Detoxifying Masculinity Ft Rix Poet | Episode 138

One more thought I'd like to add onto this discourse: it is said that men and women have defined roles and that these roles are natural. But more often than not we don't realize all of us play the same roles in different capacities to ensure survival and joy. For example: where as we say men are providers and protectors and leaders, we view these roles mostly from a conditioned narrow point of view that these things have to look a certain way. But even as men take up these roles, women also provide and protect and lead. The majority of farmers in Africa are women. That's provision. Women giving birth; how don't we ever look at that as provision? They're ensuring that the next generation is born and our species survives. Isn't that provision? When tragedy happens and they get to congregate to organize themselves by cooking and peacemaking during conflict, isn't that leadership? When you zoom out, what's hurting us is believing that there is only a linear lens to view the gender roles that we have created on this earth. Once we start seeing our differences are only biological for most parts, and begin understanding our connections and the roles we play in them intertwine, we'll stop facing each other with these impractical expectations. A man, if he does his inner work properly, can only define masculinity for himself. He cannot define himself by copying other men's masculinities and claim to be living his life. He simply will be a copy of another man's ideas. I know our cultures encourage that. But at the bottom of things, you have to find your own path, even if you relate with others who match your energy.

This was a beautiful day of conversation. May we all continue looking into ourselves and dig dig dig, until we reach the center, where definitions unite us more than they separate us. Thank you for the invitation. It’s definitely TMI! ♥️🌻

Excuse me, sir, the tables you're shaking have expensive drinks😅. Are we ready for this conversation? I love this so much.

Someone once told me; Imagine the things you know now, you didn't know or never heard of. And you knew something totally different, how would you live your life?

The kids query, former generations could get away with "just wanting kids" and do minimal parenting. Today, kids actually need you to parent, as they are navigating a whole lot. So the question should evolve from "do you want kids" to "do you want to PARENT?" Great guest.

Favorite guest so far👌He definitely has to come back to talk more about; how knowing how to cook and clean is a basic human thing and not just something a woman has to do for a man. Also knowing how to cater for yourself(financially )is also a human thing and not something a man has to do for a woman

In all ways, I am glad I watched this. It almost feels illegal to watch for free. Gems after Gems! This was just SPECTACULAR❤

Ghaaai kwani huyu anakuanga a real person. 😮Ive always listened to his poems thinking they are written by chat gpt or something😅😅😅

This conversation is compicated as it was so focused on the negative aspects of what masculinty can be which I feel as man I can accept their some bad thing which toxic masculinity has brought but at the same masculinty for example a sense of responsibility that as he needs to be hardworking he needs put himself out there because as much as it is your own life in reality their will always be people relying on you whether that be your wife, your mum, your friends and so on. Other aspects such as a masculinty urges you to protect those around you. So in the conversation of toxic masculinty we also need to keep in mind that toxic masculinty is also an extreme of plain masculinty

I really love how diverse TMI is with their conversations. But i feel like its so difficult to see men outside of provision and financial responsibilities because they do not build other aspects of their lives that would enable to show up in a relationship without being a liability. I was listening to a certain woman who was saying that after her husband lost his job, he seemed lost because the only way he showed up for his family was by paying school fees, rent, buying food, etc. I understand that men do this because this is the version of them that is normally rewarded by the society. The value and worth of men is measured by how heavy their wallet is. So for me i think that this is a two way street, where men diversify the aspects of their life and women and society in general embrace and reward that. ❤❤❤❤ TMI

Lydia you are glowing eiiish.

Right on time🥳 Thank you TMI podcast for this! I love every bit of this discussion when Rix Poet talks, you just have to listen and your thought process provoked. I also love the openness of this conversation. I admire his courage a lot🥳

As an aunt I babysit my nephews most the time and there was a time one of them picked the broom and started sweeping and then went to the kitchen eti he’s washing the dishes. I don’t know what devil possessed me but I heard myself saying “ what are you doing in the kitchen are you are girl?” It was completely unconscious. I was even shocked I said that. To think I’ve always been a feminist and believed women are more than just cooks etc I literally indirectly insinuated that the boy shouldn’t be in the kitchen coz he’s not a woman therein women belong in the kitchen 🙊🙊🙊🤦🏽‍♀️ the programming is real🚶🏾‍♀️

It's the girlies taking deep breaths and sighing for me😅

Its really The Messy Inbetween😂, Shaken to my core, but definitely loved this conversation.

This conversation was EXACTLY what I needed to hear as a masculine, dominant woman .. thank you for giving space for gender fluidity and understanding

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This has been the most quiet TMI episode. 😂😂. Thank you… love you❤️

Jo in her British accent element: Lydia you got some notes? You got notes? Learnt a lot from this episode❤️

Why am i just seated here... really waiting and crossing my fingers for every minute Rix drops his gems so i can see the girls' reactions 😅 (their reactions are priceless) but anyway, i really enjoyed the conversation. As a young male counterpart, this was really insightful.