Overcoming miscarriage, infertility & near-death experiences w/ Ashley & Mike Lemieux | Ep. 32

Unplanned podcast is the first podcast where you’ll post with a couple i’m completely unfamiliar with and still click right away because i actually want to learn about your guests, and i know it’s gonna be good regardless

“All I wanted was Jayce” broke me. We often focus on mommas, but dads hurt just as much.

I had my first ultrasound yesterday. Found out I'm pregnant with twins.... followed almost immediately with "I'm sorry, neither of them have a heartbeat..." I had no idea miscarriage could hurt this much. As I type this my precious babies are lifeless inside me. My body hasn't realized they're gone. I just have to wait for them to pass. This is one of the hardest things I've ever been through.

After 4 miscarriages and 5 years of infertility, this episode was so healing to listen to. Thank you Matt and Abby for your sensitivity and thoughtfulness. Thank you Mike and Ashley for sharing your story with so much grace and wisdom ❤

For someone who just had a miscarriage 8 weeks ago this was a really good episode. That was our first pregnancy. We went in one day and it was strong and healthy heartbeat then 2 days later they found the baby but no heartbeat. Thank you for sharing and thank you Matt and Abby for making it a safe space. The world doesn’t talk about miscarriage enough and it is so sad how common it is. Still going through grief but we did name it as that helped with the grief. I am a mom to an Angel baby. I still don’t know how to answer “How many kids do you have?” Like I have one in heaven. One day God will provide us with a rainbow baby. Love this podcast so much and this one I could relate to ❤

Wow, such a good interview. I found out I was pregnant. It was a surprise so I was so nervous to become a mom. I hit my 4 month pregnancy mark and I woke up one morning and I was extremely short of breath. I couldn’t say 1 word word w/o gasping for air. My mom rushed me into the hospital and they ran a bunch of test and found out I had a pulmonary embolism. Which is a blood clot in my lung. I almost died. It was so scary. The test they needed to do were risky on my pregnancy so they wanted to check on the baby. Turns out I was carrying conjoined twins. They were connected at the thorax. Sharing a heart and one baby has no brain activity. My blood issue was getting worse and they were worried for me to go full term due to the life chances of the babies and my life. They ended up having to do a dnc. It was so hard for me. Now I can never have kids due to my blood condition it’s too risky for me. I love kids. I always dreamed of having my own. I just think my journey will be a little different than most. And that’s ok.

I'm normally a silent viewer/listener but I just wanted to let you guys know I was deeply affected by this episode - I'm so sorry that Ashley & Mike lost Jayce and how it all happened. That whole situation had to be so difficult. Props for Abbey & Matt too for making this interview such a safe space! Big hug!

I have such a hard time with this. I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby so when people ask "Is this your second?" I always answer "This is technically my third but it's my second live birth". I just don't feel okay with not mentioning my second baby.

As someone who also had a miscarriage alone in a hospital during Covid I felt not so alone after hearing your guys story and it was for sure healing for me. Thank you for sharing ❤

My husband and I got married this year and pregnant on our honeymoon and sadly also miscarried. We got pregnant immediately after and listening to this was so validating. The grief, anger, confusion, depression, the anxiety of pregnancy after loss and the desire to honor the first baby in a world of people who just don’t understand. Currently 15 weeks pregnant today and every day is a challenge like she said. So happy to hear their happy ending and praying we get one too. Thank you for this episode.

Oh my god. Ashley saying “future you will thank yourself for doing the hard stuff now so that you can be happy later” hit my soul and I didn’t even know I needed to hear that. ❤❤❤❤❤

When Ashley was validating Abby... I literally cried how nice of this woman's inclusivity

Immediately I felt so understood when she said that she doesn’t know how to answer “how many kids do you have?”. We lost my 6-year-old nephew in 2020 and it’s been hard when people ask my family and I questions about my sister’s children regarding how many kids she has or what are her kids names. My sister, mom, and myself didn’t know how to answer that. Because to say “4” would raise questions when only 3 were still present… but to say “3” seemed as if we were denying Trayton and his memory. Three years later, we still struggle with that.

Love you guys! I have had 1 stillborn 2 miscarriages and 2 sons passed away at 20 yrs old and one at 24!! Loss is so horrible and grief is overwhelming!! Sending positive vibes and lots of thanks for bringing up the hard stuff

As someone who has had two miscarriages and is now 26 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby, I love how open she was about the experience because before I had my first miscarriage I had no idea it was such a common thing. And the anxiety that comes with being pregnant again after loss is so valid 😅

Wow I really felt that "I'm mother to more" when answering how many kid you have

When Mike said that there was no point in eating or having a house bc all he wanted was jayce…my heart broke. I completely relate to this feeling and feel so sorry for anyone who goes through it. Thank you for sharing such hard experiences and emotions. Such an amazing podcast with real people and real topics

As a mom who lost her son at 23+1 weeks this August, this was hard to listen and also so healing to hear.😢❤

I found Matt to be talking over/interrupting their guests more often on this podcast than previous. When you ask questions that are likely to receive an emotionally charged response it is helpful to let them speak and then allow a moment of pause so you can best determine if they are finished with their thought (they may be collecting themselves emotionally as they continue their story) before interjecting the next question. As a listener it is easier to hear everyone’s POV when one person is speaking at a time. Keep up the great work, I enjoy your interviews!

Loved Mike’s giant wave analogy and how it eventually stilled, brought you to a different place, and found peace. This episode is so touching. Thank you Mike and Ashley