The Dark Side of Helping Others | 13 Surprising Ways It Can Harm You | Buddhist Zen Story

Timestamps: 00:00✅Introductory quote of Gautama Buddha 01:06✅[Number 1: The Martyr Syndrome] 03:01✅[Number 2: Dependency Issues] 05:08✅[Number 3: Emotional Drain] 07:21✅[Number 4: Enabling Destructive Behavior] 09:14✅[Number 5: Loss of Identity] 11:27✅[Number 6: Financial Strain] 13:33✅[Number 7: Neglecting Personal Needs] 15:47✅[Number 8: Resentment and Bitterness] 18:12✅[Number 9: Impact on Relationships] 20:39✅[Number 10: Compassion Fatigue] 23:12✅[Number 11: Unrealistic Expectations] 25:31✅[Number 12: Self-Neglect] 27:35✅[Number 13: Overlooking Red Flags] 30:15✅Conclusion

I found this channel a little late. 20yrs I have been working hard for my family and relatives.. Now every one is well settled and I am left out all alone with nothing. I am working on myself and my business. Thank you God for all the life lessons😌🙏🙏

I had learned these lessons once I understood that I was brought up to be a people pleaser. Now I prioritize me. There’s no other way.

Never pour from an empty cup. Make sure your cup is full first, whatever overflows, that you can donate to others. Your life is precious. You were not born to sacrifice your life for another to thrive.

I couldn't agree more. Never again will I put others ' needs before mine. I was drained financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. I can't rely on people whom I had helped. They never learned from our past, instead kept doing same thing over and over. 😢

This is a very valuable advice. I wish I had heard this 50 years ago. I have sacrificed my own life and that of my family by overhelping others and neglecting my own family. I am going to change my way of thinking and acting. Thank you for opening my eyes and mind to the realities of life.

There is no greater joy than the feeling I get helping people in need without expecting any praise or anything in return. The more I have given, the more I have been blessed.

I wish I had learned these lessons a long time ago. I’m finally saving myself; at 49! There are people in this world whose sole objective is to be parasitic. They see others like myself as a host to prey on. I hope this video goes viral.

Very true, it happened to me, between a demanding boss and an ungrateful partner. Protect yourself, learn to say NO.

This is such important advice. I looked after my mother from the age of twelve, looked after brothers and sister, now have a husband to care for 24/7 and couldn't work out why I felt depressed. I felt lost and exhausted until I realised I needed to look after ME.

The more I give, the more I receive. Thank you God for 😮your blessings on me.

If u can, help others... hidden luck will come to u. U think nobody knows your kindness.. but the truth is the universe knows your kindness and give it back to u using the same ways that u expect or different ways that u never expect

Here in the west unfortunately people see kindness as weakness

Helping others constantly (specially economically) gets you their hatred because your help is telling them in a masked way “you can’t, you’re useless, you are hopeless”. Period.

I think the darkest side of helping others is when we do so in order to gain some kind of egoistic value for ourselves, especially when we don't realize we're doing it for that reason.

So valuable message that the sufferer only can understand. I did almost everything for my brothers and sisters for last more than 30 years , now they do all conspiracies against me as I am not able to support them anymore.

We still need to help each other we just need to take care of yourself more

Damn nothing but the honest truth I spent my entire life helping others,sending money to people, buying stuff including air tickets 🎫 to family members etc. Until one day,I realized that there was no water in my house and I can no longer use my bathroom and no body cared because all they needed is financial support. And when I decided to say enough is enough,I became the greatest enemy of the people including my own family members no one talks to me anymore and no one calls me or sends messages just to find out how I’m doing. Thank you for this information I rather stick to my grounds and say no.

went from helping my dad who passed last year from Parkinson’s/dementia for 7 years while working construction was A LOT. I am still tired .I had NO help from anybody. “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” more like “what doesn’t kill you depletes ur brain of every chemical it needs to function properly. God Bless anyone going through this I pray for you I really do and send nothing but positive vibes✌🏼✨✨✨🌍👁️🙏 LOVE

Read many years ago to never interfere with another person´s karma, has not forgotten.