How I survived middle school mean girls

i wish we were friends in 6th grade bc 6th grade me wouldve ABSOLUTELY thrown hands oh my god ??
middle schoolers are the worst im so sorry (and it looks like the teachers arent any better)

This “just ignore it” stuff also primes little girls for assault. It’s literally the same arguments. Got assaulted? What were you wearing? Getting bullied? What are you wearing? “Just tell them no!” Same thing there. Surely it’s something YOU’RE doing.

I’m telling ya, we get girls convinced their suffering is their fault REAL early.

I really hate how much we've stigmatized "snitching". People make it seem like a bad thing to speak out against something that's wrong.

"Just ignore it" was the worst advice I got as a kid. That didn't result into the bullies getting bored, like the adults claimed, but the bullies getting more creative and also more aggressive. The attacks got worse because when "you don't achieve something in the first try, you try something else", right?
To this day I don't know what I would say to my younger self. I have no advice because I still have no clue what would have stopped this nightmare. But what I learned is: "don't believe them. YOU are NOT the problem. And even when it doesn't feel like it now, but things will change. Keep your kindness, because some day there will be people who appreciate you for this " and at least for me, when school was over, this nightmare was over too.

this whole video got my blood BOILING 😤😤 LEMME GRAB MY GAT

There is a woman who once told her friend “don’t let your hurt childhood self make your grown up decisions”. And those are words to live by

Bullies: Exist
Teacher: I’m a pretend I didn’t see that
Victim: Rightfully defends self
Teacher: Now you have officially carried it too far buddy

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As a teaching assistant, I’d never tell a kid “just ignore it”. I always tell bullies to stop what they’re doing and if they chose not to stop, I’d send them to the office.

“Just ignore it” makes my blood boil.
I’ve been told that so many times, even with physical bullying.

“Stop bullying your friends and apologise.”

And that was when she yoinked the final straw.

Adults at school : tell me if you get bullied
Also Adults : TATTLETALE , STITCH

Back in school I was bullied relentlessly for my red hair. Nobody will read this or care because I've said this on several places without an audience, as though they know and feel guilty or hear these things and think it was fine. The anti ginger thing became an international issue so I wasn't an odd stick in the pile for this one. There was a red haired solidarity happening, so these shared experiences led to lasting friendships. Some of the stuff that happened would get people in prison. I was thrown in to a fire, lit on fire, beaten at the back of the school and had my stuff taken, had my clothes torn off me to see if the curtains matched the carpet, secsually assaulted, pushed down stairs, smashed in to poles for no reason other than people thought I was subhuman and my existence was an offence to them. Each year there was this Kick a Ginger Day and EVERYONE GOT IN ON IT. The news asked if it was okay to violently target a group of people for their physical differences **as though that hasn't been a topic of contention in the world for the last two centuries**. The teachers told me it was my fault for having red hair and the internet told me it was fine because I was a white dude so it wasn't the same thing and it was funny and - oh look, this isolated red haired kid also thinks it's funny so that must be the universal truth among all red haired people. Why should the world act like it matters when the less than 1% of the population that has red hair has a grievance against the vast majority of people that don't and ensure that all red haired people are violently reminded of that because of a solid episode of South Park where the CREATORS DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGISE FOR WHAT THEY DID even knowing what it did to the world? The advice was to just let it happen because it's funny to everyone else, and the way I felt about it didn't matter at all because I didn't fit the demographic of an affected target. Oh, and people say that red haired girls are hot and that means my experiences don't matter because all that talk about anti ginger rhetoric wasn't actually about red haired people because the red haired girls being objectified for their physical differences was somehow meaningful to invalidating the topic.

Some of those teachers laughed at me while they watched these things happen. There were some teachers I was on good terms with, but others took that unnecessary cruelty all the way to their position as individuals who are meant to be the responsible party among children in a societal microcosm. The times I fought back meant I was the one to get in to trouble but in my case, the bullying never stopped, as the other kids were bigger and stronger so my little munchkin fists never made a lasting impact. Muscle development was a rich kid thing, so I never had that opportunity to defend myself properly and make a lasting impact on the people that hurt me.


Do you want to know why it all stopped? Some kid in the States was hospitalised by his bullies and took them to court for hate crimes and won. Which means the ONLY reason it stopped wasn't because people wanted to be compassionate. It was because nobody wanted to be known to have commenced or conducted a hate crime. It was more important to look accepting than it was to be accepting and that still annoys me to this day, and nobody wants to remember that part of recent history because it was a grim reminder that the only thing keeping us from tearing each other to piecesis the threat of liability or social acceptance.

Especially when it comes to teachers, "Just ignore it" actually means, "we don't want to be bothered with your problems."

"Just ignore it." That is actually the dumbest thing a teacher could say to a student, ESPECIALLY regarding the circumstances mentioned in this video

I was bullied a lot in school but it eventually got too far. This one kid had found out about my home life and sexuality so he used it to make rude jokes about me. He would say things like “You’re gay, you’re going to hell!” Or “she doesn’t know what a mom is!”. I was really upset because it was a constant thing and I was scared that no one would believe me about it. Thankfully, the nice administrators heard me and actually did something about it. But I had always been upset about the jokes because I felt like my mother’s absence was my fault and his joking about it didn’t help, which made me dread school. It’s much better now though :). Thank you for speaking up about bullying, illy! It’s important to know and bring attention to!

“Just ignore it” makes the bullies try harder, because “if you want to achieve something, you won’t give up first try.”

Yea, if more people took responsibility for their actions everything would be so much better haha

"Oh. They threw your clothes in the urinal?" "Just ignore it." Yes. Let humanity ignore our literal DECENCY to be in public and cover ourselves to hold a standard in society be thrown in a space where people PEE. That is not only disrespectful to the victim but also disrespectful for the one saying to ignore it to be saying that because if you had YOUR clothes thrown in the urinal, how would you feel? Smh. Try to ignore it then.

i was bullied in the same age group. i ignored it, untill my buillies got physical. fortunately for me, my parents always told me that if i stood up for myself, that i wouldnt get in trouble. when my bullies got physical, i got physical back, he shoved me in PE, on a cross country run. i did the same to him. i finished the run is at full speed. when he tried to come at me again, and i used his own momentum to throw him into a wall, by basically side stepping him, and guiding him past me. school gave me saturday school, but my parents were true to their word, i didnt get in trouble from them.

This hit me hard. This was exactly my experience in middle school in the 80s, but with added physical violence. I'm angry about it to this day -- not nearly as much towards the bullies, but to the adults that let it happen. Not only would they ignore it, and tell you to, but they would penalize both the victim and perpetrator. They sent the message that authority figures were useless. The lesson I learned was that if someone hits you, forget the adults and hit back harder -- admittedly not a great takeaway, but occasionally it worked.