How To Talk To Anyone | small talk, social anxiety, conversation tips!

my problem with "saying whatever comes to mind" is the fact that my mind goes completely blank during conversation 😭😭

honestly the greatest thing that helped me with my social anxiety was learning to love people and be interested in them instead of seeing them as threats or someone that I need to impress. I used to overthink conversations and be scared of staying one on one with someone but ever since I genuinely took an interest in everyone around me I've been having the best time!

My main revelation regarding social anxiety which I learned in therapy was to go into social situations reminding myself that my worth as a person does not depend on someone else’s opinion of me. This is such a freeing thought because it releases you from the pressure to “perform” as you also mentioned. Even if a conversation didn’t go as planned or the person you are interacting with does not seem so interested or even bored, that doesn’t change your value as a person. No one is gonna go through life having amazing interactions 100% of the time, so allow yourself to talk freely and how you intuitively feel comfortable and if the other person doesn’t vibe with that, move on to someone else. At the end of the day, you are still worthy and loved ❤️

my favorite go-to question is to ask someone “what are you thinking about right now?” it’s a great open ended question that helps the other person realize that you are interested in hearing what is literally on their mind. another tip is that i truly believe that all people have at least 2 topics they cannot shut up about. so i always make it my mission to discover what one of those two topics are. this really helps me keep the convo going!

Guys. I DID IT. It took years of work but I did it. I no longer feel anxious every time I have to be alone in a room with someone. I can hold a conversation with almost anyone. I even have a gf now and I’ve never been so happy Update: she cheated on me 🙃 Update again: I’m pushing thru this hard time and I’m gonna come out of this a bigger person 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻 UPDATE AGAIN: i Met another girl. Her name is Kira. She’s gorgeous and she makes me really nervous. I kinda like the feeling tho because im not used to feeling nervous around ppl anymore but there’s something abt her that makes me so fucking anxious. Dw tho she’ll be my gf by the start of this summer 💪🏻💪🏻.

I have both social anxiety and autism, so talking to anyone is an uphill battle. I decided today that I'm sick of being awkward and lonely: I'm going to get better at talking to people even if it kills me. Thank you so much for the video <3

Small Talk is important to help people warm up and assess compatibility: 1. Ask Questions, 2. Determine topics that spark enthusiasm, 3. Actively listen to the conversation - How to win friends and influence people x Dale Carnegie, 4. Be honest and sincere about emotions and feelings.

While I plan to put into practice and embrace every point in this video, I would also like to add that you don’t have to have anything in common with someone to socialize comfortably with them. You could focus on differences rather than scouring for shared commonalities. Being interested in how someone is different from you also adds many layers to conversations. It helps you learn about something you never knew of or never experienced and helps you get first hand account of new experiences. Isn’t that beautiful? So don’t be afraid to interact with people whom you perceive as different form you. There is always a new world to be discovered.

The fact that I’m watching so many videos to get the courage to talk to 1 singular person 😭

Ice breaker: “If you were to be thrown in jail, what would your closest friends or family assume you did?” I ask this question when I can feel that the vibe is right - light, funny, overall relaxed maybe. I picked this up from one of my sisters, one of the most outgoing people I’ve ever known, and honestly it works every time

I liked the segment about “being interested is interesting” because active listening is SO important to making people feel validated! I am currently dealing with someone (a family member) in my life who is a narcissist and all of our interactions are her taking advantage of the fact that I love listening to people and making them feel heard. 100% of the convo is her monologuing about herself, me asking her follow-up questions/relating it back to my life, but her never reciprocating asking me follow-up questions - she just continues to talk about herself. Currently we are both pregnant and the opportunities to converse/relate to each other are endless but she just doesn’t care. Id love to see a future video on tips for dealing with people like that, or at least how to handle one-sided conversations.

Usually such a silent watcher but this topic is so so underrated and I'm ALL for this series. Please do more if you can Jenn! I love hearing you break things down and make it so easy to listen to and still seamlessly making so much sense.

Thanks for sharing，i learned a lot: 1. have a small talk 2. ask questions （tips：find sth in common ） 3. find a topic that sparks enthusiasms 4. be intersted to be intesting 5. deal with awkward pauses with share your feelings sincerely or talk about enviroment 6. no one remember what you said,they just remember how they feel（energy、vibe、tone）

This came at the right moment.. right when I was feeling horrible about my social anxiety. Thank you so much Jenn!! 💓💓💓

I’m a flight attendant, so I meet new people all the time and have had my fair share of small talk! I love asking my coworkers what they did before flying when we’re cheek to cheek in the jump seat 😂 Then I’ll ask them what made the switch into the aviation industry! And just in general, I like asking people what they do, how they got into it, if they like what they do, what their job title entails, and so on!

I personally think keeping expectations low is important - you don’t have to imagine the interaction. How’s your life going? Anything stand out in your life recently? Has there been anything that’s made you smile? You have any plans or goals that you’re working on? Just simple questions that spark conversation :)

Watching this really made me appreciate Jenn's mind and way of talking. Not only is she teaching you how to talk to anyone, she's talking to all of us ANYONE but doing it so wisely and entertaining! Love the video

My favorite questions to ask people I’m meeting revolve around food. What is something good you ate recently or what is your favorite dessert? Almost everyone eats and this has been a great jumping off point that has led to some wholesome conversations.

I needed to hear this. Social anxiety does not have to be the enemy. But navigating its rough waters is where strategy is necessary! I admire your vulnerability ❤❤

Some of my ice-breaker questions <3 1. how was your week? 2. what are you up to at the weekend? 3. what are you working on at the moment? recently, i've been meeting more people and have struggled with extending the time spent on small talk. but what Jenn said is right, you can try to latch on to something they'd said and find something in common or probe more or just make a comment or share something somewhat relevant to that <3