I Was Traumatized (My True Labor Recovery Story) || #MOMTEMBER

I'm a primary care provider, and that urgent care story was still scary to me. You are a very strong person to have gone throughout that physical/mental ordeal and still be able to share your experience!

I'm so glad you opened up about your experience. Women need so much more support after birth. I feel like people think because so many women have babies, it's not as big of a deal as it actually is. My first few days postpartum were rough, I thought I had actually injured my legs forever because they hurt so bad. The worst part for me was postpartum depression and anxiety though. I found most doctors/people in general were lacking so much compassion and empathy. Mentally, I didn't even feel better until after my son turned one.

Please see a pelvic floor therapist!!! This person can help you for all of these problems. After having a baby, your body has gone through a lot of trauma. A lot of women have these issues and have no idea this type of physical therapy exists. Please thumbs up this comment so she and other women can see this! Women’s health is important. 💕

This is why I hate the social media sometimes. There's so much emphasis on women and they're post-partum body. They're so amazed and celebrate a women for looking "amazing" and like they did before. Then there's shaming and judgement when those women's bodies don't "snap back". That's just so much pressure and unrealistic for someone who has literally just given birth. It's absolutely unfair and oppressive. While it's awesome that these celebrities have lost the weight and "snapped back" to their pre-pregnant bodies. Their jobs are to look good and they have professionals to help them in every way. I think it's great that you're talking about this because it is something that needs to be discussed. The reality of giving birth and having a baby. What your body goes through. The way society puts so much pressure on women to look great at every moment. It needs to stop. It's degrading and so shallow.

that was very heartwarming, thank you for having the courage to share!

As a medical student, I am very glad you spoke about this. Going through an pregnancy is such a complicated step in itself and to see you struggle... it's sad... I assume the doctors didn't advise or support adequately. I wish they had. I myself can learn from this. The continence is probably due to the perineal tears because they play a role in urine and bowel continence. So proud you spoke of this. Kudos to you making this video. In a way, you can look back and congratulate yourself for surviving this. Much love ❤️❤️

I'm here crying when you cried too because I went through a rough recovery after delivering my baby as well. Long story short, I took 3 hours to push my little girl out and after staying in the hospital for 3 days I went home and got a uterus infection. I had bad symptoms and wasn't able to take care of my baby girl and she was only 4 days old. I went to the ER and stayed at the hospital for another 3 days with antibiotics. When I got discharge the doctors and I thought I was alright and won't be needing any more antibiotics but a few days later I ended up going to the ER the second time. However, instead of staying at the hospital they sent me home with antibiotics. By the time things got a little better I began to notice I have postpartum depression. It's been 7 months since I had my baby and I'm still recovering from postpartum depression. I just want to thank you for sharing your story because it gives me hope that I'll be alright. 💕💕💕💕 btw where did you get your top, I love it!!

I went through the vaginal tears and pain and all that "tmi" concerns and loss of "self" after having my first child, but then after my second and now third child, the afterdelivery physical and emotional concerns become smooth sailing, "pro status" if you will. Having a baby changes EVERYTHING but the experience and afterwards is all worth it!

I'm a nurse in France and i'm so shocked ! You just stay 24 hours in maternity ? OMG. It's not enough for mothers... I think it's very sad because they don't treat their patient like human... But I'm so happy to finally see a video about the truth of giving birth. You don't hide the drawbacks of having a baby. I see with my patient. Lots of mothers don't know all this things ! I love your chanel and I love you so much ! I'm just 23, and you are my model ! <3 You are so proud and honest ! Thank you Jen to be who you are :) Bisous de France Jeanne

I'm a labor and delivery nurse and postpartum does discharge our vaginal deliveries after 24hr if there's no issues. It didn't used to be so pushy and it was more of a 24-48hr window, but with high turnover rates and more delivering mom's I think the hospital's/management pushes for that quick turn around. Urinary incontinence is common in mom's after delivery. I think it's just not something people like to openly discuss, so NO you're not alone and there's no shame. We encourage kegel exercises immediately on a regular basis to regain that pelvic floor strength. Women naturally have less control with urinating. In extreme exercise (jumping up in down/jump rope, running long distances, lifting weights even) women have commonly had small amounts of incontinence. We have short urethras and so we rely on pelvic floor muscles. I think your body image and disconnect is more to blame on the media and lack of acceptance of natural body changes/transition to motherhood. Media is all about tummy tucks and commonly for mom's. Instead of celebrating a women's body and the changes, people ask if you'll get a tummy tuck or what about the loose skin? It makes it nearly impossible for mothers to accept and just be okay with this new body. You can accept a body that's pregnant because there's positive stigma to a pregnant belly, but so much negative stigma post delivery. I've never had a child myself and seeing what women go through both scares and amazes me everyday. I think it's important for people of influence, such as yourself to share their stories because it does help other women. It's great that you advocated for yourself! Some MDs really are harsh and lack empathy for their patients pain. Sorry this is long! But I think you're beautiful and you brought a beautiful little girl into the world. Love yourself and own the fact that you performed a miracle. Your body created life and its nothing to be ashamed of.

I feel like online, pregnancy is so glorified. Not many women talk about the things you did in this video. Thank you so much for sharing! You're a strong woman :) bringing us all back to reality

This is incredibly honest and so many women feel this way. Thank you so much for sharing

My sister in law had the same urinary incontinence too. She was told it is because your bladder goes 'numb' so you can't feel when you have to pee. She set an alarm every two hours to make sure she went to the bathroom.

I'm glad to hear you talk about this even though I don't have kids or really plan to have kids. I feel like people glamorize pregnancy sometimes and don't talk about the things that happen not only physically but mentally. Hope this video helps a lot of mamas out there not feel alone with their experiences and remind them their bodies are amazing (at every stage. The before, during, and after pregnancy).

Thank you Jen for sharing this experience! You are helping so many women from this video (including myself)! One day I want to be a mother like you and this video truly helped me! I would have never known you went through this because when I saw you soon after you had your daughter for Cassey's Xmas party you looked so happy and amazing! Hope to see you soon again!! :) XOXOX

Kids have never been something i wanted but that doesn't mean I dont have empathy for what women go through during child birth. I am so so sorry that you went through such a difficult time, may god bless you and your family. Men truly have no idea what women go through during labor and post child birth. I hope you have been recovering well. 💖 I am glad you spoke up and said something when you were in pain, especially since from certain angles you cant see everything.

Girl, I totally feel you! I had a very similar situation with a rough labor and then scary blood clot/infection aftermath. Being a mama makes us strong!!! You are awesome for telling your story. ❤️

I took on a birth class for another college class and holy cow, I was trained and taught SOOO much about pregnancy. It opened my eyes on how traumatizing professionals can make the process of birthing for mothers. The US system of birthing is very unnatural, we go in during the water break, once ovulated we are forced to push and are under intense pressure to push fast. When in general, we should allow our body to slowly let the baby slide through. It's crazy how our system has it so "rushed" bc it makes mother feels very.... Alone (especially with the lack of mental support). So I'm super grateful I've had the opportunity to learn about these experience. I apologized for your horrible experience. I hope for your next baby, you seek a birth sister / Doula who mentally and physically goes through the pregnancy with you the entire time and caters to your body's need.

Nobody ever tells you this being a girl, information saves lives. Thank you for sharing. I feel high school students (boys and girls) should get this information

There's not enough follow up for mothers that just went through labour... :(