Why Did He Stop Chasing You? | Matthew Hussey

I was broken and someone else who was also broken approached me. We became friends and shared all our fears, our feelings, our deepest thoughts and insecurities. We’ve healed and grown by supporting one another, and we’ve been together eight years.

EDIT: Valentine's Day 2024, he said he's preparing to marry me. I get to look at rings now 🤭 Thank you, Matt, for everything. Thank you to everyone who was supportive in the comments. Solutions: 1. It totally makes sense that you’re into me 😉 I know my strengths: flirty, confident, cute, funny, wholesome. 2. I’m not afraid of you hurting me because I have confidence in my coping if you do, and I have the power to hurt you too. So let’s not hurt each other. 3. Here’s what I love about my body. I’m going to focus on accentuating what I have: I’m fit.

to put it simple: BE CONFIDENT, BE INDEPENDENT, HAVE SELF-ESTEEM

Why can't we just be ourselves ...I think broken people are the most beautiful ones

Mistake #1 Showing that we are surprised someone is into us 1:36 #2 Telling someone you're afraid they're going to hurt you 2:42 #3 Talking about parts of yourself you don't like 4:13

The bottom line is: In order for someone to love you for you, You MUST love yourself first !

Man. That number 1 reason hits hard. Having low self-esteem is a real killer. Glad that I've started to see my worth for a relationship.

This is too good. I've done several of these thinking I was being "transparent"

"Someone accepting us, is not the same as someone desiring us." Mic drop, jaw drop, wow!

When you really fall for someone you eventually end up doing all these 3 things the point is who stays with you after you tell them these 3 things !

I have sort of aged out of the dating pool (I’m 70) and I have a fun, wonderful and fulfilling life, loads of male and female friends, volunteer work, family. So my ‘date-dar’ is certainly not on full scope. An older man sat next to me at a concert, and our two groups were bantering. I realized we were kind of flirting, and I asked him if he WAS flirting, and he just smiled and said he was! Sha! I was so flattered/amazed, and he said it was hard to find interesting women to chat with. We met for coffee a couple of times, and I found out he is 52. When I told him how old I am, he refused to believe it until I showed him my ID. Pretty funny. I said the Joan Collins line when he asked if I’d have a problem dating someone 20 years younger, “If you die, you die!” Life is where you find it! Never give up!🥰😊

Don't ever be afraid to show who you really are, because as long as you are happy with yourself, no one else's opinion matters.

1:31 Showing we are suprised someone is into us 2:38 Telling someone youre afraid they are going to hurt you 4:12 Talking about parts of yourself you don't like

The person I fell for pointed out things she didn’t like about herself, even told me she’d lost her self-worth, but I didn’t see what she saw. I saw a lovely, wonderful, strong, beautiful woman. We’ve never been together and never will be (not because of this), but I really hope she will rediscover the value she’s lost (in her mind) throughout her life. If only she could see what I see when I look at her, that’d be awesome for her. Hopefully someone else can make her see.

I'm 64 yrs old and have no interest in ever dating again but I am mesmerized by your videos. You explain the psychology of it all so well and it is fascinating.

#3 - Have to add : "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Just because you think it's ugly, maybe the other one thinks it your most attractive feature...

That going to the movie analogy was phenomenal.

Negative self-talk is a very tough habit to break. It can take as much conscious and consistent, moment-to-moment action of reversal and elimination as breaking an addiction.

Confidence is the sexiest thing. Not cockiness, confidence that stems from a calm, stable place of high self-esteem and knowing who you are and what you deserve because you recognise your own value - THAT is so goddamn attractive and magnetic! Confidence and humility 👏🏼👏🏼

Great points. Another consequence of this behavior that the video doesn’t address is that it over burdens the other person with the obligation to shore up your insecurities by constantly offering compliments or reassurances, which leaves their own emotional needs neglected. Everyone feels insecure, unsure, and vulnerable at the beginning of a relationship. If one person is constantly expressing doubts about themselves, it drains the other person emotionally and makes them think the insecure party is incapable of supporting them when they need it.