I always said what's picky about wanting someone that I really like and not having to keep playing the guessing game on the things I do or don't like. There is nothing wrong with finding certain qualities that you really care about, because I don't see you talking yourself into liking someone new? Either way don't jump straight into anything! You just stay good Ole Alex Coal and let the rest adjust to your own needs. Stay Awesome Alex Coal 😎

It’s right to be picky. Don’t settle. Being single isn’t bad at all until you find the right partner for you. And if you never find the right partner then it wasn’t meant to be. You are an amazing person Alex and you deserve someone that will fulfill your life. And that someone will definitely have someone in you that will be fulfilling as well. I definitely don’t think you are being unreasonable. Whomever said that about being kind is ridiculous. Being kind is honestly the bare minimum. It takes nothing to be kind. A woman like you should make someone want to be better. If not then that person is already a lost cause.

Anyone who listens to and respects the greatness of the band, Rush, is attractive in my opinion and is someone you can trust.

Alex , I think this video is amazing , as are all of your videos ( in my opinion ) because you're A REAL WOMAN with REAL EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS and you seem to be transparent and extremely intelligent when it comes to life in general and that's extremely appealing! Is there a place that you and I can communicate to find out more about each other? I hope that's a possibility! Please let me know! Always stay positive and TRUE to what you BELIEVE IN! ❤

Bravo. Everything you said are the principles my wife and I live by.

It's right to be picky. You should only have a partner who you are happy with. Kindness is non negotiable as a person as is honesty

That sounds so frustrating. Because first of all, everything you listed really should be the bare minimum. It worries me a little that these people see this and get offended like you're asking for some unachievable goal. But secondly, more power to you. I totally vibe with the you'd rather be alone than with somebody that you don't fully care about. I'm the same way so I totally get where you're coming from. I think these dudes get angry because they're like, "Oh man I totally would have had a shot with her but she wants a kind person. Who the fuck is kind?!" Like, my guy, work on your empathy skills before imagining you ever had a shot

It's sad how so many people see an attractive woman, and the first thing on their mind is relationship or sex -oriented. I think that the fact that you're a pornstar might mean that a lot of your followers expect you to be their imagined sex-partner or girlfriend because that is how they approach your films. They want the dreamt-up sex story in their heads, not a real person. If you haven't seen it, I love the movie Ruby Sparks! An author dreams up this girl and she becomes real, but then when she starts turning truly human he tries to change her and it just pulls things into catastrophe. It makes a good statement about these things. You sound like an amazing human being, and it's refreshing to see the mind behind the performer, and how smart and kind you are. Thanks for posting!

I think if folks are getting upset over something like this, it’s more a reflection of where they’re at with these things. But also, it could be some people thrive off of conflict and create it when it really isn’t necessary Keep doin you, keep duckin the haters and bungholio’s. You don’t owe these comments/commenters anything, especially your peace of mind

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You know right away ,,,it’s that initial connection and sense of instant comfort with each other and you both being your true self ,,,it’s rare…but it’s there. You’re allowed to be picky, find and get what you want, with no compromise,,no need to settle with anything but what you want, what you need,, most of all,, whee what you deserve…it’s great to hear you’re being picky ,, good luck.. 🙏🤗

Wait, wait, waaaiiiit a minute... "Being kind" is a negative attribute to this other guy? How difficult is it to be kind? One thing I started back in the hot pandemic years ('20/'21) was to wish every service person I had contact with (bank teller, food server, store clerk, etc.) not only a simple & genuine "thank you", but also a wish to "stay safe!" I very much doubt that has diminished me in any way, and hopefully, somewhere, maybe it brightened up someone's day. Goodness knows we have too many "Karens" complaining about nit-picky things... I just feel gratitude, or as Alex states it as kindness, goes a long way with our fellow humans (and for that matter, our Feline Overlords!! 🤣 All hail the cats!!) Good on you, Alex, for being willing to know the type of partner you want, and willing to not compromise. Have a nice day!!

>I'm attracted to kindness >All my ex's have been unkind to me and people around me. 🤣